We had our engagement photos done about 2 months ago. The photographer we went with was my second choice because the one I really wanted got booked for our date. My mom paid for it so I didn't make fuss over anything and just went along with who she suggested. She seemed nice and her stuff was ok - not as artistic as I would have liked but not poor by any means.
So we show up to have our photos taken and I am immediatly turned off because she keeps telling me repeatedly to suck my stomach in. I let it go because I figured she wanted the pictures to look good but after the 8 or 9th time I just wanted to cry to be honest. I thought I looked cute that day...
Not only did she keep telling me to suck in my stomach, but she kept fiddling with my hair and clothes. This really would have been fine except that she kept giving me this weird look like I had picked something totally not appropriate (I had on a nice shirt and a sweater) and I felt slightly humiliated.
By the end of the shoot I was really ready to have a good cry and go home. We did not feel comfortable during the shoot and I generally felt like an improperly dressed cow.
It was worse when the photos came out. The photos were from crazy angles that looked silly and disproportionate. She had fiddled with my hair so much that the curl came out halfway through and in some pictures it looks like I have a massive cowlick from where she kept trying to toss pieces over my head(?). I'm so upset. I didn't even order any of them. My mother ordered one to put in the newspaper, God help me, but that was it.
The photographer emailed me today to talk about the ceremony and formals and got the time and location of our ceremony completely wrong. I am not very picky and have let a lot of things that I wanted for the wedding go because of cost and budget. This is the only thing that I really wanted to turn out nicely because I wanted to have some beautiful photos of us and our big day.
The engagement photos were almost 2 months ago and I can't even look at them without crying. I thought maybe I would get over it after a while but I am just as upset today as I was during the shoot. I know I won't be comfortable with her taking photos during the wedding and I have no confidence that they will turn out well....
I just don't know what to do. I know we will have to stick with her because we signed a contract but I have considered paying out of pocket for another engagement shoot with my original first-choice photographer...any thoughts? I know this was longwinded and mostly just a rant but I am still incredibly upset :-(

Re: I hate our engagement photos...
But let's ignore the rudeness for a second...you still hate the photos. If you don't like her finished products AND have negative feelings for her, having her shoot your wedding will be a disaster. It sounds like you have room in your budget to hire someone else. Do it and do not look back.
As for the current photographer, I would talk to her calmly (without tears!) about how the photos and experience did not work for you. Raspberry has some good points in #2 above.
Unfortunately it is just a one-woman business so I am not able to just request a different photographer from the same company. I wish that was the case - it would make this a lot easier! I may sit down with my mom when I see her this weekend and bounce these things off of her for her thoughts. She may not like them much either but she is a little bit prideful and would hate to admit that she hooked me up with a not-so-fantastic photographer. We will see. Hopefully we an make it work.
Some options might be to request a second shooter (which you may have to pay more for) to shoot along side your primary photographer, if you can't get out of the contract. Though I suspect you probably can get out it, but I doubt you'll get any money back.
I think you should have a candid discussion with your photog about why you are no longer interested in her services. Not only will this make you feel better because she'll know how much she upset you (assuming you can do this in a calm manner) but she'll understand why you don't want her to photograph your wedding.
I'm going to put a positive spin on this.... aren't you glad you had e photos done? Can you imagine getting the wedding photos back from this photographer? Now you have an opportunity to correct it before the big day.
Another suggestion.... I didn't end up doing this because I didn't follow through with it but... have you thought of checking craigslist for photojournalism/photography students who need to build their portfolio? I found several that were willing to travel to my wedding, take photos, and give me all rights in exchange for their plate. This could be a back up if it isn't in your budget to break your contract and find a new photographer.
Good luck! I hope everything works out.