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Bridal shower

Cera10Cera10
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Is it wrong that I only invited a feww family and friends to my shower? Now Im being questioned about why I didnt send certain cousins invites to it and its because they were pretty nasty to me when I eas younger and I never see or talk to them, now Im forced to invite them......Im just really upset about the whole thing!
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    erolliserollis member
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    Showers for some people are for the closest family and friends to the bride (and groom). Other people invite every female that is invited to the wedding to the shower.

    Are these cousins invited to the wedding? If not, then it was proper etiquette not to invite them. If they are invited to the wedding you will just have to suck it up and invite them to the shower.
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    kikibabykikibaby member
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    You really should't be doing the inviting.  BUT- yes, it's fine to only have a few guests at the shower.  If your family asks why, just say you want to keep it small/intimate.
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    kikibabykikibaby member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c00af15-b0ed-40de-b228-537747a4cbaaPost:ff222dca-0823-490a-9412-de617b9da65d">Re: Bridal shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]Showers for some people are for the closest family and friends to the bride (and groom). Other people invite every female that is invited to the wedding to the shower. Are these cousins invited to the wedding? If not, then it was proper etiquette not to invite them.<strong> If they are invited to the wedding you will just have to suck it up and invite them to the shower.</strong>
    Posted by erollis[/QUOTE]

    Not true.  You don't have to invite every female who is invited to the wedding.
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    erolliserollis member
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    I know you don't have to. If everyone is making such a big stink about invites to the shower it sounds it would just be easier to suck it up and not have the family drama.

    Then again if you are paying for your own shower you do have control of the guest list and can do what you want. If someone else is hosting the shower then I think they would get some say who is invited. Money= strings (sadly).
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    quotequeenquotequeen member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c00af15-b0ed-40de-b228-537747a4cbaaPost:796b95bd-97d1-4202-bf2b-19fbc31953e5">Re: Bridal shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]I know you don't have to. If everyone is making such a big stink about invites to the shower it sounds it would just be easier to suck it up and not have the family drama. <strong>Then again if you are paying for your own shower you do have control of the guest list and can do what you want. If someone else is hosting the shower then I think they would get some say who is invited. </strong>Money= strings (sadly).
    Posted by erollis[/QUOTE]

    You should never be hosting your own shower.  This shouldn't even be a question.
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    erolliserollis member
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    I know it is not proper etiquette to throw yourself your own shower/ bachelorette/ birthday party/ anything that is about you. People do though. So it could be a possibility.

    It really is up to you OP what you decide to do. How you handle this situation is ultimately up to you (invite/not invite/ what you say to people/ etc.). Ball is in your court.
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    jnic0319jnic0319
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c00af15-b0ed-40de-b228-537747a4cbaaPost:796b95bd-97d1-4202-bf2b-19fbc31953e5">Re: Bridal shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]I know you don't have to. If everyone is making such a big stink about invites to the shower it sounds it would just be easier to suck it up and not have the family drama. <strong>Then again if you are paying for your own shower you do have control of the guest list and can do what you want.</strong> If someone else is hosting the shower then I think they would get some say who is invited. Money= strings (sadly).
    Posted by erollis[/QUOTE]

    Um noooooo, because you never ever host your own shower, never.
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    danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    Who is making you invite them?  Have you explained that you don't get along with these cousins and would rather have a more intimate shower?
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    lisalou402lisalou402 member
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    I know people who have thrown their own showers, mainly because they had some family issues. Her mom was ill, and not mobile, and her friends helped, but she paid for it and helped her mom.  No one thought twice about it.

    I'm in a place where my mom is deceased, and my father is being a lame-o....and i really don't want to place the financial burden on people that I was placed in for a few other brides.  My FI is pushing me to stay out and let my MOH and BMs do everything, but it just feels weird to have them pay for the party.

    So OP, in my opinion, you should invite who you want. 
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