BEST MAN father???

mitzimarie · May 2012

Is it OK to have the groom's best man be his father? My first inclination was to say "No", but nowdays it seems that anything goes, and it does seem a rather great honor for the father.

Thanks for any insights!

AdeleDazeem · May 2012

Of course, it is. Why couldn't he be the Best Man?

VeggieLove1022 · May 2012

And it's your FI's choice anyways so it doesn't particularly matter if you say "No"

MyNameIsNot · May 2012

Of course it's fine, and not your decision.

It's also traditional in some places, so it's not even an issue of "these days."

Maggie0829 · May 2012

This is your FI decision. You have no say whatsoever as to who he chooses to be his BM.

sleepyb · May 2012

My dad was the BM for my brother's wedding. It's awesome to see him standing up there next to my brother in the pictures. For the RD, my dad gave a speech and then allowed one of the other GM to give the toast at the reception.

sdose13 · May 2012

My H had his dad as his best man.

QueerFemme · May 2012

I'm not even sure why anyone would consider it to NOT be ok.

mbcdefg · May 2012

Wy wouldn't it be ok? And who the hell are you to tell him no?

calliopeia2013 · May 2012

This is fine, and very common in some circles. Also, you typically don't get veto power over your FIs choice of attendants. Not that you can't talk to him if you have a serious problem with someone, but it's ultimately his choice.

pkontk · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_best-man-father?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:2039e45a-12fc-494f-a23e-ae39654a51bfPost:007bd5dc-0fd0-4c9f-8300-5d97194020da">BEST MAN father???</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it OK to have the groom's best man be his father? <strong>My first inclination was to say "No", </strong>but nowdays it seems that anything goes, and it does seem a rather great honor for the father. Thanks for any insights!
Posted by mitzimarie[/QUOTE]

You do not have final approval over his groommen and best man. Unless there is a SERIOUS reason to exclude someone he wants (like the dude tried to break the two of you up), let him make the decisions.

I think it would be really sweet for a father to be a best man.

aragx6 · May 2012

I don't like people who refer to their FI as "the groom" -- it screams that you're losing sight of what's important.

garysgirl2012 · May 2012

My fiance said the same thing when his sister & I suggested him asking his father. I think it's a great idea and his father was more than honored to do it when asked.

kmmssg · May 2012

Why do you it is your place to veto this idea? His side of the party is his choice, your side of the party is yours. I'm not sure if you just worded it poorly or you really feel you get approval rights here.

mitzimarie · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_best-man-father?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:2039e45a-12fc-494f-a23e-ae39654a51bfPost:36fac65e-ac77-48f9-9aaa-eb39e7ebf5a7">Re: BEST MAN father???</a>:
[QUOTE]My fiance said the same thing when his sister & I suggested him asking his father. I think it's a great idea and his father was more than honored to do it when asked.
Posted by garysgirl2012[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thank you so much for sharing. Yes, we like the idea very much. I was initially asking from a traditional/etiquette standpoint, and felt blasted by some posters.

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mitzimarie · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_best-man-father?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:2039e45a-12fc-494f-a23e-ae39654a51bfPost:6081c3f3-407e-496d-b7ab-dd61662fb1a6">Re: BEST MAN father???</a>:
[QUOTE]My dad was the BM for my brother's wedding. It's awesome to see him standing up there next to my brother in the pictures. For the RD, my dad gave a speech and then allowed one of the other GM to give the toast at the reception.
Posted by sleepyb[/QUOTE]

<div>Thank you so much for sharing. Yes, we like the idea very much. I was initially asking from a traditional/etiquette standpoint, and felt blasted by some posters.</div>

expats14 · May 2012

One of my friends has had his father picked out as his best man since he (the friend) was 13. It's very traditional in our area, and they both get choked up mentioning it.

Miss Esa · May 2012

You don't get a say in who your SO picks as his best man.
Did he pick your MOH?

PhoneCardLady · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_best-man-father?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:2039e45a-12fc-494f-a23e-ae39654a51bfPost:007bd5dc-0fd0-4c9f-8300-5d97194020da">BEST MAN father???</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it OK to have the groom's best man be his father? My first inclination was to say "No", but nowdays it seems that anything goes, and it does seem a rather great honor for the father. Thanks for any insights!
Posted by mitzimarie[/QUOTE]

EX BIL had his dad replace him as BM for his brother's wedding when my sis went into labor the day of the wedding.

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