No MOH and no bridesmaids?

degarms · February 2010

I moved to CT a few years ago and haven't developed any close gal pals. My close friends from AZ have gone adrift and my only close friend from CO is having a baby the month before the wedding. This leaves me with no maid of honor and really no bridesmaids. Has anyone been to a wedding where there were no attendants to the bride? My fiance wants to have a best man, but I don't know about "uneven"ess and feel like I should find someone to make it work.

Advice would be great!

SarahPLiz · February 2010

Uneven sides are fine. Please don't ask someone just to fill a sapce.

bablingbrooke · February 2010

Don't let fear of asymmetry drive wedding decisions. We had an uneven WP and have yet to regret it 7 months later. You won't look at your wedding photos and count heads, but you will feel bad if either 1) FI doesn't have his BM who he really wanted or 2) you asked some random girl you aren't close with just to even out the sides.

[Deleted User] · February 2010

You don't need a MOH or any BMs, and no one cares about 'uneven' sides. If you are close to your mom, she could be your MOH. I was going to ask my mom, since we are extremely close, but she said she'd rather my best friend be with me so she could sit in the crowd and cry like a baby (which I know will happen).

My FI is having a best man and by brother stand with him, while I'll just have my MOH. No big deal. Just have the people who mean the most to you. Or don't have any attendants at all--then you don't have to worry about them getting dresses and shoes and whatever else in time!

mbcdefg · February 2010

A girl on my local board had 5 or 6 bridesmaids, and the groom had no attendants at all (I think his dad stepped in as Best Man for the formal pics). Looked like fine.

trix1223 · February 2010

My sister and BIL had no attendants in their wedding, and frankly, if I wasn't already married, I probably would have done the same. I just thought it was very romantic, just the two of them together. Our mom and his dad signed the license. (Any adult who actually witnesses the ceremony can sign.)

As for the "uneven-ness": WPs are not about symmetry. They are about having those you care most about stand with you as your get married. Don't choose a random "someone" just to have even sides.

lauralaur · February 2010

What you don't want on the other side of this is any regrets. Ditto others, I wouldn't ask someone simply for the sake of having someone up there with you, and your fi should get to have his best friend up there with him. 1 on the groom's side and 0 on the bride's side will be just fine and it seems like that is what will make you both happy.

lauralaur · February 2010

Oh, and you could always list your soon-to-be mother friend as an honorary bridesmaid in the program. I mean really, if she wasn't having the baby so close to your wedding it sounds like she would be a bridesmaid. She can still be a bridesmaid as it's an acknowledgement of your friendship, she doesn't have to be physically present at the wedding to be a bridesmaid.

MyNameIsNot · February 2010

Are you sure that the girl having the baby won't be able to do it? I would probably ask her anyway.

Either way, it will be fine if you don't have anyone. You can always ask your mom to be your witness even if you don't ask her to be MOH. Also, if you have a brother or a close male friend, it would be fine to ask him too. You don't need a female.

stina93446 · February 2010

I would ask both your overseas and pregnant friend. You never know, maybe they want to do it. You're giving them an answer before they can respond.

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