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Pearl problem

Melissa603Melissa603 member
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So for Christmas my Godmother gave me a necklace that matches a bracelet my mother bought me a a while back (she actually went to the bridal salon and bought the matching necklace) to go with my dress for my wedding day. I love the necklace and think it is gorgeous.

Fast forward to later Christmas day and FI mother gave me a strand of pearls that was her mothers (FI's grandmother's) that she recently had restrung. I'm not a huge fan of a string of pearls, but I know that it would mean a lot to his family. And I don't want to upset my Godmother by not wearing her necklace either. 

I was going to wrap my paternal grandmother's (she died a few ago) rosary beads around my bouquet. Should I do something similar with the strand of pearls and then have something from both grandmothers around the bouquet? Should I wear one to the rehearsal? 
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  • Ash61612Ash61612 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_pearl-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7df858b4-c8fa-4389-b050-a66d217dd13bPost:d82934c5-a116-4b65-9cd1-85fc093f8c34">Pearl problem</a>:
    [QUOTE] I was going to wrap my paternal grandmother's (she died a few ago) rosary beads around my bouquet. <strong>Should I do something similar with the strand of pearls and then have something from both grandmothers around the bouquet? Should I wear one to the rehearsal? </strong>
    Posted by Melissa603[/QUOTE]
    I think either of these options work. Do you have room for both to wrap around your bouquet?
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  • acaponi87acaponi87 member
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    I think that's super nice of you to be so considerate of everyone. I think either of those options will work just fine.
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  • peachykeen26peachykeen26 member
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    Don't feel obligated to wear them. It was a gift not explicitly for the wedding, right?
    I think you should stick with your original plan. Be thankful for the pearls from FI's mother and wear what you originially planned. No one is probably going to notice and if they do, then they deserve to notice.

    Why don't you just wear them when you want to wear them?

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  • Melissa603Melissa603 member
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    I just don't want to hurt any feelings and I know the pearls from FIs mother was a very personal gift as they are a family necklace. The one my Godmother gave me is a match to a bracelet my mother got me that I am wearing with my dress. I do suppose having too many pearls is a nice problem to have.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_pearl-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7df858b4-c8fa-4389-b050-a66d217dd13bPost:95a5b459-7cff-4809-b25d-5edd870fc3d8">Re: Pearl problem</a>:
    [QUOTE]Don't feel obligated to wear them. It was a gift not explicitly for the wedding, right? I think you should stick with your original plan. Be thankful for the pearls from FI's mother and wear what you originially planned. No one is probably going to notice and if they do, then they deserve to notice. Why don't you just wear them when you want to wear them?
    Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]
    I agree. And I don't think you should wrap them around your bouquet. If they're a family heirloom and everything I'd just save them for another time to wear them. I don't think it'd look that great using them as a bouqet accessory when you're only gonna carry it for like 2 minutes total
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  • MissAmeliaPondMissAmeliaPond member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_pearl-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7df858b4-c8fa-4389-b050-a66d217dd13bPost:d82934c5-a116-4b65-9cd1-85fc093f8c34">Pearl problem</a>:
    [QUOTE] I was going to wrap my paternal grandmother's (she died a few ago) rosary beads around my bouquet. Should I do something similar with the strand of pearls and then have something from both grandmothers around the bouquet? <strong>Should I wear one to the rehearsal? </strong>
    Posted by Melissa603[/QUOTE]

    If you want to honor their gift by incorporating it into your wedding, I think it would be a really nice gesture to wear them to the rehearsal dinner. If I had given you the pearls, I would honestly feel kind of insulted if you used them as a bouquet wrap. Pearls aren't cheap!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_pearl-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7df858b4-c8fa-4389-b050-a66d217dd13bPost:2a924590-4bc2-4db9-a360-da41138cdc5f">Re: Pearl problem</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Pearl problem : If you want to honor their gift by incorporating it into your wedding, I think it would be a really nice gesture to wear them to the rehearsal dinner. If I had given you the pearls, I would honestly feel kind of insulted if you used them as a bouquet wrap. Pearls aren't cheap!
    Posted by ashbear720[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_pearl-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7df858b4-c8fa-4389-b050-a66d217dd13bPost:2a924590-4bc2-4db9-a360-da41138cdc5f">Re: Pearl problem</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Pearl problem : If you want to honor their gift by incorporating it into your wedding, I think it would be a really nice gesture to wear them to the rehearsal dinner. If I had given you the pearls, I would honestly feel kind of insulted if you used them as a bouquet wrap. Pearls aren't cheap!
    Posted by ashbear720[/QUOTE]

    This.  Or is there anyway you could wrap them around your wrist a couple times as a bracelet (if you don't have that accessory picked out yet or as long as they match the other pearls you'll be wearing on your WD)?
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  • caliselcalisel
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    I have a similar problem. My Grandmother gave me pearl earings that match the necklace I had gotten to wear with my dress. However, I have diamond earings that my Godfather gave me before he passed. I do not know which to wear. The pearls match my necklace perfectly, but I want my Godfather's presence there on that day.

    In your situation, I would wear one to the Bridal Shower and Rehersal Dinner and the one that means more to you on your Wedding Day. I think knowing that you wore them would mean more than not wearing them at all. Also I would be open to your future inlaws of your delima. Hopefully they will understand.
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  • MMRoberts11MMRoberts11 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_pearl-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7df858b4-c8fa-4389-b050-a66d217dd13bPost:2a924590-4bc2-4db9-a360-da41138cdc5f">Re: Pearl problem</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Pearl problem : If you want to honor their gift by incorporating it into your wedding, I think it would be a really nice gesture to wear them to the rehearsal dinner. If I had given you the pearls, I would honestly feel kind of insulted if you used them as a bouquet wrap. Pearls aren't cheap!
    Posted by ashbear720[/QUOTE]

    This.
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  • Melissa603Melissa603 member
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    The only reasom I thought of a bouquet wrap was that it be a way of having both grandmothers represented on my bouquet if that makes sense. 

    Maybe I will end up talking to my FI and my FMIL - I did already mention it to my FI when he asked me if I liked them. I do have a few months to figure out what to wear when. I will definitely wear the string of pearls to the shower though! I never even thought of that
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