A couple of logistics questions

breaness · May 2011

We're still relatively far out but I have a few logistics questions for those of you getting married or who have already gotten married at a public beach with no rehearsal.

First: Do you recommend sending someone beforehand to stake out an area and meet the officiant? I'm thinking of asking my dad to do this and to meet the officiant and tell him proper pronunciation on our names so we don't have to do it ourselves seconds before the ceremony.

Second: Rings! What did you do/are you planning to do about your engagement ring? I'm considering wearing it on my right hand and having FI put my wedding band on my left and then moving the e-ring over after the ceremony.

Third: With our only guests being our parents I feel kind of bad having them have jobs during the ceremony, because they are going to want to fully enjoy this moment. However, we would both really like photos other than the photographer's photos so we can share them with people online sooner. I am also bringing my video camera and having someone set it up and make sure it's recording. Is it okay to delegate? Then the next question-- is do we delegate to FI's stepdad and FI's dad's girlfriend-- since the moment is obviously more important to my parents, his mom and dad than them, or to our parents? The only things we want done is for someone to frame up the video camera, make sure it's rolling and for someone to snap some photos with my camera and iPhone.

aaand I think that's it for now

[Deleted User] · May 2011

Hi!

Will you know the officiant beforehand? Could you call them and tell them beforehand and have your dad do it as well as backup - I hate it when the officiant doesn't take the time to do that anyway.

Rings - You could transfer it to the right hand beforehand. Or I think I'm going to see if there's a way to have the band and ring held together.

Photographers -That's a tough one! I bet you could ask your photographer to pretty please send a few pictures your way as soon as she can even if they're not the touched up versions. I don't think it would hurt to also have some snap a few shots as well or make sure the camera is running. But you also want pictures of them and their reactions during the wedding so as long as it doesn't get in the way.

kaesha · May 2011

1) Call the officient up and tell him how to pronounce things. I'm all about going directly to the source.

2) I wore mine on my right hand and transfered it over post ceremony!

3) Honestly, I wouldn't give your parents (full or step or whatever) jobs to do. They ARE going to want to be mentally present at the ceremony, and I don't think that's something most people can do when they have a job to do at the same time, you know? I say this from the perspective of an artsy-fartsy drama teacher, but I think experiencing these major milestones is really important, and your parents deserve to participate in the ritual by being present in the moment. I think Christine has a great idea in asking the photographer to get you a handful of shots within a couple of days of the ceremony that you can post online. IMHO, the trade off (rushed pictures in exchange for parental absense) just isn't worth it. As much as we like to think everyone is as excited about our wedding as we are (and as we on the boards here tend to be), most people aren't. They can wait a few extra days for a peek at what they missed. The world won't come to an end, you know?

breaness · May 2011

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[QUOTE]1) Call the officient up and tell him how to pronounce things. I'm all about going directly to the source. 2) I wore mine on my right hand and transfered it over post ceremony! 3) Honestly, I wouldn't give your parents (full or step or whatever) jobs to do. They ARE going to want to be mentally present at the ceremony, and I don't think that's something most people can do when they have a job to do at the same time, you know? I say this from the perspective of an artsy-fartsy drama teacher, but I think experiencing these major milestones is really important, and your parents deserve to participate in the ritual by being present in the moment. I think Christine has a great idea in asking the photographer to get you a handful of shots within a couple of days of the ceremony that you can post online. IMHO, the trade off (rushed pictures in exchange for parental absense) just isn't worth it. As much as we like to think everyone is as excited about our wedding as we are (and as we on the boards here tend to be), most people aren't.<strong> They can wait a few extra days for a peek at what they missed. The world won't come to an end, you know?</strong>
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<div>Haha good point. </div>

TripleAubs · May 2011

I agree with Alyson... don't assign jobs. If anything, you can get some non-pro pics after the ceremony, when everyone has already enjoyed the moment and can relax!

I moved my e-ring to my right hand just before the ceremony. It was pretty tight but some vaseline helped

I think I moved it over afterwards before we signed the marriage certificate. HTH!

kimmykupcakes · May 2011

i wouldn't assign them jobs, either. They are going to want to enjoy your wedding, not worry about taking pictures.

McBeags · May 2011

Agreed with all above. We asked our photographer for 3-4 photos so we could make our wedding announcement. He emailed me four copies before I woke up the next morning. I got the CD of all the photos within 3 weeks.

As for family photos. They all brought cameras. But they aren't pros. Most of the shots were just ok and mostly of them and the view. Don't get me wrong I love them and kept all of their shots. But if you really want a few early just ask your photographer.

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