My fiance are paying for our wedding, but I think my mom would like a mention. I don't really care, not into the whole "I pay, I get recognition" thing.
We put both sets of parents on our invites even though it was just my parents paying. I think it's not worth the hissy fit that sometimes arises when parents are left out. Also, I think it's handy if you're sending them to any of your parent's friends that might not recognize you/FI's name.
EDIT: For the rehearsal, we sent out invites to those who RSVPed that were OOT or close family.
Together with their families/parents Bride and Groom request the honour of your presence etc
But if your mom wants a specific mention, and you don't care, you could say
Ms./Mrs. Bride's Mom requests the honour of your presence at the marriage of her daughter Bride to Groom
My parents are hosting, so they are listed at the top and I did not mention FI's parents.
Do not put rehearsal dinner information on your website - unless everyone you send the website to is invited to the rehearsal dinner. You can tell RD guests about the RD by sending a separate invitation or through word of mouth.
I agree with vicki0508, you could say, 'Together with their families/parents...' If it is really important to your Mom to be specifically mentioned you could say 'Mr. & Mrs. Bride's Mom request the honor of your presence...' if this is alright with you and your groom. However, I think it is usually the person/people paying for the wedding who are really considered the hosts.
With all of that said, if you really don't care it might be easiest to mention you Mom on the invites just to avoid any unwanted wedding drama. Good luck!
I always think the "whoever pays get recognized" thing is so petty. Weddings are supposed to be about a union of the families. I would either put both sets of names on the invitation, or like cac7777 said, you can use the more unobtrusive "together with their families" instead. I think it's nice to incllude them in some way.
Wow! Thank you all for the quick replies! So helpful. How's this: Bride & Groom invite you to share in their special day along with parents, Mom, His Mom & Dad, their family and friends at blah, blah
I think that could work, but I would take out "their family and friends" because extended family and friends really aren't involved in hosting/planning the wedding and don't need special recognition on the invitation.
We are putting together with thier familes. Even though we are paying for the wedding day, FIL's are paying for the rehearsal dinner and my parents are helping to pay for the honeymoon. Both families have also been very helpful in the planning process, so we wanted to include them.
Re: We're paying. Add parents to invites
EDIT: For the rehearsal, we sent out invites to those who RSVPed that were OOT or close family.
Together with their families/parents
Bride
and
Groom
request the honour of your presence
etc
But if your mom wants a specific mention, and you don't care, you could say
Ms./Mrs. Bride's Mom
requests the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
Bride
to
Groom
My parents are hosting, so they are listed at the top and I did not mention FI's parents.
Do not put rehearsal dinner information on your website - unless everyone you send the website to is invited to the rehearsal dinner. You can tell RD guests about the RD by sending a separate invitation or through word of mouth.
With all of that said, if you really don't care it might be easiest to mention you Mom on the invites just to avoid any unwanted wedding drama. Good luck!
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