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We're paying. Add parents to invites

My fiance are paying for our wedding, but I think my mom would like a mention. I don't really care, not into the whole "I pay, I get recognition" thing.

Has anyone done this? Any ideas?

Also - did you put rehearsal dinner on website?

Thanks!

Re: We're paying. Add parents to invites

  • mcskatcatmcskatcat member
    500 Comments Third Anniversary
    edited May 2011
    We put both sets of parents on our invites even though it was just my parents paying.  I think it's not worth the hissy fit that sometimes arises when parents are left out.  Also, I think it's handy if you're sending them to any of your parent's friends that might not recognize you/FI's name. 


    EDIT:  For the rehearsal, we sent out invites to those who RSVPed that were OOT or close family. 
  • vicki0508vicki0508 member
    1000 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited May 2011
    You could say

    Together with their families/parents
    Bride
    and
    Groom
    request the honour of your presence
    etc

    But if your mom wants a specific mention, and you don't care, you could say

    Ms./Mrs. Bride's Mom
    requests the honour of your presence
    at the marriage of her daughter
    Bride
    to
    Groom

    My parents are hosting, so they are listed at the top and I did not mention FI's parents.

    Do not put rehearsal dinner information on your website - unless everyone you send the website to is invited to the rehearsal dinner.  You can tell RD guests about the RD by sending a separate invitation or through word of mouth.
  • I agree with vicki0508, you could say, 'Together with their families/parents...' If it is really important to your Mom to be specifically mentioned you could say 'Mr. & Mrs. Bride's Mom request the honor of your presence...' if this is alright with you and your groom. However, I think it is usually the person/people paying for the wedding who are really considered the hosts.

    With all of that said, if you really don't care it might be easiest to mention you Mom on the invites just to avoid any unwanted wedding drama. Good luck!
    Anniversary Visit The Nest!
  • "together with their families" is nice and vague. 
    "He who laughs at himself never runs out of things to laugh at."
  • I always think the "whoever pays get recognized" thing is so petty. Weddings are supposed to be about a union of the families. I would either put both sets of names on the invitation, or like cac7777 said, you can use the more unobtrusive "together with their families" instead. I think it's nice to incllude them in some way. 
  • Wow! Thank you all for the quick replies! So helpful.
    How's this:
    Bride & Groom
    invite you to share in their special day
    along with parents,
    Mom, His Mom & Dad,
    their family and friends
    at
    blah, blah

    Can make you nuts!
  • I think that could work, but I would take out "their family and friends" because extended family and friends really aren't involved in hosting/planning the wedding and don't need special recognition on the invitation.
  • We're paying as well but added our both sets of parents' names on the invite.

    Jane Smith
    &
    John Doe
    together with their parents
    Mom & Dad Smith and
    Mom & Dad Doe
    request the honor of your presence...
  • We are putting together with thier familes.  Even though we are paying for the wedding day, FIL's are paying for the rehearsal dinner and my parents are helping to pay for the honeymoon.  Both families have also been very helpful in the planning process, so we wanted to include them.
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