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julieadamski
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Wedding Date & Deployment
Hello all! 
My FI and I just got engaged over 2 months ago and we're having a tough time settling on a date.
My parents have made their wishes very clear that we give our engagement ample amount of time and they really don't want us to be married before 2013. With that being said, as of now my FI's unit is scheduled to deploy in October of 2013. And we all know the military...that will definitely change! I have my heart set on a spring date, and so far May 26 is sounding good. But is that too close? It's memorial day weekend and we live in Chicago, so popular venues book VERY quickly especially on high-demand weekends, like ours. So we need to really be looking and booking a venue ASAP. Any thoughts? He's National Guard if that helps.
Then again one of his buddies in his unit told us not to worry about the deployment date, but I definitely don't want to lose any money with deposits and such. Thanks ladies!!!
My FI and I just got engaged over 2 months ago and we're having a tough time settling on a date.
My parents have made their wishes very clear that we give our engagement ample amount of time and they really don't want us to be married before 2013. With that being said, as of now my FI's unit is scheduled to deploy in October of 2013. And we all know the military...that will definitely change! I have my heart set on a spring date, and so far May 26 is sounding good. But is that too close? It's memorial day weekend and we live in Chicago, so popular venues book VERY quickly especially on high-demand weekends, like ours. So we need to really be looking and booking a venue ASAP. Any thoughts? He's National Guard if that helps.
Then again one of his buddies in his unit told us not to worry about the deployment date, but I definitely don't want to lose any money with deposits and such. Thanks ladies!!!
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Re: Wedding Date & Deployment
I don't see a problem with a may wedding and a deployment in October. Have you ever been through a deployment though? I (as well as some other girls) always reccomend going through at least one deployment before you tie the knot. Deployments (distance in general) can make or break relationships. My H has been stationed in Japan for the last year and a half. We got married close to 7 months ago, and he left to go back Jan 1, 2011. I won't see my H for our first anniversary, or for our birthdays, other holidays. He'll come home in mid Februrary 2012, and we'll FINALLY get to live together. It's been really hard, and trust me, we've had a lot of fights and problems, but we're stronger because of it.. If you decide to wait until after his deployment, I would suggest waiting at least 5-6 months after to make sure that if his return date gets pushed back you'd still be safe..
Welcome to the Board!!
Also, just a heads up, I would probably scrap this account and create a new one with a different email account that doesn't contain your full first and last name. I recommend that for anyone on these boards because there are some crazy lurkers out there who do things like contact your FI, your employer, or your venues. Especially with the military though it is an important PERSEC practice. You aren't able to delete your account or change your name, but since you have only 3 posts I would just scrap this one.
H and I got married last Memorial Day Weekend in Minnesota. It's a very popular lake, cabin time so we were worried about cutting into guest's holiday weekend. In the end it wasn't a big deal. The perk was it gave our guests extra travel time. We only had one vendor (hair stylist) that wasn't able to work a holiday weekend.
We made sure that every vendor from flowers, cake to church knew H's military status and the potential date changes. If they were unwilling to put in writing that we move deposits to a different date because of military duties, then we didn't work with them. Every vendor we picked was very accommodating.
Happy Planning!
and i think just to save us some stress we're just gonna move up the date to oct 2012. less stress and more wiggle room.
and thanks @dnbeach12 about the name thing...can't change it though
[QUOTE]Also, just a heads up, I would probably scrap this account and create a new one with a different email account that doesn't contain your full first and last name. I recommend that for anyone on these boards because there are some crazy lurkers out there who do things like contact your FI, your employer, or your venues. Especially with the military though it is an important PERSEC practice. <strong>You aren't able to delete your account or change your name, but since you have only 3 posts I would just scrap this one. </strong>
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
We know you can't change it. Thats why Beach said that. Just create a different account, and when you make that sn, don't make it your first, last, or future name. I mean, even now, you have 8 posts, thats not alot to lose..