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Tacky or not?

shanding4787shanding4787
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We are thinking about doing a BYOB reception. Not all of it though. We are thinking about providing the beer, wine and set ups. Then people can bring whatever kind of liquor they want. I think it's good because A- it will cut costs for us, B- it will make sure we're not stuck with a huge amount of leftover booze at the end of the night and C- everyone will get to drink what they actually want.

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  • WiscisblissWiscisbliss
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    Just host beer, wine, and sot drinks.  That is totally fine.  No need to ask guests to bring anything else. 
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  • deanozzideanozzi
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    Wine and beer are plenty and maybe even a spiked punch
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    No matter how you look at it guests are still providing for your wedding.  Very tacky.
     
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    " it will cut costs for us" It sounds like you want to pawn off the cost of alcohol onto your guests. Super tacky.
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  • magsmith28magsmith28 member
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    Could go either way. We are providing one type of beer, one type of wine, water, pop & punch. We also encouraged our guests to bring anything else that fits their tastes better.
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  • OBX2011OBX2011 member
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    edited January 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tacky-not-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:27e9a9bf-5ef6-49ca-98a0-6928e845f51cPost:36706ba0-6745-48cc-a039-bc0628cdd7bc">Re: Tacky or not?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Could go either way. We are providing one type of beer, one type of wine, water, pop & punch. We also encouraged our guests to bring anything else that fits their tastes better.
    Posted by magsmith28[/QUOTE]

    One type of wine?  There are reds and there are whites and not everyone drinks both.

    Re-read the PP's advice to the OP and yes, it IS in fact beyond tacky to **promote or allow** their guests to BYOB.  This is not a backyard bbq.  This is a wedding that is hosted by you and I assume your parents, therefore you should be gracious and supply ALL of the booze or none at all.  There is no middle on this one.  And please, provide at least 1 more choice (if not 2) for the beer & wine.

     

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  • melntaittmelntaitt member
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    I would encourage you to allow the bar to sell the other liquors; I get that you're on a budget and everyone may not want to drink beer and wine, but:

    1. There's probably going to be a big conflict with your venue by asking your guests to bring uncontrolled alcohol into their business.

    2. I'm a believer that people should be allowed to drink whatever they want regardless of what the hosts can afford. If your guests want to drink, let the bar serve and sell the other liquors.

    But asking them to bring it in just gives me an image of random people dressed nicely but drinking out of paper bags...also, there is no control of the alcohol your guests bring in and that's a huge liablity. Forget tacky, it might be unwise or dangerous.
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  • teraliciousteralicious
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    I agree with all of the above posts, SUPER TACKY
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  • heb557heb557 member
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    Tacky. NO BYOB!!
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  • lcje97lcje97
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    Why would it be tacky??? Because it's YOUR day? We are doing a cash bar at our reception. Our family and friends are fine with it.. I think if your guest are not happy with what you choose maybe they shouldn't come. We are having about 125 people there and I wouldn't want to imagine how much that would add up to if we were paying for it!! I'm glad my guest are supportive!!! Good luck with your choice!!
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  • tldhtldh member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tacky-not-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:27e9a9bf-5ef6-49ca-98a0-6928e845f51cPost:6c8643ee-0e1d-4ba0-a663-7eeae22295e3">Re: Tacky or not?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why would it be tacky??? Because it's YOUR day? We are doing a cash bar at our reception. Our family and friends are fine with it.. I think if your guest are not happy with what you choose maybe they shouldn't come. We are having about 125 people there and I wouldn't want to imagine how much that would add up to if we were paying for it!! I'm glad my guest are supportive!!! Good luck with your choice!!
    Posted by lcje97[/QUOTE]

    Sure they are.  Nobody is going to tell you to your face that this is tacky.  Rest assured though that for the rest of your lives, you and your FI will be known as the cheap ass couple who had a cash bar - and you'd better believe that's how you will be remembered.

    FWIW, we went without a photographer and centerpieces in order to have an open bar for our guests.  We put them before us when it came to allotting money from the budget.
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  • LuckyGirl1713LuckyGirl1713
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    It is a bit insenstive for you to ask your guests to provide anything for your wedding.  If you don't want to provide alcohol then mayb eyou should do an afternoon wedding or brunch because people won't expect lots of alcoholic beverages.

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  • almost-a-bridealmost-a-bride member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tacky-not-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:27e9a9bf-5ef6-49ca-98a0-6928e845f51cPost:a4328bb9-bdd7-417a-a69f-995607fc1502">Re: Tacky or not?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tacky or not? : Sure they are.  Nobody is going to tell you to your face that this is tacky.  Rest assured though that for the rest of your lives, you and your FI will be known as the cheap ass couple who had a cash bar - and you'd better believe that's how you will be remembered.[/QUOTE]



    This is so the truth!!
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  • jeff0908jeff0908
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    I am doing the same thing and have been to weddings doing the same thing in the past i though it was fine people understand budgets and if they dont they do not have to bring their own
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  • cshan1807cshan1807 member
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    My opinion is that it is very tacky.

    But it really depends on your family and their customs. I come from a family where weddings are not super fancy or traditional. Most of my guests wouldnt mind a BYOB, in fact a lot of people would rather BYOB over no bar service. Really consider what type of group your guests are and what kind of wedding you are having. If you are having a fire hall wedding, maybe it is acceptable. But If you are having a nice wedding at a banquet hall, BYOB is not the way to go.
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