old wives' tales

Re: old wives' tales

• melb2013 member

  

  January 2013

  I'm a pretty unsuperstitious/untraditional person.  The only thing I'm doing from that list is the something old, new, etc.  I didn't consciously try to do it- it just ended up happening.  I'm borrowing my mom's pearl necklace, I'm wearing an heirloom cameo that I was given when I was born, my dress is new, and my shoes have a blue stone in the bottom.  Otherwise, I would never do something out of superstition, and I don't find any of those to be important traditions to me.

  
  

  We're getting married in a multi-cultural ceremony in Gloucester, MA on May18th.  I'm 23 and my FI is 29.  I'm a professional musician and my FI is a software engineer. 

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• libby2483 member

  

  January 2013

  I followed the something old, new, borrowed, and blue tradition.  I also did not see my H on my wedding day before I walked down the aisle.  Both of these were more about sticking to traditional than an actual fear that something bad would happen if we didn't adhere to them.  I usually knock on wood, but other than that, I don't have a lot of superstitions.

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• Dreamergirl8812 member

  

  January 2013

  I will spend the night before with my fiance and have breakfast with him. But once I get all dolled up he can't see me. But it's not superstition; just want to see the look on his face when I walk down the aisle.
  
  I am not doing something old, something new but it wouldn't surprise me if my mom/bridesmaids forced something on me at the last minute. But that would just be a fun tradition. Would that tradition exist today if it didn't rhyme?
  
  And I think the stepping on the crack thing is a form of mild ocd...

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_old-wives-tales?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:6f678dc5-f662-4c8a-bd01-7ff4134199b2Post:9ccf8822-0d9b-481b-9440-0067e07dc227">Re: old wives' tales</a>:
  [QUOTE]Yes, never say the name of The Scottish Play!!! I smile when I see the brides here using peacock feathers.  My mother would have had a cow.  She wouldn't even allow them in our house, because of the belief they're bad luck. Don't wear a pearl necklace on your wedding day, because pearls are for tears. (The pearls on a wedding gown didn't seem to apply. Weird.) Nobody in the wedding party should wear black shoes or carry a black purse because it's bad luck.  (The "no wearing black at a wedding" rule was very much in effect). Don't throw a hat on the bed. No parasols at indoor weddings because it's bad luck to open an umbrella inside the house. Baby's breath and carnations are for funerals. Don't give a bride knives or scissors for a shower gift. Bad luck.  If someone does give them to you as a gift, give them back a penny.
  Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
  
  Interesting.  Except for that first one about the Scottish Play and one about umbrellas, I'd never even heard of most of these.  Wow.
  
  I'm not generally superstitious, although sometimes I try to avoid wearing certain clothing after something bad has happened when I had those particular items on.

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2013

  In general, I am extremely superstitious, but I only worried about a few wedding superstitions. 

  
  

  I did the old, new, borrowed, blue. 

  
  

  My husband did not see my dress before I walked down the aisle, but we did spend the night together the night before. I slipped out to another hotel room before he was awake, though, so hopefully that works for not seeing each other! 

  
  

  Originally, we planned on doing a First Look, but since we ended up getting married in the morning, that was just going to be way too early, so we scrapped that. 

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• maddynamite member

  

  January 2013

  I'm going to do the old/new/borrowed/blue becuase I like the idea of using personal and family items.
  
  My FI has seen my dress, but not its final form. For my dress, I'm using my mother's dress, and having some alterations done. He wants to be totally surprised when he sees me for the first time on our wedding day
  
  In daily life, I am not superstitious. Both FI and I are 26. I work in human resources for a manufacturing company and he is a website programmer for a travel insurance company.

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• erinlin25 member

  

  January 2013

  i'm doing the old/new/borrowed/blue but just for a fun tradition; We are staying together the night before (I've lived with FI for 3 years and cannot sleep w/o him!) and having breakfast together morning of wedding but will then go our separate ways so the first time he see's me in the dress/all done up is when I walk down the aisle (and again, not for superstition, but because as another pp mentioned, that first look is priceless).
  
  Outside of weddings, I'm not superstitious either,  but I do hold my breathe/make a wish when I drive through a tunnel!?  I also don't walk under ladders.
  
  Let's see, I know many of couples who followed all these "rules" and still didn't have successful marriages.  My opinion is it's up the couple to make it work... if they go into it saying its cursed, that is just an excuse to allow it to fall a part.
  
  I'm 30/FI is 33; we own an auto repair shop near Chico, CA.  Our wedding is in Lincoln, CA in June. Formal, Friday night wedding.  Somewhat of a destination (half way between our hometowns so families "meet in the middle."
  
   

  
  
  
  

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• CaseynMike

  

  January 2013

  I am practicing the something old,borrowed,new and blue. What each of them are right now I am not sure. 

  
  

  I live in Louisiana so there are beaucoup superstitions here that we follow lol! My FI and I are not staying together the night before the wedding; the day of the wedding once we get dressed we will do a first prayer with each other where we can't see each other. We will have second line umbrellas inside the venue...those are staples here and we have them at pretty much everything from funerals, to weddings to parties. My dad is putting a penny in my shoe..the same penny my sister had in her shoe at her wedding over 10 years ago. We are also doing the traditional money dance. I am having cake charm pulls for my attendants as well. 

  
  

  Our wedding is in New Orleans, LA where my FI is from I am 32 he is 39. I am an environmental scientist and he is a budget analyst!

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• CaseynMike

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_old-wives-tales?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:6f678dc5-f662-4c8a-bd01-7ff4134199b2Post:962243bf-576f-4ba5-95b3-52b0954e3bfe">Re: old wives' tales</a>:
  [QUOTE]We are also doing the traditional money dance Where is this traditional in Louisiana? My dad's family is Mississippi Choctaw and New Orleans Creole, and they would have fainted at the money dance.
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  <div>Every wedding I have been to in Mamu, Baton Rouge, New Orleans and one in Ville Platte all did the money dance.Sorry to hear that your family would have fainted at the money dance but the Cajuns and the Creoles, Louisianans here I know have done it.I also read here:</div><div>
  </div><div><a href="http://www.louisianafolklife.org/LT/Articles_Essays/cajun_wed.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.louisianafolklife.org/LT/Articles_Essays/cajun_wed.html</a> scroll down under </div><h2 style="font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:0.95em;color:#404040;margin-top:10px;margin-bottom:10px;line-height:normal;background-color:#ffffff;">Today's Cajun Wedding Customs. </h2>

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• Sierra524 member

  

  January 2013

  I plan on doing something old, new, borrowed & blue. I also plan on spending the night before away from each other & him not seeing me until I walk down the aisle, and he better carry me thru the threshold at the end of the night  We are only doing these things because of tradition, not superstitions.
  The only thing I do in my everyday life is knock on wood.
  I am 23 (will be 24 when married), and he is 24 and he are getting married on August 31st, 2013. I work in Insurance and my FI works as a chef for a culinary mgmt company. We will be together for 3yrs officially the day before the wedding.

  
  

  
  

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• prlove member

  

  February 2013 edited February 2013

  I know this post may be old but I thought I'd just throw some in here anyway.  In Puerto Rican tradition (at least in my family):
  - The bride and groom should not see each other for up to a week prior to the wedding (this isn't happening at mine.  We won't see each other the morning of though)
  
  -The groom cannot see your dress, hear about it, or any of its accessories
  
  -Bridesmaids should be single, not married (this one is broken for me already)
  
  -The bridesmaids CANNOT wear black
  
  -There should be a money dance ( I personally haven't decided but probably not.)
  
  -There has to be a religious tone to the ceremony or you are doomed
  
  -Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue
  
  - The bride should have a picture of her wedding dress next to her mother's wedding dress as tradition
  
  -Penny in the shoe or sewn into the dress
  
  -Coin ceremony or lasso ceremony (I will do both) although most just do the sand ceremony
  
  -We have "Godparents" of the marriage and wedding.  These are a couple, sometimes not, that the couple can go to for advice and/or guidance and they assist in paying for something for the wedding- usually the cake.  They also assist in the coin and/or lasso ceremony
  
  -I'm sure there is a ton more but I can't think of them right now.
  
  All the best ladies!
  
  
  
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