Ok, so I will preface this by saying the situation I am in is kinda my fault for not thinking. Just something to think about if you are putting together a guest list...Be sure to communicate with your family and your FI family about where you all stand with children.
Soooo, FI and I really did not want children at the reception...Our ring bearer and flower girl will be there but they don't count bc they are in the wedding. So a very close family friend of my FI were invited as husband and wife...they live about 2 hours away and have a young daughter (I think she is 7) who is diabetic and needs insulin shots often, which makes it very difficult to find babysitters for more than a simple movie and bite to eat for the parents. The grandparents usually watch the girls, but they of course will be at the wedding...they are such good people and they opened their house up to us when we stayed in Greece, so of course I said that she could bring her daughter because I understand her not wanting to leave her daughter with their every now and then babysitter who does not know how to give shots. She was also so nice in her asking and said she completely understood if we did not want children, her husband would just go. I said yes because honestly, I thought it was the right thing to do. It must be hard to get a long night out when your child needs shots. My parents were cool with it.
Now here is how I got myself in a pickle....
The rsvp date was Oct 2nd and the Merion needs a headcount next weekend. A friend of mine (not close but have known for a very long time) did not rsvp so I facebook messaged her asking if she was planning on coming...she apologized for not responding earlier, and then said she and her husband were not sure if they were bringing their 3(yes 3) kids and asked if kids were allowed...they are 13 (which costs an adult plate-children 12 and under eat at half price),11, and 9. My mom says no way, but I am going to look like such a jerk if I say no kids and there is the little girl there and the kids in our wedding (2). My mom said I should not have a problem saying no as she waited so long to even let us know/ask us but I feel stupid saying no to her and I already said yes to someone else....I do not know what to say to her...especially since my Mom told her cousin she would prefer he did not bring his 13 year old as it will be an adult reception....
Anyway, I know I got myself in this situation because I made an exception for one couple when I know the tell-tale rule that so many say "if you do it for one person, you have to do it for everybody"
Any thoughts or suggestions of what to say and do would be great! I hate telling people no to anything!