Sorry in advance for the long post
A little back story: My friend (ME) and her BF (MA) have been together for 11 years. Well, they say that, but they've been broken up for a while when the BF lived in Maryland. Technically, they have been inseperable for 5 years. Anyway, MA gave ME a "promise" ring (who does this anymore besides celebs? it's total junior high I think). Their relationship is HORRIBLE! MA is really disrespectful and immature. He doesn't understand, let alone care, about what ME is going through with her bipolar issues. Plus, ME and MA always seem to fight. They would fight about little stupid things but there is the occasional HUGE fight where ME says she isn't going to talk to MA but ends up doing it anyway. And ME seems super depressed everytime she is with MA. However, when ME and I hang out without MA, she is very happy not being around him. ME's parents (especially her mom) don't approve either. There's a lot of other things wrong with their relationship, but I'll just get to what happened last night.
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So Friday was ME's sister's (T) 21st birthday. ME was putting on her makeup before the party, so her other sister Brit and I were hanging out with her. ME turns to her sister and blurts out "oh guess what Brit? I'm engaged" (her "promise" ring was suppose to be her engagment ring until MA could get a new one) I was taking back by the whole thing. I wouldn't care if she didn't tell me but she's always told me everything before anyone else knew. Plus, considering her relationship with MA, I wasn't THAT happy for her, neither was Brit. Throughout T's party, as ME was talking to various people, she was announcing her "engagment". She even loudly corrected Brit with "MY FIANCE!!!!" in such a snotty tone with Brit said "oh and ME's boyfriend...." When T kept hearing ME talking about it, she would always stop talking to her friend's and gave her a death stare. I felt really bad for T.
Number 1: it was T's party, NOT ME's. She had NO RIGHT to bring the attention to her. I think that was very impolite. Then again, I don't seek attention like ME does
Number 2: How can you tell people you're engaged if you don't even plan to invite them to your own wedding? I think that's just weird
Also, the "wedding" isn't until April 2013 when supposedly, they have more money. They are still in serious debt with credit card bills.
It just makes me so mad that people who have bad relationships think they can salvage them when they are husband and wife. I've been ranting to my boyfriend all day about this and he agrees