I got married on Friday and it was beautiful, magical, perfect, and everything I could have asked for and more, except for one thing...
I've known my MoH for 20 years, we met in the first grade and were really, really close from then until high school, we kind of drifted in college, but we started talking a lot again last year and I asked her to be my MoH. And she was awesome and helpful, way beyond my expectations (I planned my whole wedding in just 3 months, and I'm not sure if I could have done it without her.) A few days before the wedding, she asked me if 1 page was a good length for her speech and I said yes, thinking 1 page is a typical typed front of a page, in a normal font.
Well, wedding day arrives and again she is awesome, helpful, and I am truly grateful...she gave me a nice pep talk, everything was great, until speech time
By that point, she was pretty inebriated. I knew things were not going to go well, when she began thanking HER date and a close friend of hers that was also in attendance. She then begins to talk about herself, how her tan is fake but her boobs are real and other nonsensical things. 3-4 minutes into the speech and she hasn't even started talking about me yet! The guests began to sit down and put their champagne glasses down...there are stifled groans going around. Then when she finally does start talking about me, she starts saying really embarrassing things...like how me and her were jumping on the bed in our underwear during our bachelorette party...is this really what I want my conservative in-laws to hear?...then she begins talking about anecdotes from our childhood...and taking them completely out of context, and making them sound really bad, so now my family thinks that I was an alcoholic at the age of 12 and I stole stuff. When she started talking about how she used to forge my father's signature for me when I failed tests in school, I had heard enough...I started gesturing frantically at her to stop, but she only looked down at her paper. Finally, the groom saw how upset I was getting and went up to stop her. She wasn't even halfway done with her speech.
She ran into the bridal suite and was upset and crying, saying that we embarrassed her, and she worked on that speech for 2 days and how the groom and I were ungrateful and how she isn't going to talk to us anymore in the wedding. She told another bridesmaid personal things about me. Eventually she calmed down, and was pretty normal for the rest of the evening. Some of the guests were perturbed by her speech, others thought it was hilarious...I didn't let it ruin my night and I had a great time.
However, it seems that my MoH really does plan on cutting me off. She posts passive aggressive facebook statuses about "ungrateful people" and has not initiated contact with me since, while every other person in the bridal party and most of the guests have, to tell me how great the wedding was, etc.I am still kind of upset about her speech, and even more upset about the fact that she saw nothing wrong with it and thinks I am wrong. I don't want to lose her friendship though...Everyone gives me different advice, some people tell me I should just ignore her and she'll come around, other people tell me I should talk to her and act as if nothing happened, my husband thinks that if I want to salvage the friendship, I should apologize, but I can't bring myself to do that. My parents say that we should blame it on the dj and the food servers and say that they were signaling us to end the speech...what do you think?