Hey everyone, I usually lurk on this site but I came across an interesting dilemma today and I thought you could help. I am getting married a year from now and my cousin is getting married in December. I am not very close to this cousin but we see each other at holidays and family weddings etc... I just found out today that my cousin asked my grandmother who's ring was bigger and who the designer of my dress was. I'm not sure how to handle that. I feel like she is trying to turn our weddings into a competition which I have no interest in. I'm sure the right answer is to pretend that I don't know and go about my merry way but I thought I would get your thoughts.
Re: Dilemma
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PLEASE ignore it and move on. PLEASE. who gives a darn, really.
[QUOTE]Personally would just pretend and go on my merry way. Sure the questions suggest competition, but I choose not to play that game. If anything I would brag about myself in order for her to spend way more money than she needs to just to 'compete' with me. I'm mean like that. <strong>eta - I should say I do not care if someone spends more or has a better 'x,y,z' as me... as long as I'm good with my life, I do not compare myself with others. I will always get what I want because I want it, not because someone else has it. If I can't afford it I do not get it and i do not get upset about it. </strong>
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]
that is a great attitude! more people in this world need to have that kind of attitude.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dilema : that is a great attitude! more people in this world need to have that kind of attitude.
Posted by futurepivko[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I think living in the islands helps..
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p.s. I sorta hope your ring is bigger LOL.
Seriously though, I would keep your wedding plans pretty much hush hush. It sounds like she wants to know so she can "do it first". When someone in the family asks, just smile sweetly and say, "Planning is going well, thanks for asking".
I have no idea how big her ring is and honestly I don't care. I wouldn't trade my ring for the world because it's the one that my FI proposed with. We are planning the wedding that is perfect for us and that's all that is important. Thanks for confirming that I should just pretend that I don't know.
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.