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Tips, gifts, and other questions

DHandHHDHandHH
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in May 2012 Weddings
I have no clue what I am suppose to do here. Who do I tip, how much? And honestly why? I'm already paying them to be there.

As for gifts who besides the bridal party and parents are suppose to get gifts? I have a friend who put a string quartet together as my wedding present, should I still get her and the other 3 something.

It's getting down to the wire and all the details are stressing me out. 

As for seating charts and table numbers, no I really need a seating chart? It is soo stressful trying to put this together because I don't have an even number of couples and single people etc and its just not working.

As for table numbers I was told we probably shouldn't use numbers because people get offended by how high their number is like they are less important the higher the number gets. 

TIA for the help!

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Re: Tips, gifts, and other questions

  • Bett2012Bett2012 member
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    We did a seating chart. We had space at our venue, so even though we could have fit at 15 tables of 8, we spread it out to 16 tables with 8 "empty spots" (the guests will be spread evenly over the tables, no less than 6 per table) so that we avoided the whole random mix of 3 couples and 2 singles that don't really know each other.. I'm not worried about it looking weird that some tables have 6 or 7 people while most have 8.

    Also, we did table letters (A,B,C..) because we have a slight teaching theme and we are using it for an alliteration game/task for them to get us to kiss.

    All of this is just us though, it's really whatever you want :)
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  • pantherRNpantherRN member
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    We are tipping people who don't own their business. So the shuttle driver, manager for the hall, catering lady, and uplighting tech will get small tips. We're going to write cards for our photographer and DJ. As far as numbers and seating charts, that's entirely up to you. We did both.
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  • geojam224geojam224
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    I'm in the dark about tipping, too.  I definitely know I'm supposed to tip the photographer, the florist, and the band, and I've decided in advance that I'm already NOT tipping the band.  The seating chart thing depends on what your caterer wants.  We chose a buffet so we didn't need to do a seating chart, but if their meals are being delivered to their table, your caterer might need some kind of cue.  Have you thought about giving your guests cards with their meal options on them?  That way they can sit wherever they want and your caterer still knows what meal option they chose (i.e. red card for beef, yellow card for chicken, blue card for fish, green card for vegetarian).  Also, if you're afraid of people getting upset about table NUMBERS, opt for table NAMES instead.  For example, my table names (and I'm doing this entirely for fun) are based on purple and green (my wedding colors) gemstones (cuz I'm a geologist) like amethyst, peridot, spinel, tourmaline, etc.  It's kind of fun, and there's no heirarchy built in.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    It's not all inclusive, but here's a guide from TK.  http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-budget/articles/wedding-vendor-tipping-cheat-sheet.aspx I know I'm still working through who all we need to tip, but that guide was a good starting point.

    I think a small thank you for your quartet is appropriate.  Something simple like a gift card or just a cash tip, perhaps.

    As for the seating chart - no, you don't have to have one.  I've probably been to more weddings without one than with.  But if you do decide to have one, don't stress about keeping the numbers even.  We have tables that range from 5 to 8.  I tried to keep it close to 6, but it was more important for me to have people seated with those they would enjoy rather than making it "look good."  Like PPs, I am also having table names instead of numbers.  Our theme is a little bit of James Bond, so we will be having movie titles. 

    HTH!
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