mother of the groom is wearing royal blue...

vljaimes · May 2010

My wedding colors are brown gold and champagne ...I had previously asked my mom and my future mother in law how she felt about wearing a color that goes with the theme of the wedding and she was absolutely ok with it ...a couple of weeks later she tells me that she found the dress that she wants to wear and it so happens to be bright ass royal blue..!!! i was a little upset because she had already told me she would go with the theme ...and now she is going to stand out so much in all of our family pictures and too be honest its going to look so tacky especially because I was going to have both fathers wear a tux along the same colors of the mothers ...should i say something ?

SarahPLiz · May 2010

No, She is an adult and is allowed to wear what she wants. She is not a prop for your pcitures, nor is she required to blend in. You can only dictate the attire of your wedding party, and your parents are generally not your wedding party.

pixiedust84 · May 2010

Seriously? This is a problem?

She's a grown up. Grown ups dress themselves. Don't say anything - you'll look like a terrible bridezilla.

bablingbrooke · May 2010

SOUND THE ALARM! FMIL IS WEARING ROYAL BLUE!!!!!!

Get. Over. It. This is what we like to call a non-issue. Your FMIL is your FI's mother, not a prop. My FMIL wore navy even though the BMs wore coral. Do you think I agonize over that? No.

trix1223 · May 2010

You get to dictate for members of the WP only. Your mom and your FMIL are NOT members of the WP. They are grown women who have dressed themselves for years before you were even born, and can continue to do so.

News flash: Of the 3,000 pictures taken on your wedding day, chances are about 100% that NONE will be a formal of the WP and the MOB/MOG.

Do you really want to start your married life with the woman who will be your MIL and the grandmother of your children by getting into a snit about a DRESS?

FWIW: Here's how to be the perfect DIL. It's the answer my wonderful DIL (who I adore) gave me regarding dress:

me: What do you want me to wear to the wedding?
DIL: Whatever you feel beautiful and comfortable in.

That's the answer for your FMIL: "FMIL, do you love the dress? Do you feel beautiful in it? Then it's just perfect! Congratulations on finding your dress."

trix1223 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]My wedding colors are brown gold and champagne ...I had previously asked my mom and my future mother in law how she felt about wearing a color that goes with the theme of the wedding and she was absolutely ok with it ...a couple of weeks later she tells me that she found the dress that she wants to wear and it so happens to be bright ass royal blue..!!! i was a little upset because she had already told me she would go with the theme ...and now she is going to stand out so much in all of our family pictures and too be honest its going to look so tacky especially because I was going to have both fathers wear a tux along the same colors of the mothers ...should i say something ?
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psichick · May 2010

my FMIL is also wearing royal blue. and omfg it's a floor length dress! my girls will be in sage dresses with a chocolate sash that are tea length. the horror!!!!!!

in other words, this isn't a big deal. people don't have to dress to match each other at any other party, why should they have to for your wedding? no one will look tacky and no one will notice or care.

aerinpegadrak · May 2010

Are you going to be coordinating the attire of all of your other wedding guests too? After all, if any one person in attendance doesn't coordinate with everyone else, your marriage will be declared null and void.

I don't have a single picture of the parents with the entire wedding party. The only time there's any overlap is in the family shots, and then it looks just like any normal family event where people dress themselves like grownups instead of trying to look like the family reunion at Disneyland.

trix1223 · May 2010

**wait!!** There's a family reunion at Disneyland? Shoot, I don't have my tickets yet.

bablingbrooke · May 2010

We had a family reunion at Disneyland once! Didn't do the matching shirts, though.

banana468 · May 2010

As PPs have said:

1) This isn't your call at all. Your FMIL is a grown woman. Her attire is entirely her choice. In fact, for you to have asked her to wear colors in the wedding theme was borderline inappropriate at least.

2) Do you ever get upset when people aren't in coordinating outfits in other photos? This is one of the silliest things to fret over.

megk8oz · May 2010

Grown ups can dress themselves. And nobody, but nobody is going actually notice/care if she "coordinates" with your BP.

Pretty much unless she planned on showing up naked, there's no reason for you to "say something" to her about her attire choices.

aerinpegadrak · May 2010

I actually kind of loved the matching families, especially at Jungle. "Hi, how many? Oh, Blue Team. In you go!"

I hated when my mom made us wear coordinating clothes, though.

mbcdefg · May 2010

I don't think you understand what the word "tacky" means. This is not an example of tacky.

loop0406 · May 2010

I wouldn't say anything to her. Just try to forget about it and enjoy your day.

duckie1905 · May 2010

You don't get to dress her. She's a grown woman and has been dressing herself since before you were born. I'm sure she can handle it without input from you (obviously).

Be happy she found something she likes and that she'll look fabulous in. She won't mess up your photos.

While we're on it, you can't tell any of your parents how to dress. It doesn't matter what your color scheme or theme is. You don't get to tell any of the parents what they should be wearing or insisting they coordinate.

Our colors were black, burgundy, and ivory. My mom and my MIL wore blue. I guess this means that my photos are ruined-I just didn't realize it.

Get a grip, seriously. This is so not something to be stressing about.

Licia&Wayne · May 2010

Also, OP, I think a beautiful blue dress would look smashing with your brown/gold/champagne color palette.

Don't worry about this at all. All that matters is their comfort, because if they're comfortable, they will look good no matter what color they're wearing.

mbcdefg · May 2010

Oh, and our bridal party members were in black and green. My mom wore ice blue. The world did not end and everything looked fine.

Whippet8 · May 2010

This really is not a problem. Don't stress yourself out.

Besides, you have no say in what she wears.

FWIW, my mother wore "saphire" which is pretty close to royal blue. My colors were black, white and purple. She looked beautiful.

JennaV26 · May 2010

The owner of the boutique where I bought my dress worked with a bride whose MIL hated her. The day of the wedding said MIL showed up in a crazy bright colored prom dress just to spite the bride.

Royal blue dress looking any better now?

panda10 · May 2010

Let her wear what she wants. I know it's frustrating and I had to deal with it too. Chances are she'll be in about 4 pictures and if she stands out that bad, she'll realize it when you get the pictures back.

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