Do I have to include both my future sisters-in-law in the wedding party?

Re: Do I have to include both my future sisters-in-law in the wedding party?

• misssunshine17 member

  

  November 2012

  Ditto PPs. I would weigh out family politics. It's not worth piissing a lot of people off. 

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• heroeswearbrown member

  

  November 2012

  Ditto PP. FI and I have all 4 of our sisters in the WP and to avoid any undue family drama, FI is including both of his sisters' (K and V) boyfriends in the BP. V probably wouldn't care one way or another but we'd never hear the end of it from K and FMIL if we didn't include K's boyfriend.

  

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• StephJean83 member

  

  November 2012

  As PPs have said, you can include one or both or neither. It is up to you to decide. One scenerio that I didn't see was having your FI include K in his side so she is still in the WP and she could wear a different style dress in the same color as the BMs or same dress in a complimentry color or all the women wear a certain color and fabric and each have a different dress that fits them.
  

  You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back. - Barbara DeAngelis

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• Jen4948 member

  

  November 2012 edited November 2012

  Before you make any decisions, factor in the following:
  
  Family politics aside, can you count on either H or K to cooperate with you and each other, be supportive, be timely, and not take their personal gripes out on you?  If not, then don't ask them, family politics or no. Don't just ask them to get your future ILs off your back-they'll be riding it even harder by taking their daughters' side in every disagreement.
  
  One other suggestion: Your FI could have his sisters stand up with him.  There are no rules of etiquette preventing one from having attendants of the opposite gender.

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• Lisa50 member

  

  November 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_do-i-have-to-include-both-my-future-sisters-in-law-in-the-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:9b39c818-5651-42cb-8616-b750238ce796Post:4107fa86-5e7b-4619-91e0-dabf2ee922aa">Re: Do I have to include both my future sisters-in-law in the wedding party?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Before you make any decisions, factor in the following: Family politics aside, can you count on either H or K to cooperate with you and each other, be supportive, be timely, and not take their personal gripes out on you?  If not, then don't ask them, family politics or no. Don't just ask them to get your future ILs off your back-they'll be riding it even harder by taking their daughters' side in every disagreement. One other suggestion: <strong><font color="#800080">Your FI could have his sisters stand up with him.  There are no rules of etiquette preventing one from having attendants of the opposite gender.</font></strong>
  Posted by Jen4948[/QUOTE]
  
  That solution will take all the heat off of you.  Why hasn't <u>he</u> asked them already??

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• Kristin789 member

  

  November 2012

  Exactly.
  
  His sisters are not long-term extremely good friends of yours who have been with you through thick and thin.  You just met them like two years ago.
  
  FI has known them his whole life.  If he considers them extremely good friends who have been with him through thick and thin, then they would be eligible to stand up on HIS SIDE.

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