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Shower Locations and Q's

Hi Girls- my mom and maids are in the process of planning my shower.
We live in Cumberland, as do 3 of my bridesmaids- the rest are traveling from out of State and staying with us.

My mom is stumped on places to have a shower. She currently has a date reserved at Kirkbrae, just becuase its clean, nice, close. etc. But isn't thrilled with their shower menu for a brunch and is thinking of doing more of a luncheon.

Anyway- my MOH called my mom suggesting places such as The Duck and Bunny (too small!), Paragon (too dark in the backroom and not the vibe we want), and Trattoria Romano (3 hr time limit and a $2000 spending minumum=too expensive).

Does anyone else have any suggestions?
Here is what my mom/maids are looking for: Cute, good food, "girly" look, bright, and at  least a 4 hr rental of the place. 3 hrs just seems too short to eat and open gifts and do cake etc.

Also, my mom said she wants to pay for some of the shower so the girls don't have to pay more than $100 pp. My 4 aunts are also chipping in. With my mom paying likely a larger chunk she feels like she should have some say- plus, it's my mom. She said she mentioned to my MOH that my guest list for the shower was around 55 but she knew that we would only have around 40 people and my moh said "REALLY< we only wanted to throw her a small shower with 20 people or so!" so i guess my BM's and mom aren't on the same page. My mom can't invite my one cousin, and not another. and I have 20 poeple including immediate family and friends alone..... so unless i have a separate shower with my family and one with just my college friends and bridesmaids, i don't see having a shower w 20 guests.

Ek- should I get involved and send MOH my guest list so she knows whats going on? Or just stay out.

This is hardbecuse my mom is calling me upset and I am trying to stay "uninvolved" i have enough other stuff to stress about.
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Re: Shower Locations and Q's

  • musictchr25musictchr25 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that if your MOH wants to be that involved, you should give your mom your her contact info so they can get in touch with each other and discuss things.  It seems that your mom does want some help with things, and since you're not really in a place to help with your own shower, your MOH may be just the person to lend a hand and provide ideas.
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  • i2012doi2012do member
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    edited December 2011
    My MOH and Mom did speak. My MOH';s mom and my mom are BFFS. So my MOH and Mom spoke last night. That's why my mom was upset this am. She thinks tehy are going in totally dif. directions. And I think its hard for my mom to step on my MOH's toes but some of her suggestions don't work, logistically.
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  • musictchr25musictchr25 member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, sorry. I must have misread that.  

    Would Providence or North Providence be too long of a drive for your shower?
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  • edited December 2011
    How about Angelo's on Mendon Rd.? I heard they have good food, and heard that they are pretty reasonable.
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  • i2012doi2012do member
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    Providence and North Providence both would work.

    I didn't consider Angelos- we eat there all the time but there really isn't a private room for a Shower... they are building one, but i don't think it would be ready.
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  • musictchr25musictchr25 member
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    Blue Grotto has a few locations, and private rooms, but IDK if that is too $$.

    ETA: Whoa, didn't realize that their lowest package was $30/pp...sorry.
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  • i2012doi2012do member
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    Oh I didn't think about Vintage in Woonsocket. I don't know what their private room looks like. I think that she wants to stay around $25 pp
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  • edited December 2011
    Ugh... I know my MOHs and Mom/FMIL had some differences of opinions when planning the shower. And it's very stressful to try and stay out of it. I don't have any suggestions as to how to stay uninvolved, but good luck! And don't let it ruin any part of your day!

    My shower was at the Colonel Blackington Inn in Attleboro (http://www.colblackintoninn.com/events.html), not sure if that's too far for your crowd? The shower took place in the Carriage House, which holds up to 55 people. It's separate from the Inn/Restaurant, so it was completely private, with it's own bar & restroom. It's set in a garden and you can use the space outside if you have cocktails/hor d' ouerves at the shower & there were a lot of nice spots for taking pictures with the bridal party. (I can send pictures if you like!)

    I'm not sure what the exact pricing is, but I assume reasonable as my bridal party wasn't in the position to spend big $$$.

    Or you mentioned Vintage... River Falls across the street from there is a nice location for a shower. I've been to a few there and I know they are reasonably priced.
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  • i2012doi2012do member
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    edited December 2011
    Does River Falls have a smaller private room upstairs? I've only ever sat downstairs.

    Vintage has a menu for $20 pp buffet. That seems better than the $20 pp brunch buffet at kirkbrae.

    I wish there was a place more like Duck and Bunny around (but bigger!)- its so cute. Or like Upstairs on the Square in Boston! er.

    My mom also suggested renting the upstairs area of trinty- does anyone know about that?
    I feel  too Over involved in my shower!
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  • edited December 2011
    Riverfalls has a function room upstairs. I've been to a few showers there... I believe they were all a brunch buffet (DELICIOUS!), but they probably offer a lunch menu if you're interested? There is also a function room downstairs (below the  main level of the restaurant), but I've never seen it.

    I think it's nice of you to make suggestions, but maybe for the final decision making, to step back. You shouldn't be worried about the menu or pricing. Leave that to the Mom/MOH/Bridal party... you'll want to have some surprised the day of!
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  • edited December 2011
    How about Chelo's?
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  • i2012doi2012do member
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    the closest chelos to us is warwick i think- and i think thats a bit far. Prov and north is great.
    I am REALLY stuck on ideas.
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  • i2012doi2012do member
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    "far" im sucha  rhode islander
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  • RoyalOrientRoyalOrient member
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    edited December 2011
    Cav has a uber cozy lounge area although the decor is a bit eclectic. My MOH hosted my brunch shower there and I loved it! It was very intimate. The food was oh so delish! I am not sure how many people you are having though but I did work with my MOH with the guest list. 

    And like you said, Vintage is also a great place to host a brunch shower. The food is yum! Also there is Bravo Brassier which is a bit of a blank canvas so it allows for any theme shower to take place there. 

    Hope your mom and MOH can work something out. I am sure there are a few other restuarants in the area that will work for both parties. I will say that I also had drinks later with my girls and some of my female relatives at Pearl - also in Providence. They booked a room...forget which one and we had fun - it was like a smaller group of 17 girls.


  • i2012doi2012do member
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    Oh thanks Moni I didn't think of Bravo! That is one of fi and i's fav. places to eat.

    We thought about Cav. But my cousin just had her shower ther (and it was awesome) and she is one of those types that will pout if someone "copies" her (lame i know)

    I passed along the Bravo suggestion to my mom! That might be a great compromise, then I can grab drinks with friends nearby after, or even downstairs at the bar
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  • RIFallBrideRIFallBride member
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    edited December 2011
    Crystal Lake golf course has a beautiful private room.  I have been to bridal shower's there and they do a nice job for brunch.  I would recommend considering there, the room is beautiful, great views, big private space and should be fairly convenient.  Not sure on price.

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  • edited December 2011
    I'm not sure of venues in that neck of the woods, but I have some thoughts regarding the riff b/w your MOH and Mom.
    Has your mom told your MOH that she'll be covering the balance of the cost? If she told her that, I'd bet that your MOH would back off of the guest list number.
    Alternatively, sometimes brides have two showers, particularly in cases like this. The BMs throw a smaller one for you and your friends, and your mom and aunts throw one for the family. Then each side gets to pick the venue that suits their tastes and head count and keeps the costs reasonable. Just a thought.
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