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Wedding Woes

New =)

Hello Ladies!

I introduced myself to my local board ( detroit, mi) but I'm venturing over here because I've been feeling some wedding woes...I've been with my fiance for 4 years got engaged july of 2009 and trying to plan a wedding for July or September of 2012 and I think my fiance is more worried about the money and less excited about getting married like me =) 

I keep telling him we have a year to save but he still gets frustrated and worried...How come everybody wants you to get married but never tells you how much money people want from you?.....tell I'm not alone in being bummed out about how much this is going to cost?

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Re: New =)

  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    It will only cost as much as you are willing to spend. You could go down to your local courthouse and get married by a JOP and then have a dinner party at your house. Cheap, easy, pressureless.

    Everything beyond that is unnecessary and extra, so remember that when you're looking at the fuckinghigh prices of preprinted programs (that you don't need) and favors (that people will most likely toss)
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  • edited December 2011

    You and your FI need to sit down and plan a budget,

    Do you want a house?  How much do you need to put down? If not, where are you going to live?  FIgure out obligations like car payments, putting down towards a home, etc.  and figure out what your FI is comfortable spending.  Are you getting help from parents?  Have a talk with them if they are willing and able...

    Weddings are more expensive in June and August(I'm a june bride I know.)  I try to negotiate prices, but I have no bargaining power, there are 10 brides behind me willing to pay that price for that date.  My cousin got married in Sept, and was able to negotiate because it's not as popular and a vendor would rather have a booking for something, than nothing at all.

    When you know your budget, figure out what's important to you, for me it's photography and i'm spending a little more on that.  To me, flowers aren't so important, so i'm being a minimalist with that. 

    FI is probably nervous because he wants to give you the world--just afraid how much it's gonna cost him and how he's going to pull it off.  It's a huge pressure, so be realistic in what you're "dream wedding" is and he needs to be honest and open with you.  The wedding industry is going to make you think you NEED ice sculptures and crap that no one remembers after they go home.  Keep it in perspective, the guests aren't going to pay your mortgage or bills, so don't try to impress anyone.  Your wedding day is a special day, but  I hope you have MANY MANY days after that to prepare for!

  • RMacQueenRMacQueen member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I agree with PPs. Priorities. We are not doing a guest book, escort cards, we had a friend do our invites (he owns a printshop) and everything else is coming in at $10,000.00. You don't have to spend the average $28,000.00 (or something insane like that) for your wedding. Just budget smart and spend money where you want to, not where you think you have to. Good luck planning! 
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