Stressed to the Max

AshnRobo · March 2012

So, we still don't have a venue. We did then we didn't. Then we did again, and then we didn't again.

Now, I've selected one that would be awesome, but they have never had a wedding so they are "looking" into it. They said it would take 4-6 weeks to figure out, and told me to email them around the begining of April if I don't hear back.

I'm mega worried they aren't taking it serious, or have forgotten us. Or that they won't be able to let us have the wedding there...or that they will, but it will be so expensive we can't do it.

I've tried looking for "back-up" venues, but everytime I find one it books up two or three days after I decide it will be plan "B". I don't want to put a deposit down on a place that I'm not certain it will even be at..

Ugh, any advice?

lbarr088 · March 2012

That's tough. So many venues around us book up a year + in advance. Once we found a deal we barely had a moment to think about it and just did it. If this newest place is the most feasible option I'd try and wait it out. It will be hard to find a plan "B" this far out without it booking up.

If I were you, I'd be a little bit annoying and check in on them every once and awhile and ask how their progress is going. That way you can hopefully get some sort of vibe of whether they really are taking it serious or not. If you don't receive a confident response from them it might be good to research into other venues as a permanent option.

What are they looking into? Meals, seating configuration, etc.? Is there anything you could "help" them with to speed up the process since they haven't done it before?

BMcLeodTeam · March 2012

These 'plan Bs', have you looked at cancellation costs? Would you lose the deposit if you cancel when you're supposed to find out about Plan A? If not, then I would say put the deposit down, you have nothing to lose. If you do, then you need to weigh whether that deposit amount is worth you having the security of knowing you have a venue regardless.

lbarr088 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_stressed-to-the-max?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:1e9d745e-e76a-45e2-914c-df7838590f94Post:8ae0cf4b-2226-418e-a09f-4d4c4ceeae6a">Re: Stressed to the Max</a>:
[QUOTE]These 'plan Bs', have you looked at cancellation costs? Would you lose the deposit if you cancel when you're supposed to find out about Plan A? If not, then I would say put the deposit down, you have nothing to lose. If you do, then you need to weigh whether that deposit amount is worth you having the security of knowing you have a venue regardless.
Posted by BMcLeodTeam[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto, I thought about this as I was entering data into Excel lol. Clearly my mind is not on my work ;)</div>

mamameech · March 2012

holy moly I'd be stressed to!!! If a place wasn't sure if they could "do" a wedding and couldn't tell me before 4-6 weeks, I'd be looking elsewhere!! I just couldn't rely on that but maybe you're a lot more easy going than I am lol

6 mos to the date would classify finding a venue as urgent for sure so I really hope you can set something concrete soon. Do you have any other options available? Do you know any local brides or planners that can help you lock something down?

entropicbeauty · March 2012

Is it possible to have a backup of renting a giant tent and doing it in a relatives back yard?

Till I found a venue that ended up being perfect, I was definitely thinking I might have to break down and ask a relative if we could use their back yard and set up a giant tent.

I've seen pictures of weddings where they decorate the tent and it actually can look quite magical

AshnRobo · March 2012

Well our dream place is the local drive in theater. It burned down the year we met. It was the location of our second date. The owner was very enthusiastic and said he was honored we would want to do the wedding there.

All the places I've found have a 50% deposit non-refundable. So, yes booking and not doing it there would be a major loss.

The area I am in does not have a lot of options for weddings and most of them are outrageously prices.

I think my ultimate fall back will be my parents home, which is where it was originally going to be, but we changed it when we changed out date b/c the weather can be pretty awful that early in September. So, I guess if I get desperate, we can do it there...

CowgirlK39 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_stressed-to-the-max?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:1e9d745e-e76a-45e2-914c-df7838590f94Post:04a895be-7e59-48cf-a147-684ba17ca76b">Re: Stressed to the Max</a>:
[QUOTE]That's tough. So many venues around us book up a year + in advance. Once we found a deal we barely had a moment to think about it and just did it. If this newest place is the most feasible option I'd try and wait it out. It will be hard to find a plan "B" this far out without it booking up. If I were you, I'd be a little bit annoying and check in on them every once and awhile and ask how their progress is going. That way you can hopefully get some sort of vibe of whether they really are taking it serious or not. If you don't receive a confident response from them it might be good to research into other venues as a permanent option. <strong>What are they looking into? Meals, seating configuration, etc.? Is there anything you could "help" them with to speed up the process since they haven't done it before?
</strong>Posted by lbarr088[/QUOTE]

This is what I was wondering. What's the issue? What type of place is it (private residence, a special public place, etc)? I would keep on them too. I am sort of in your shoes as well. Suddenly the people who agreed to have our ceremony will not return my calls and one person even forgot who I was completely. I am working on a back up plan this weekend, but I suggest you do as PP's said and either use a relative's backyard as a Plan B or maybe just pick a place and settle. That doesn't sound appealing but it just might have to happen.

AshnRobo · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_stressed-to-the-max?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:1e9d745e-e76a-45e2-914c-df7838590f94Post:4a16ecef-27e9-43a7-9d4a-5000c559b230">Re: Stressed to the Max</a>:
[QUOTE]Well our dream place is the local drive in theater.<strong> It burned down the year we met.</strong> It was the location of our second date. The owner was very enthusiastic and said he was honored we would want to do the wedding there. All the places I've found have a 50% deposit non-refundable. So, yes booking and not doing it there would be a major loss. The area I am in does not have a lot of options for weddings and most of them are outrageously prices. I think my ultimate fall back will be my parents home, which is where it was originally going to be, but we changed it when we changed out date b/c the weather can be pretty awful that early in September. So, I guess if I get desperate, we can do it there...
Posted by AshnRobo[/QUOTE]

I forgot to mention it is currently being rebuilt. Which is another reason I think the owner is taking so long. He is trying to get it open by this season. Its kind of a big deal around here. He said it for sure is going to be operational by September...

CowgirlK39 · March 2012

Ooohh I see. I'd say for now plan on your parents house, and keep on them about the timeline.

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

I would plan on your parents house with hope it opens or just go with a plan B. The problem with waiting isn't just the not knowing where and how much it is going to cost, but you'll also need time to order and get out invitations. I personally would find something now (even if it meant another date change) rather than wait but I need to start working on my invites and need to know my budget since we are paying for our wedding ourselves.

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