I think the most stressful part of planning our Hawaii wedding is dealing with our guests. First it was dealing with my family flipflopping about going (finally got that resolved, I hope!) and now it's our guests inviting uninvited guests, without even asking us if it's ok. Our invites did not say "Joe + guest". It either only said "Joe" or if they have a spouse or significant other, we wrote the specific name of the person "Joe + Melanie". Joe's invite said "Joe" only. So when I heard that Joe wanted to invite his friend (another guy who neither me or my fiance know), I stopped him in his tracks and said sorry, but no plus one's. (Mind you, Joe will have 5 other friends who were invited that are going that he could hang out with and I told him that). I thought everything was fine until I heard he was still b*tching about it to another friend. What can I say to our guests who want to invite a plus one even though we're not allowing it? The whole reason why we're having a destination wedding is to avoid the random people at our wedding. It is an intimate affair for our closest family and friends. Ugh! sooo stressed!