Pressing issues I need help with

CowgirlK39 · July 2012

I'm stressing x100 today. I've been at the new job a week and I'm freaking out because I have tons to do, no idea how to do it, and no one to help me. We are so busy that the guy who normally would be helping me is covering for others and we have deadlines to have this stuff done by.

But on top of that, we are having the whole WP attire issues again. Sam, my BM who ordered all the dresses, has not told me a thing about when they will be here. I have asked and she either says she can't get a hold of the salon or she blows off my question. She told me that for some reason they could only be ordered long when we wanted knee length. I find that weird because the designers site even says you order them how you want them. Its 65 days away and I don't think we will even have time to get them hemmed. Should I keep on her till she gives me an answer? What do I do if they don't come in on time?

The guys are also causing problems. FI gave two guy's sizes to the place we are ordering their clothes from, but they have not called us yet to say if anything is in. I have our Best Man's size but totally dropped the ball and forgot to call them and have them ordered. Fi doesn't even talk to these guys much these days so we don't know how they feel about these outfits, or what stuff they already have and can use and what needs to be ordered. Do I take this out of FI's hands and deal with it all myself???? I really don't think I can handle much more wedding BS!

cronin85 · July 2012

If it was me I would the salon about the girls dresses myself and get straight answers from them. If they try giving you the run around I ask for my money back and go to another salon to order different dresses for your girls.

For the guys, my FI has a tendenacy to procrastinate everything. Again, I would probably take control myself and talk to the guys and the place directly and get it done.

It seems like alot to take on especially with everything else going on in your life right now. But, in the long run it will be a big weight lfited off your chest knowing you talked to everyone directly and got the answers you needed.

lbarr088 · July 2012

1. Yes, keep on her or call the salon yourself. The one part that's pretty much expected about being in a wedding is to wear the appropriate dress and to show up. Basically, that's their only "job." If it was me, I would call the salon, or even go there if it was remotely possible (which it might not be) and speak with someone directly to get a better understanding of what is going on versus hearing it through someone else.

2. Remind your FI that the wedding is SOON, it's time to get the ball rolling and get these things finished. He should be able to handle that much. My FI has sent out a few friendly "reminder" text messages for his guys to get fitted and book hotels. It took a few but it's all done. If your FI is still having trouble I'd step in, I mean, it's not like you have another year to plan.

As an aside, I'm super anal about things and find it a hell of a lot easier to do things myself then wait and realize nothing is done. That's how I based my answers pretty much

BMcLeodTeam · July 2012

I would totally call the salon myself to get a straight answer.

CowgirlK39 · July 2012

Okay, good ideas girls. About the dresses... I would have to ask Sam for the salon info since she is OOT and ordered them from some place by her. Do you think she would be mad/offended if I asked her for it?

I guess I am going to have to take the guys stuff on myself. It really cannot wait any longer.

egm900 · July 2012

My boss says you can say anything to anyone, how they react to it will all depend on how you phrase it. I would either make it sound:

A) Nonchalant (hey so and so asked me where we ordered our dresses from the other day and I felt silly saying I didn't know the name of the salon)

or

Like you're doing her a favor (I know it's difficult managing everything with the dresses, I have a question for the salon, can I get their name so I can just call them directly instead of making you the middle man?).

My boss is a big fan of say something positive, negative, positive (like you have been so helpful with the bridesmaid dresses, I feel like the salon is going to be able to better answer my questions or I feel like I don't know what's going on so I would like to contact the salon directly, I appreciate all the hard work you've put in, you are such a good friend, etc.). Sometimes I don't even notice when my boss does it and I don't have a negative thought about our convo in my mind, although if he'd only said the negative I probably would have been really mad.

Laur110 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_pressing-issues-i-need-help-with?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:94d1f1d5-2f2b-4556-8258-75b15fb286f4Post:4192289b-626b-4378-ab21-77d56f058bdf">Re: Pressing issues I need help with</a>:
[QUOTE]My boss says you can say anything to anyone, how they react to it will all depend on how you phrase it. I would either make it sound: A) Nonchalant (hey so and so asked me where we ordered our dresses from the other day and I felt silly saying I didn't know the name of the salon) or B) Like you're doing her a favor (I know it's difficult managing everything with the dresses, I have a question for the salon, can I get their name so I can just call them directly instead of making you the middle man?). My boss is a big fan of say something positive, negative, positive (like you have been so helpful with the bridesmaid dresses, I feel like the salon is going to be able to better answer my questions or I feel like I don't know what's going on so I would like to contact the salon directly, I appreciate all the hard work you've put in, you are such a good friend, etc.). Sometimes I don't even notice when my boss does it and I don't have a negative thought about our convo in my mind, although if he'd only said the negative I probably would have been really mad.
Posted by egm900[/QUOTE]

I second this! Hope you are able to get the salon info you need so that you can figure out what is going on!

cronin85 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_pressing-issues-i-need-help-with?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:94d1f1d5-2f2b-4556-8258-75b15fb286f4Post:4192289b-626b-4378-ab21-77d56f058bdf">Re: Pressing issues I need help with</a>:
[QUOTE]My boss says you can say anything to anyone, how they react to it will all depend on how you phrase it. I would either make it sound: A) Nonchalant (hey so and so asked me where we ordered our dresses from the other day and I felt silly saying I didn't know the name of the salon) or B) Like you're doing her a favor (I know it's difficult managing everything with the dresses, I have a question for the salon, can I get their name so I can just call them directly instead of making you the middle man?). My boss is a big fan of say something positive, negative, positive (like you have been so helpful with the bridesmaid dresses, I feel like the salon is going to be able to better answer my questions or I feel like I don't know what's going on so I would like to contact the salon directly, I appreciate all the hard work you've put in, you are such a good friend, etc.). Sometimes I don't even notice when my boss does it and I don't have a negative thought about our convo in my mind, although if he'd only said the negative I probably would have been really mad.
Posted by egm900[/QUOTE]

Definitely this!!! Nothing makes people more angry then thinking your insulting them. Make them feel good about it and you will get results!

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