So we have been engaged 4 months now, and still have a year before the wedding. I was thinking about asking people to be in our wedding party soon, but it seems as though some of the excitement has been lost. I know everyone on this board says it's good to wait, but then how do you renew the excitement when you ask people, when it's at the point that they are almost expecting it? If anyone has any ideas of creative/fun ways to ask please let me know!
Re: How to ask
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[QUOTE]I was actually wondering if they make stationary or cards that are made especially for asking people to stand up for them (I wouldn't be surprised, they have cards for everything else). You could invite them over for drinks or snacks or whatever you want and have the cards at each of their place settings. You could even make them yourself if you can't find them, especially if you are into stamping or creative on the computer. I am thinking of doing something like this. I can't fully take the credit because I read this somewhere along the way but I think I'm going to have a small cake for each of them in their favorite color with<strong> "Will you be my bridesmaid?</strong>" on it. My mom makes cakes so this idea might be a little easier for me than others, but anything you do from the heart, I'm sure they will appreciate and feel very honored!
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It's not a proposal. Just ask them. No need for silly stuff.
OP, most people on here will tell you to wait because there are posts daily from people who asked early and have lost touch with a person in the BP or something like that. They want to know how to demote them or fire them, and well- you can't. So yeah the initial "OMG you're engaged!!!!!!!" excitement is over, but your friends will be happy when you ask them 6-9 months out.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How to ask : It's not a proposal. Just ask them. No need for silly stuff. Posted by CA2MT4EveR[/QUOTE]
So, you think my scattered rose petals and scented candles idea is overkill?
You don't need to go crazy or make a big production out of asking. You'll have plenty to spend your money on when it comes to planning your wedding so save your energy & finances for that rather than doing elaborate things - the honor is in the asking....not in how someone is asked. I still remember every time I have been asked to be in a wedding and it was either a simple, in person thing or a phone call and I was so touched. I didn't need fancy cards / cute poems / elaborate cakes.
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I understand wanting everyone to be excited for you, but they will be, regardless of timing, as long as you don't talk about your wedding so much that they all get tired of hearing about it.
Have fun asking them!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How to ask : So, you think my scattered rose petals and scented candles idea is overkill?
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That may be, but you should certainly write them a poem and make it fun with a scavenger hunt around town and each place has a different part of the question. So it starts with *insert cheesy poem liner here* to lead you to place 1 where it says "WILL" as the first clue. Then lead them to "YOU"-"BE"-"MY"&"BRIDESMAID?!?!"
It is certainly memorable, and can even get your future bridesmaids to know eachother. What better way to find their leadership skills and ability to work well with others!
Will they be less excited to be asked in person than to get a cookie shaped like a dress or a card? The honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked.
Seriously, just ask. It makes everyone's life easier.
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I tried to ask in person when I could, on the phone when I couldn't, and through email for my German friend. There was no big production. I didn't plan anything special around asking them. All of them were very excited when I asked them.
Two of mine know, still need to ask one that's sort of unofficial since I haven't known her as long as my other two BMs.
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Call me cheesy but I wanted to ask all my girls in a special way! I bought some "Will You be my BM" cards and I wrote a note in them for each girl. I gave my BFF from HS a bouquet of flowers and then for my MOH (my sister) and my BFF I wrote them each raps! Sounds lame, I know but my BFF and I would make up raps in the library when we got sick of studying so it seemed appropriate. I also do some creative and layout design so I put it together in InDesign with our pictures everywhere... Then my sister wanted one