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Torn

msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
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So, my mom called me yesterday to ask how things were going and if anything new had happened with wedding planning. I told her nope on both fronts. She told me it was weird, all her girlfriends tell her about their daughters' wedding planning that takes a lot of time and lasts at least a year. I had everything handled in only a week. I thought that was a good thing. But, now I'm wondering if I'm missing out on the whole "wedding planning" experience. Sure I can change or add any details to the wedding package if I want closer to the date, but I can slo do absolutely nothing but show up with a dress and a groom and have a beautiful wedding. I don't get to go cake testing or meet with florests. I didn't visit 14 different venues, and interview a hand full of different officiants. We picked a place on our favorite island, have a family friend (who's a pastor) as our officiant, and everything else is included. But, still, I wonder. Am I missing out?

Has anyone else felt this way?
"There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"
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  • Meg&AustinMeg&Austin member
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    I am having an AHR so I unfortunately still have to do all those things. But I don't feel wedding wise I can do anymore either until closer because they do do everything for you and you pick things through pictures nt by meeting with people. Don't let it discourage you there does seem to be a lot less planning involved this route!
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  • Julyet06Julyet06 member
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    I think that's the beauty of having a DW.  We can have as much to do as a "normal bride", which can be more stressful because planning from so far away emailing different vendors that don't respond for several days and not being able to physically see what it is we are ordering is stressful enough lol!  On the other hand we can sit back and let the resort handle everything ceremony/reception wise!  I am the same as you except I don't feel as if I am missing out on anything.  I got to have the dress shopping experience, I  now get to go get accessories and shoes.  FI and I had our wedding band shopping experience and there is more to come.  There is so much more to planning a wedding than cake tastings and flowers!  This experience is unique to DW brides, so enjoy it!  I've had a bride in my office that just got married in July say that she envied me for not having to deal with the stress she had, including figuring out where her out of town relatives were going to stay, lol!  

    I say enjoy your engagement and relish in the stuff that you can do.  Why not attend a wedding event?  I've been to 2 with my mom and my brother joined us for one of them, it was fun!  All the cake you can eat, a bunch of vendors to talk to (I faked the funk and pretended I was having a local wedding, lol!)  I entered contests to win honeymoons, make-up trials, had more cake and one event even had an open bar!  That may help you feel more "involved"...but as I said, I don't believe you are missing out on anything :-)
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    I'm kind of happy I don't have to go to a bunch of meetings with potential vendors so far. We did the one planning trip to select our location and will likely do one more trip to do tastings to pick the details of the menu and cake but other than that it is all just pictures and emails. I kind of like it because I can read the email and see the options and think it over without having to have a response immeadiately since we aren't there in person.

    I'm kind of dreading having to meet with folks once we start in on the AHR planning.

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  • cevans11cevans11
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    It's funny that you say that. My friend at work, who sits next me, got engaged a week or so before me, so naturally, we've been comparing notes throughout the process. She was laughing at me, because I basically had my wedding planned in about a week. Once we picked a resort, most of the other details fell into place. 
    I still went dress shopping, and had to pick out invites, etc, but most things have been pretty simple. 
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  • msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
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    Thanks ladies. I just wanted to hear that I wasn't alone. I've heard enough of the drama from my friends as they planned their weddings and FI and I are so laid back we wanted none of that. I just wanted someone else to tell me that it's ok I'm not freaking out over table settings and seating arraingments.

    "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"
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  • Julyet06Julyet06 member
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    I am happy to be able to enjoy being engaged and not stressed with making so many decisions!  I know I can get overwhelmed at times so it's perfect!  Plus it gave me a chance to focus on my studies!
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