Stranger Insults

Re: Stranger Insults

• librababy

  

  April 2012

  That sucks. How rude. Who cares the size of the ring or what stone setting it is. You are getting married YIPPEEE! Celebrate! I am wedding planning without a ring. ha! 

  

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• ATexasBelle member

  

  April 2012

  My mom did that after we drove 2 hours to tell her in person that we were engaged. There's a reason we're not talking anymore lol.

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  April 2012

  I wouldn't let it get to you, and if it was me, I'd probably have some comeback like, "Well actually I LOVE my ring. I'm more interested in the meaning behind it than having a flashy ring to try to impress people" and then walk away.

  
  
  
  
  

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• spiment member

  

  April 2012

  I also recently got engaged (Thursday, yippee!) and gave my fiance a cap on the amount I wanted him to spend (I personally don't see the value in traditional diamonds, and I'd rather have a down payment on a home) and told him I'd really prefer a black diamond. He got me the exact ring I wanted--it's absolutely everything I wanted, not a single complaint here. Well I was showing it off to my classmates (law student here) and was telling them all this and one responded "Oh, I told my boyfriend if he wasnt going to spend over 6K then it just wouldnt be worth it" which of course implicitly means my fiance didn't spend enough! 

  
  

  I just shrugged it off and said you know what, I have what I want and nothing anyone else says means anything!

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• kaybee1987

  

  April 2012 edited April 2012

  Ugh, people are so rude!  I haven't had anything like that on my ring, but somebody my fiance works with basically told him the way he proposed was terrible.  She couldn't control her mouth, and while I understand that she would have preferred a proposal that put her in a HUGE crowd of people with her being the center of attention, she had no right to tell him to his face that his idea was lacking.  Truly shattered his confidence--but for us, it was perfect!  Private, in the comfort of our apartment, with his personality shining through!   

  
  

  Some people really just don't know how to be happy for others!  

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• erinjeremygoulder

  

  April 2012

  wow. we're all blessed to have found our match and agree with everyone- its not about the money or size of the ring- that mentality does not a marraige make! so happy to hear all the healthy down-to-earth responses! 

  
  

  a diamond is a rock. the whole tradition is made up, like most of the wedding traditions. they're meant to be full of love and creativity, not fear, criticism, and shallowness. we can make up our own traditions and idea of a wedding- thats what we're doing....

  
  

  congrats everyone and keep love the focus

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• DMoore421 member

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_stranger-insults?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:b8d6c5fc-896c-4979-bfc0-ea3cfb3532cbPost:6670330a-d137-438d-96af-890fde7b3182">Stranger Insults</a>:
  [QUOTE]I had been engaged 4 days and was overwhelmed with joy and compliments from everyone. People I didn't even know came up to me asking to be a bridesmaid. So many different emotions flooded my mind but all of them were sweet. That is until a student of my fiance came up to me. This woman was in her 40s and had been married happily for several years. Without even the slightest introduction she grabbed my hand and stated, "Don't worry. When he becomes a doctor you can always upgrade". She dropped my hand and I stood there shocked as I looked down at my white gold ring with the glowing pearl. Ouch...The point of a ring isn't the price you can put on it but the symbol of it. Has anyone else had a similar experience? People be crazy...
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  I have always said I didn't want a big fancy ring.  When my fiance's mother passed he inherited TONS of jewelry that she had made - or was in the process of making as well as stones and findings... I told him if he wanted to go through what she left and find a ring I would be fine with it - and always said I didn't want him spending a fortune on a ring anyways - didn't have to be a diamond - just had to stand up to being worn every day and then being work on a chain around my neck once I get a job in my profession.
  
  When friends heard that I told him that they all thought I was nuts - to me it's not the money in the ring but what it means for us..
  
  He did end up spending some money and getting me a white gold 1/8 carat diamond ring - and I LOVE it - but when a few people have asked how big or why so small... which doesn't matter because it's the perfect size AND he respected my wishes by not spending money that can go towards to wedding on a ring

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