I'm disappointed with my MOH. Not because I expected her to plan a shower. Because she promised me she would, and that it will most likely be a surprise shower because she loves throwing surprise showers. So I stopped inquiring about it months ago. Until I realized last week that "gee, isn't it cutting it a little close". I still didn't say anything because I didn't know what to say. Then today "Oh, we need to figure out your shower and bachelorette. We should co-plan it so you can get exactly what you want."
I explained to her that it's probably too late to do anything now, and while she can ask my opinion on things, I'm not supposed to plan my own shower. Her exact words were "I'm sorry, I'm not a very good planner and I don't know anything about weddings I wish you nagged me more". I told her I accept her apology, and I am sorry for not saying something sooner, only because I didn't want to come off as a bridezilla. I told her I hoped she didn't feel pressured to plan something she didn;t want to plan, but then she said "i wanted to plan it, i just put it off, I'm so sorry". We made up. I moved on.
Now I find out she has contacted my FMIL for help. That is fine, but I really don't know if this should be happening at all. I don't want to refuse it because I would love to have a shower, but I also know that people won't appreciate the last minute notice, and not that many people will me able to make it. I don't want to ruffle any feathers or make things worse.
