People must be clueless

allychase · September 2012

I can't believe the amount of people who are like "We're invited to your wedding right...?" that I hadn't planned on inviting. People don't seem to understand that it costs a lot of money for every single person that comes and it's not just like a backyard BBQ at my house where if one or two more show up it's not an issue.

I would personally NEVER ask someone if I was invited to their wedding knowing how awkward it is and how it puts them on the spot.. But I guess not everyone feels the same way. I mean we already have the ones subtly trying to get an invitation, it's even more awkward addressing the ones who straight up ask.

Anyone else have the ones trying to blatantly ask if they're invited? I'm getting tired of saying "well we're trying to keep the guest list strictly to close family and friends" or other variations of that phrase.. blah

ETA: Grammar fix

misssunshine17 · September 2012

I've had this happen. I just say unfortunately, we can't invite everyone we'd like to. People will get the hint.

jennipea382 · September 2012

I know the feeling. There is one girl I went to college with that asked if she was being invited. Luckily it was far enough out that I could legitimately say I didn't know. But the funny thing is she's someone we NEVER hang out with. We'll see her and talk to her but we don't really ever go out WITH her or anything. Not to mention one of her BFFs is someone that has pretty much ruined a lot of my friendships, so that's a large reason why we don't hang out with her. I don't get how she thinks she should be invited!

It sucks but you pretty much just have to keep doing what you've been doing - "sorry, we're keeping it small and we can't accommodate everyone we would like there" or something. Gets tiring but it's the best way around it IMO.

allychase · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_people-must-be-clueless?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:ddf7b435-77c7-4de6-b5f5-7fbc928dc79fPost:efc90dd9-8fec-4dd4-b9ec-5c94817e87a0">Re:People must be clueless</a>:
[QUOTE]This is like the third time you've posted about this since you joined. Yes, we get it, your friends and family have no manners.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>My friends and family are actually invited.... I'm talking about people who aren't... obviously. Common sense, works wonders!</div><div>
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shaina925 · September 2012

I feel your pain. I think it is so rude to say, so am I invited? I got that a few times.

LoveyHowl · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_people-must-be-clueless?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:ddf7b435-77c7-4de6-b5f5-7fbc928dc79fPost:8ff7d7f8-b226-4711-8137-8e8b3b8bd6a1">Re:People must be clueless</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:People must be clueless: So blocking me WAS just another dramatic bluff. Thought so.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>Ooh, Ally blocked you? That's so dorky. I didn't know people really do that. Then again, we ARE talking about Ally here.</div>

courtski2004 · September 2012

Some people are just tacky. I don't think it has anything to do with them knowing or not knowing how much it costs per person to host a wedding. Even people that we know that were recently married and had a hosted reception asked us if they were invited to ours...it isn't like getting married automatically earns you a PhD in etiquette, unfortunately. As it turns out, the people that did ask for an invitation that ended up not being invited are people that we have not seen or spoken to since the wedding. No love lost.

Keep wedding talk to a standstill around those people, or just be honest with them. No reason to pussyfoot around the inenvitable and keep their hopes up with a generic 'oh, we haven't even established the guest list, we'll have to see' nonsense.

cnf2013 · September 2012

I had a girl in the middle of our camp Christmas party, in front of 60 other staff member, tell me she had better be invited to our wedding because the other two girls that had recently gotten married from camp hadn't invited her and she was so slighted by it. Then she proceeded to stand there and wait for me to give her an answer then and there. People can be tectless and rude. Let it roll off you and don't get so overwhelmed, it's not worth it.

LoveyHowl · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_people-must-be-clueless?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:ddf7b435-77c7-4de6-b5f5-7fbc928dc79fPost:66e8fff2-03b2-461e-abf9-293028463999">Re:People must be clueless</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:People must be clueless : Theoretically she blocked 10 or 12 of us over on E about a month ago. She made a huge deal out of it, I've seriously seen GBCKs with less pomp than the blocking announcement. But either she didn't really do it or she got bored talking to herself and unblocked I guess.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm guessing no one cared, and that took the wind out of her sails? It's no fun making big, dramatic gestures like blocking people when they couldn't care less.</div>

rlavach · September 2012

We only had one person do this…three times. But she is known to be coo coo for coco puffs, so we didn’t take her seriously. She definitely wasn’t invited.

allychase · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_people-must-be-clueless?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:ddf7b435-77c7-4de6-b5f5-7fbc928dc79fPost:9429677c-6308-4887-ad92-0f3723de54f5">Re:People must be clueless</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:People must be clueless : Ooh, Ally blocked you? That's so dorky. I didn't know people really do that. Then again, we ARE talking about Ally here.
Posted by LoveyHowl[/QUOTE]

<div>Ooooh got me! </div>

allychase · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_people-must-be-clueless?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:ddf7b435-77c7-4de6-b5f5-7fbc928dc79fPost:66e8fff2-03b2-461e-abf9-293028463999">Re:People must be clueless</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:People must be clueless : Theoretically she blocked 10 or 12 of us over on E about a month ago. She made a huge deal out of it, I've seriously seen GBCKs with less pomp than the blocking announcement. But either she didn't really do it or she got bored talking to herself and unblocked I guess.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I blocked whoever was talking about me. I thought I blocked you, actually, and just realized it must not have gone through when I was able to see you said something. (Something snide, of course-what else would I expect?) Not everyone wants to hear the garbage that comes out of your mouth, sorry...</div><div>
</div><div>This happened weeks ago, get over it. Hate less.. you'll feel better.

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pinkdocmartens · September 2012

I usually just laugh it off and change the subject
Happened a few times.

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