My mom is so frustrated!!

umsldispatcher · February 2010

Ok so im pretty sure that everyone knows the MOH and BM usually plan adn throw a shower. atleast thats what i was always told and taught. My mom just asked me for addresses of people i would want invited, no big deal i gave her a list of about 25 maybe 30 people, mostly family and a few friends. then i found out that my mom is planning the whole thing because my MOH wont return her phone calls. i have talked to a few other BM's who have told me they will cal lmy mom and help her with whatever she needs. one of the girls tonight almost died when i told her about it!! we have a little over 3 months till the wedding so thats one of the things that if your gonna do has to be done soon between planning adn sending out invites and all that. i have had so many issues with the WP its not even funny, but this kinda hurt my feelings that my mom and aunts are the ones doing all the planning for the shower because my MOH wont return phone calls to see about helping.

gottahavashorti · February 2010

Do your best to stay out of this one. Your BMs don't have to be the ones to throw a shower.

SarahPLiz · February 2010

Yeah, Id say stay out of it. By the looks of your ticker, you have other more important things to prepare for! Congrats!

emilyinchile · February 2010

No one is obligated to throw you a party. If your MOH doesn't want to or can't, that's just fine, and you shouldn't feel hurt about it. Focus on the fact that plenty of other people ARE excited to do this for you. And do not get in the middle of this.

That said, if it's out of character for your MOH not to return calls, I'd probably call just to check in and see how she's doing - without mentioning the party, of course. Maybe she's super busy or under a lot of stress, you never know what's going on with her.

mbcdefg · February 2010

My mom is planning my shower, I've been told. It's not mandatory that the MOH throws it.

Be grateful that you're getting a shower at all. Lots of brides don't receive one.

And like PPs said, instead of being mad that MOH isn't throwing you a party, how about calling her and and seeing if she's O.K.?

CTGirl30 · February 2010

Definately try to stay out of this one. Your mom and the other BMs will work out the detials.

FWIW, my aunts offerered to host my shower (my BMs are helping) - there is no set rule that bridal party members must host a shower for you...so perhaps focus on the positive - you have people who are able & willing to go through the effort / expense to do this nice thing for you.

Ditto mbcdefg about checking in with your MOH as a friend to see if she's okay if her pulling away is out of character for her - don't mention the shower or anything wedding related when you call her to check in, though. She was your friend long before she was your MOH, right? See if she's okay or got something going on in her life that might lead her to be pulling back right now.

And enjoy what's left of your engagement! You're almost married! :-)

umsldispatcher · February 2010

Oh i plan to stay out of it, cuz i do have moe importnant things ti worry about with a 20 month old and an almost 2 week old. I talk to the MOH pretty much on a daily basis so i know she is ok, i jsut asked her if my mom had called her, adn played it off as i thought i gave her the wrong number. she was like oh yeah i have to call her back. so it outta my hands which is just fine with me.

bablingbrooke · February 2010

I'm glad that you came to that conclusion. But please, don't type like a 12 year old.

MOBinFL2008 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_mom-frustrated?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f3723bc9-bc74-4f78-9821-0275a94a0addPost:47167b57-dd19-4a65-9f68-ecd54dcd8cf0">My mom is so frustrated!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok so im pretty sure that everyone knows the MOH and BM usually plan adn throw a shower. atleast thats what i was always told and taught. My mom just asked me for addresses of people i would want invited, no big deal i gave her a list of about 25 maybe 30 people, mostly family and a few friends. then i found out that my mom is planning the whole thing because my MOH wont return her phone calls. i have talked to a few other BM's who have told me they will cal lmy mom and help her with whatever she needs. one of the girls tonight almost died when i told her about it!! we have a little over 3 months till the wedding so thats one of the things that if your gonna do has to be done soon between planning adn sending out invites and all that. i have had so many issues with the WP its not even funny, but this kinda hurt my feelings that my mom and aunts are the ones doing all the planning for the shower because my MOH wont return phone calls to see about helping.
Posted by umsldispatcher[/QUOTE]

When my daughter was married 3 of the 4 BM were OOT. With all of their other expenses, no one ever expected them to plan and pay for a shower. The bride's aunts took care of everything with lots of help from me.

My mom is so frustrated!!

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