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Something old, something new...

Hey Cats and Kittens!!!

I have been thinking a lot lately about wedding traditions.  We decided that we wanted to have a traditional wedding and all that entails, bridesmaids , showers, corsages, et al.  But we wanted to definately do it in a unconventional "us" way.

So my question is what are you all doing (or have done) to keep with tradition and what will you do to make the wedding "a little different"?

Re: Something old, something new...

  • edited December 2011
    We are doing a lot of traditional things with our wedding also. We still have not made a lot of decisions, but we definitely want to do things that are "us" that may deviate slightly from tradition. So far we have decided to have a boy and girl be ring bearers together. We're also having attendants of both genders. As we continue to plan, I expect that we will keep adding elements that are more unique.
  • edited December 2011
    We are having a traditional Wedding. He his having his brother and best friend standing up for him. I having to of my very best girlfiends standing up for me.  We are doing a gater toss and I am thinking of having a boquat toss.not for sure yet. We are also having are kids invole in the wedding two. I will be walking down the asile by myself and he will be waiting for me. We are using different type of music to come in to and not here come the bride.
  • 2dBride2dBride member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not even sure whether our wedding would be considered "traditional" or "nontraditional."  We followed the traditions that worked for us, and ignored the ones that didn't.

    Some we followed:
    • We were married in a synagogue by a rabbi.
    • We had a chuppah (Jewish wedding canopy) and a ketubah (Jewish wedding contract)
    • We exchanged plain gold bands as wedding rings.
    • We had a processional and a recessional, and used classical music for both.
    • Our ceremony mostly followed the traditional Jewish wording, at least in the Hebrew.
    • We both carried bouquets.
    • We both wore long ivory dresses with trains.
    • We both wore pearls and opera gloves.
    • We had "something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue."  And I even wore a silver sixpence in my shoe.
    • We had someone come to the synagogue to do our hair and make-up before the ceremony.
    • We provided kippot (yarmulkes) for our guests.
    • We both wore garters.
    • We broke the glass at the end of the ceremony.
    • We had toasts at the luncheon after the ceremony.
    • We had a first dance.
    • We had a wedding cake, and a ceremonial cake cutting.
    • We had music and dancing at the reception.
    • We had an open bar at the reception.
    • We had a bachelorette party.
    • We had a guestbook at the reception.
    Some we didn't:
    • We did not have engagement rings.
    • No one got "given away."
    • The two of us walked up the aisle together, instead of being escorted.
    • We made the chuppah ourselves.
    • We used English "interpretations" of the Hebrew that did not mention God, and we incorporated the vows from the Church of England ceremony.
    • There were no bouquet toses or garter tosses.
    • We didn't have separate attendants for each of us.  We asked my daughter to be our maid of honor, and she agreed.  We asked my son to be our best man, and he said that a best man is a groom's attendant, so he couldn't be that.  He ended up as our "dude of honor."
    • We did not have floral decorations at the ceremony, other than the bouquets and the dude of honor's bout.
    • We had only the two attendants--no bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, ring bearers, etc.
    • We each kept our own last name.
    • We invited my ex-husband and his sister to the ceremony, and my ex-husband gave the traditional blessing over the bread.
    • Our first dance was a swing dance.
    • There was a dog at the reception.
    • We had a DIY "photobooth" at the reception.
    • Instead of having the traditional two witnesses for the ketubah, we had all of our guests sign as witnesses.
    • Our reception was held in a club that was a converted warehouse, which we decorated ourselves, rather than a traditional reception location.
    • Our reception musician played an accoustic guitar, rather than being a band or DJ.
    • Instead of a traditional rehearsal dinner, we ordered in pizza for all our guests the night before the wedding.
    So, I have no idea whether you would consider our wedding "traditional" or not.  And I don't really think it mattered.  We and our guests had a good time, and we ended up married.  You can check out my wedding recap for more about how it went.
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