Attire Wording

Re: Attire Wording

• shortee426 member

  

  April 2011 edited April 2011

  You don't need to dictate how your guests should dress.  Unless your wedding is black tie or white tie it is extremely inappropriate to list the attire on the invite.

  
  

  I have NO CLUE what "Texas Evening Casual" means, but what I'm picturing involves cowboy boots.

  
  

  If you would like, you can put something on your website that says something along the lines of "the ceremony and reception will be taking place outside.  Please keep the Texas summer heat in mind while choosing your attire."  Do not put it on the invite, though.

  
  
  

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• dmlm4383

  

  April 2011

  Thank you.

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• vicki0508 member

  

  April 2011 edited April 2011

  Ditto shortee.  You can't really tell guests how to dress (unless it's black tie) and Texas Evening Casual could mean many different things to many different people.
  
  I wanted my guests to know the reception was outdoors and they should dress as such, so part of my reception card says
  
  The Garden Pavilion is an outdoor glass enclosure, so please be mindful of the weather when choosing your attire.

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• Audrey&Austin member

  

  April 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_attire-wording-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:b02c6013-1d97-4cc2-bc20-7ee865848866Post:26e8337d-3fc4-4288-8711-55946e449752">Re: Attire Wording</a>:
  [QUOTE]You don't need to dictate how your guests should dress.  Unless your wedding is black tie or white tie it is extremely inappropriate to list the attire on the invite. I have NO CLUE what "Texas Evening Casual" means, but what I'm picturing involves cowboy boots.<strong> If you would like, you can put something on your website that says something along the lines of "the ceremony and reception will be taking place outside.  Please keep the Texas summer heat in mind while choosing your attire."  Do not put it on the invite, though.</strong>
  Posted by shortee426[/QUOTE]
  I understand the summer heat in Texas being in Dallas, and I'm sure most of yoru guests will be able to figure out that its going to be crazy hot and to dress appropriately. 

  
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• tmillien member

  

  April 2011

  I called my outdoor, evening wedding "cocktail casual".

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• ShalaneB1011

  

  April 2011

  I agree on the weather aspect. And putting everything on your wedding website as opposed to the invite. But I do think it is ok to semi-dictate what people wear to your wedding, black tie or not. Who's to say you can tell people what to wear to one style versus another? I am getting married in October in Indiana, land of the snow in the morning and heat lightening at night. This is on my website:
  
  Attire is business casual, per the country club. (No jeans, please.) But we want everyone to be comfortable. It will be October in Indiana, so please remember to check the weather before you leave!
  
  I think the Texas Evening Casual might invoke something closer to button up and ties than khakis and skirts. When I hear evening and wedding, I think dressier. But perhaps in Texas that is different? I think you are on the right track. But remember, there will always be at least one person to show up in jeans and/or T-shirt and shorts. Just prepare yourself for it.

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• shortee426 member

  

  April 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_attire-wording-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:b02c6013-1d97-4cc2-bc20-7ee865848866Post:b376378b-77b4-4157-a3b1-bd751699fe1c">Re: Attire Wording</a>:
  [QUOTE]I called my outdoor, evening wedding "cocktail casual".
  Posted by tmillien[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>But what does "cocktail casual" even mean?  They are contradictory terms as far as I am concerned.  And why do you assume that your guests don't know how to dress for a wedding?  And if for some reason someone showed up underdressed, it would reflect on them, not on you.  You  most likely wouldn't even notice.</div>

  
  
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  April 2011 edited April 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_attire-wording-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:b02c6013-1d97-4cc2-bc20-7ee865848866Post:7b7f4226-00e8-4bf3-95ee-41adc92401e7">Re: Attire Wording</a>:
  [QUOTE]I agree on the weather aspect. And putting everything on your wedding website as opposed to the invite. But I do think it is ok to semi-dictate what people wear to your wedding, black tie or not. <strong>Who's to say you can tell people what to wear to one style versus another?</strong> I am getting married in October in Indiana, land of the snow in the morning and heat lightening at night. This is on my website: Attire is business casual, per the country club. (No jeans, please.) But we want everyone to be comfortable. It will be October in Indiana, so please remember to check the weather before you leave! I think the Texas Evening Casual might invoke something closer to button up and ties than khakis and skirts. When I hear evening and wedding, I think dressier. But perhaps in Texas that is different? I think you are on the right track. But remember, there will always be at least one person to show up in jeans and/or T-shirt and shorts. Just prepare yourself for it. :)
  Posted by ShalaneB1011[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Actually, common manners and acceptable social behavior says so.  You may not like this rule, but it is an accepted rule of etiquette.  </div><div>
  </div><div>The reason it's acceptable for black tie or for jacket required is because those are things that would keep someone out of the venue.  But for formal, cocktail or casual, the invitation, time of day, and venue gives them that information.  </div><div>
  </div><div>Including things like "cocktail casual" will confuse your guests.  But things like "business casual" implies that you think they are heathens or morons who can't dress themselves.  Unless your invitation is meant to be a commentary on trashy family, leave it off.  </div><div>
  </div><div>You may not know or like etiquette, but your guests do.  </div>

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