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City Hall vs. Family

Bex129Bex129 member
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Me and my FI just moved so that he could go to grad school for his PhD and for my job. Both of us are prepared to be broke for awhile but don't see the need for a big wedding. We would go home to NY (where we are both from) to get married at city hall there and have our families present. The problem is his family is insistent on a real wedding and my family is huge so planing a small dinner after city hall seems nearly impossible. Is there some sort of good medium? 
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    What do the two of you actually want?
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  • ElleB87ElleB87 member
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    Part of being an adult is not giving a crap about what your parents are insisting you do. It's your wedding, not theirs. As long as you cover all the expenses yourself you do what you want.
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  • Bex129Bex129 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_city-hall-vs-family?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:a3c616b1-5a76-4f62-b690-1df18f7cb496Post:7eff5cb8-15c5-412e-b8fd-3b49794c2bd2">Re: City Hall vs. Family</a>:
    [QUOTE]What do the two of you actually want?
    Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

    <div>We don't have a preference either way, except that whatever we do it will be in NY and be able to celebrate with as much of the family as possible. </div>
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    Well, you can do a small wedding at City Hall, followed by a fabulous dinner at a restaurant keeping the guest list down to what you want.  How far degree wise does your "huge" family need to go versus the people "insisting" on the big wedding?  Yes, there's a happy medium, you just have to decide what you want to do, how many people you want to do it with and what venue can support that.  There's a lot of room here with the details you provided.  Pretend it's not a wedding, where would you like to plan a party?
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