What are you skipping?

melb2013 · June 2012

So we all have priorities with our money. We all have things that we just don't like about weddings. What are you skipping? Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one skipping things, but here's my list:

Skipping all pre-wedding parties. period.

Things/Vendors:

-Favors

-Hair and Makeup- I'm doing it myself. I've never liked the way anyone has ever done it for me before. My FMIL is going to die when she hears that I'm skipping that one... but... I digress

-Ceremony programs

-Uplighting- we're going to light the entire perimeter of the room with tea lights, which is a thousand times cheaper, and seems more romantic

Traditions:

-Bridesmaids and groomsmen- only having a man of honor and best woman

-Ring bearer

-Grand entrance

-formal toasts- we're just going to thank everyone for coming, cheers, done.

-parent dances

-tosses

-rehearsal

We will also see each other before the ceremony and are not planning on doing a formal "first look". We'll be attending the entire wedding, including participating in the cocktail hour with our guests.

Wow that seems like a lot... I now feel like a stick in the mud. What is everyone else forgoing?

tprice11 · June 2012

I'm not really "skipping" anything, but just omitting unnecessary stuff like ring bearer, flower girl, hostesses. Also, we are not having an engagement party unless someone wants to throw us one!! I think that it's YOUR wedding and you make it about YOU!

Winnertag1 · June 2012

We are skipping a videographer (I think haha), Flower Girls, Ring Bearers, we didnt want an engagement party but my parents insisted on throwing on, uhmm i'm not sure what else.

OH I think we decided to skip boutinaires for the guys, I think they look better without them.

I'm sure there is more though.

turtleslove · June 2012

-We are doing all formal photos before the ceremony including a first look
-Hair and Makeup we are doing ourselves
-Growing and sourcing all our own flowers- we are using live plants as center pieces
-Ceremony program will be on one chalkboard or something similar for all to read
-Ceremony will be seat yourself and "choose a seat not a side"
-Bridesmaids will carry clutch purses instead of flowers
-Boutineers and corsages will be fabric flowers

-No Flower Girl
-No Ring bearer

-No Grand entrance

-No formal toasts
-No parent dances

-No tosses

-No Bridal Shower
-No Cake Cutting- we may server our Grandmothers just so everyone know to help them selves to dessert
-Not using a Regular DJ

I think that's it

kmsst48 · June 2012

Mine looks a lot like yours melb. I'm trying to skip the dances but i'm losing that war. We have no formal seating so i'm just going people enjoy the flow and casual nature of it.

Swazzle · June 2012

-My mom is walking me down the aisle, not my dad

-No FG or RB

-No unity candle or sand ceremony or anything like that

-No videographer

-Undecided on the tosses

FLGatorGal88 · June 2012

Skipping all pre- wedding parties (thank goodness...)
We decided to do a Weddingmoon instead of having the traditional wedding.
NO at home reception when we return... (a lot of DW brides do these...)
We will stay together the night before the wedding and we will see it other all day the on the big day.
We are not registering anywhere

As of now I think that's it... I am sure I am forgetting something though...

Danny&Mel2003 · June 2012

We didn't have a formal engagement party more a BBQ thrown by his brother the day we came home from vacation. We won't have FG and RB. I could go without bridal shower but my birth mother wants to host. Everything else I want bachelorette party, bouquet toss, garter toss with corny cheesy way of him taking it off me.

melb2013 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_what-are-you-skipping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:f5d4cd5e-d372-45ae-b67e-0b37aaf61effPost:5b332347-af2f-40f5-b73b-0320f7c589f2">Re: What are you skipping?</a>:
[QUOTE]We are skipping a videographer (I think haha), Flower Girls, Ring Bearers, we didnt want an engagement party but my parents insisted on throwing on, uhmm i'm not sure what else. OH I think we decided to skip boutinaires for the guys, I think they look better without them. I'm sure there is more though.
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Annas2013 · June 2012

We're skipping a few things, but not many. The few things that we're skipping have probably all caused at least one argument with family, but they're not really things we care to have.

Flower girl and ring bearer.

The "if anyone thinks these two should not be married, speak now" part of the vows.

A trellis. I really don't like them.

Programs are a maybe skip. We haven't decided yet or not.

Seating charts. The only seating that will be reserved is for our sweetheart table, and immediate family, and the bridal party and their dates.

Stand-in at the rehearsal. I think it's a Southern thing but I think it's a stupid tradition, so it's not going to happen. I'd like to participate in the rehearsal for our wedding, thank you very much.

Videographer-I think my mom has a friend who will do it, but we aren't willing to pay for that. It's not something we'd ever really watch.

We're doing a first look with the photographer, so we can get the pictures done before the ceremony and actually get to spend all the time we can at the reception.

melb2013 · June 2012

Okay, I'm glad I'm not alone. I feel like whenever I tell somebody that I'm not doing one of these things I get a response like "but you're skipping all the fun parts!"... we just wanted it to be a big fun party, and are not really into all the wedding stuff.

abbyandmatt51 · June 2012

I'm not really skipping too much, I like traditional wedding stuff.

Skipping flower girl and ring bearer, and kids at the reception.

Skipping garter toss (but still doing bouquet toss)

Skipping engagement party but will be doing showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties

I think that might be it! What can I say, I'm a traditional bride. I think everyone has the right to choose what they want/don't want for their wedding! You should do what makes the day feel special for you.

ameliah19 · June 2012

I don't know if I'm skipping that much but

-no engagement party but we are doing bridal shower/bacherlerotte and bachelor parties because I think they are fun :-)

-My mom is walking me down the aisle since my dad is not a big part of my life

-We're doing a first look and all the formal pics before the wedding

-NO bridal party dances

-The program will be written on a chalkboard

-I want people to choose a seat not a side at the ceremony

-No unity candle or anything like that

-No parent dances

-I don't think we are doing bouts for the guys

I think that's it...

SSaltzman87 · June 2012

As far as PWP parties go, I could go either way about a RD- but my parents are insisting on one. For some reason my FI is dead set against us having one, hasn't given me a clear reason as to why lol. My aunt has already offered to host a shower and my sister who will be my MOH is excited to potentially plan a bachelorette party.

Not doing e-pics, a bridal portrait session, rock/trash the dress or boudoir.

As far as the actual 'wedding' goes I'm skipping quite a few things! No garter or bouquet toss, just a first dance for FI and I, no videographer, no head table (instead FI and I will have a sweetheart table then the WP will be at a few tables next to us), no FG or RB, no unity candle, GMs will have pocket squares instead of boutonnieres.

Haven't figured out what my BMs will have yet, but I am encouraging them to wear bright & bold colored jewelry with their black dresses :-)

pittpoint1119 · June 2012

I am a tradtional bride.. the only things we are skipping is engagemen party no one held it for us,videographer,favors, but our favors will be the cookie table since lots will be left over! As far as skipping in the Catholic faith we are not doing a full mass even though my parents want us too, but FI and his family are not catholic. We are pretty much doing everything just no bridal dance for whole bridal party. We are doing the traditional dollar dance and pittsburgh polka. I guess I have always pictured my wedding being tradtional and it is turning out the way I want!

tandrosoff · June 2012

Voiding: favors, ceremony programs, ring bearer/ flower girl, no fancy candy bar, no photobooth. Just a simple come eat, drink & dance wedding!

aprahamian2 · June 2012

I am pretty traditional....skipping:

-videographer

-first look

-ring bearer

-unity candle

-I really don't care about a bridal shower- I hate asking for people to spend more money on us...if family insists I will have one

PJBHL5 · June 2012

I doubt we'll have a engagement party.
We aren't doin traditional bach/bachette parties... probably just a night out dancing and drinking with all of our friends.

We are seeing each other before the wedding.. we'll have the photographer photograph "reveal"... and then he's walking me down the aisle.
our motto for the whole thing is that it's not my day, it's ours.. so "we came here together and we're leaving together".
plus we've both been married before, so it doesn't seem appropriate for my dad to "give me away" and i don't feel right expecting my son (who will be 7) to do that.

DivaJenD · June 2012

Pretty traditional here, so not skipping much...
No engagement party
Not doing the first look - we both agree that seeing each other as I walk down the aisle is important to us
No bouquet toss or garter toss
Probably no videographer (mostly because of budget and it's something I'm willing to pass on)
That's about it... I want all the other stuff. I want the corny traditional wedding. haha.

SRRL18 · June 2012

I'm a corny and tradional bride. Skipping: Videographer Favors (donation instead) Cake topper

jodyellen · June 2012

I am having a traditional wedding but I am skipping loads of things:

- No bridesmaids or groomsmen (just MOH and BM)

- No video

- No pre-parties

- No garter

- No first look (never heard of that until this board)

- No flowergirls or ring-bearers

- No grand entrance

- No rehearsal but we'll have the dinner ;-)

HoneyBunny13 · June 2012

We're skipping several things for sure and undecided on others...

-No videographer
-No 'real' rehearsal, just a dry run when we get there if we have time. We'll have the dinner though
-No programs
-No favors. People will be welcome to take centerpieces home if they wish though.
-No grand entrance
-No engagement party, just a shower in March thrown by my aunt
-No professional hair & make up
-Doing all photos before ceremony
-No cocktail hour/apps, just the catered BBQ meal
-No ceremony additions i.e. unity candle, sand ceremony, readings

Not sure yet about bridal portraits and speeches. I know we'll be doing dances and bouquet/garter toss.

augurey · July 2012

-No engagement party. Ideally no pre-wedding parties (but I don't think I have much of a choice in this going by some conversations on this lol)
-Not 100% decided, but most likely no programs.
-Having my dad walk/escort me down the aisle, but not give me away.
-Can't say for sure on readings/unity candles/etc as we still have to meet with our Officiant - we'll probably just keep it simple.
-No Flower Girl/Ring Bear (well, FG is a maybe if FI's niece seems like she will be okay doing this - taking this as it comes as she will be very young still).
-No bride/groom side for ceremony (just wouldn't be possible with the available seating and the large difference in FI's guest numbers and mine)
-No assigned seating at the reception.
-Instead of the "bridal party" dance, we'd like it to be our immediate family (FI's two sisters, brother & my brother are the wedding party - dancing with their SO's along with both of our parents)
-I'm trying to veto the parent dance - FI and his mom won't mind, but my mom's trying to talk me into keeping this.
-Trying to veto some of the party songs that FI insists on (while I grimmace - I'm trying to find a middle ground - some, but not all)

I think that's about it.

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