50 DAYS!!!

inhisname2010 · March 2012

Hey date twins!!! We're at 50 days!!! I'm not going to ask to do list since there was a post yesterday but I do have a question...What are your biggest concerns/fears in regards to the upcoming BIG DAY!!!

Me...I have a nervousness and excitement at the same time. I just hope all goes well and and I see/envision it in my mind. I want my reception to be FUN and the ceremony to be beautiful and emotion showing our true love for each other.

em01092 · March 2012

I'm so excited! Eeeek.

My biggest concern is making sure there is no drama and everything with my FMIL gets smoothed over before then. That and just general nerves, I guess.

rlavach · March 2012

My biggest concern is twofold. One, I'm a control freak. I never realized that about myself before, but I have this complex where I think that if I'm not doing it myself, it won't be done right. It's hard for me to hand over control. I did get a DOC to help ease my nerves because there is just so much to be done the day-of. I'm worried that I'll be worried! And if I'm worried, I won't be able to relax and enjoy the day like I should.

My other concern is my FI. He is reserved and hates attention. The idea of all these people looking at him freaks him out. He starts shaking. I think he's being melodramatic because I have no problem with attention. I've always done public speaking, so it's NBD to me. I worry that his nerves will get the best of him & he'll either make a major fumble or be so exhausted from nerves that he won't be able to enjoy the day either.

inhisname2010 · March 2012

Erica...I hoping your FMIL will at least behave and let you and your FI enjoy your 1st day as man and wife.

Rlavach...if he does fumble, it will be a great memory that you can laugh at later down the line. Imperfections/mistakes make wonderful memories...remember...don't stress/worry about what you can't control.

futuremrsdavies · March 2012

I'm petrified that all these "cute" ideas i've had will not tie together and my wedding will look like the attack from the sorority girl closet. #sororitygirlproblems

rlavach · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Erica...I hoping your FMIL will at least behave and let you and your FI enjoy your 1st day as man and wife. Rlavach...if he does fumble, it will be a great memory that you can laugh at later down the line. Imperfections/mistakes make wonderful memories...remember...don't stress/worry about what you can't control.
Posted by inhisname2010[/QUOTE]
I'm not the one that is worried, HE is! He is so petrified that he will mess up the vows (English isn't his first language) or that he'll trip during his mom/son dance. We decided not to do any cake cutting because he was convinced that he'd end up either messing up the whole cake, or cutting off a finger. Dramatic, I know. <div>
</div><div>I know he won't do any of those things. And even if he does, like you said, it will be a funny story to tell the grandkids! He doesn't exactly see it that way. I just want him to relax and not be so wound up. I keep trying to convince him that since 85 of the 95 guests are MY friends & family, they'll all me looking at me and not him anyway. Not 100% true, but it seems to be helping him calm down. </div>

chickenbut143 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I have a nervousness and excitement at the same time. I just hope all goes well and and I see/envision it in my mind. I want my reception to be FUN and the ceremony to be beautiful and emotion showing our true love for each other.
Posted by inhisname2010[/QUOTE]

This exactly. I'm so scared that FI's mom is going to go BSC and cause drama (like she did for FI's first wedding - she's already threatened not to come...twice). I'm hoping the ceremony and reception come out exactly how i envision them and for everyone to have fun! I'm afraid i'm going to be too emotional and cry during the ceremony...i'm a crier. Honestly i'm excited and nervous to be making such a huge life change! Wow...so much!

rlavach · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to 50 DAYS!!! : This exactly. I'm so scared that FI's mom is going to go BSC and cause drama (like she did for FI's first wedding - she's already threatened not to come...twice). I'm hoping the ceremony and reception come out exactly how i envision them and for everyone to have fun! <strong>I'm afraid i'm going to be too emotional and cry during the ceremony...i'm a crier.</strong> Honestly i'm excited and nervous to be making such a huge life change! Wow...so much!
Posted by chickenbut143[/QUOTE]
OMG, me too! I've been so emotional during these past few months that I'm so scared that I'll turn into a blubbering ball of tears. This came up on the Etiquette board, I think, and almost every poster said that while they were super overly emotional during the planning, they were so excited and nervous the day of that they barely cried. Hopefully that will be the same for us!

MCCRARYSCOTT · March 2012

Hopefully NO DRAMA!

Epiphany1031 · March 2012

As long as everyone has an amazing time, I will be happy. Well, ok there's more. My worst nightmare would be our families not getting along, no one wanting to dance, people leaving extra early because they're not enjoying themselves, or that it rains. Ohhhh NO RAIN please!!!! (outdoor backyard wedding). I'm worried it'll be too cold (renting lots of heaters just in case). I also pray that I won't be cranky.. when I get stressed I immediately get cranky and that is not what I want on our wedding day. I know that once I'm walking down the aisle I won't be cranky but before the wedding is what I'm afraid of.. I have this fear that on the morning of, I'll not only be getting ready but also having to run around helping set things up, etc. My fear is that it's going to be complete chaos the morning of. Lastly, I am extremely shy so it's going to be quite a challenge being the center of attention with my groom for the whole day and having to mingle and talk with all of the guests.. I'm not too good at that but hopefully with my FH's help it'll be okay.

rardito · March 2012

I am hoping for no rain as well, but at least we have a back-up plan.
I am worried about certain old friends that we invited drinking too much and my parents' getting a huge bill in general for the alcohol since they wanted to pay for it.
And I am just worried about people having a good time in general. I am also a control freak.

Oh, and I don't know if I'm going to like the look of my centerpieces I am making...somehow they seem more daytime weddingish than nighttime.

inhisname2010 · March 2012

I forgot about the NO RAIN!!! I am hoping..no PRAYING for NO RAIN. I sooo want an outdoor wedding.

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