This got kind of long. I ramble because that is how my A.D.D. mind works.
Sorry if it drives you nuts.
Background:
Every year we alternate with Chad's family. Thanksgiving we were at my family's, Christmas Eve we are at his. (They both celebrate on Christmas Eve.) And then we were going to see my parents Christmas day. (Sometimes we don't make it out there Christmas day due to work schedules and such, but we visit as soon as we can.) Next year it will be switched.
My parents (dad and step-mom) don't really stay in touch even though they live 45 minutes away, they don't let us know when they are in town. They have only been to our house ONCE since we bought it, and we have been here almost 3 years. I know we could make more of an effort, and we used to, but they don't seem to try so why should we?
Dilemma:
My brother and his girlfriend want us to go to her Nanna's for Christmas day because she is missing all the family that used to be around. I text Suzie and asked her if they wanted to go this year and she responded that they were going to my cousin's house with our grandparents so they could see our aunt and uncle. (Same cousin that is marrying us) No one had mentioned this until now. I am pretty sure we talked about going to my parents like we do if work allows.
I don't know what to do. If it wasn't at my cousin's, we would just ask if we can come over, since that isn't a big deal in my family, but they are pretty strapped for cash right now and we don't want to be a burden. (Even though I am pretty sure my aunt and uncle are paying for most of it.) I would love to spend time with that side of my family since aunt and uncle are from out of town. I could text Suzie and let her know that we planned on being at their house (we may not have discussed it because I hadn't talked to Chad about our plans yet.) and she would probably invite us over.
The other part of me is hurt and wants to just say forget it and, out of spite, go to Nanna's for dinner, since she wants the company. FILs would probably come since they don't have plans since I talked to them yesterday and they would love to join us and Nanna would love to have them.
What would you do?
A) Mention that we had planned on going to parents and go to our cousin's to be with them.
Forget it and go to Nanna's.
Edit: I wanted an un biased opinion. Chad thinks we should just stay at his parents for Christmas day too, but I want to spend it with some of my family. He votes for Nanna's.
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