RD Question

AshnRobo · May 2012

Since FI's family isn't going to be attending, and they have never offered to host the RD. Do we skip it? Or can we host it ourselves? No one else has said anything about it. Is it necessary?

I feel like it probably is necessary to thank all those involved. I don't mind hosting, but I don't want to do something that is mega awful..

volleygurl0306 · May 2012

We are skipping it because it just isn't in our budget. We have a large WP so with their SOs and our families it would be a 30 person dinner. Cheapest we could find to do it was $500+alcohol! Not possible for us. The morning of I'm going to show the WP where they have to stand. Since it is a fairly simple ceremony, spacing of where to stand when they are done walking is all I'm worried about. It is a really nice thing to do but I've been told not necessary.

CowgirlK39 · May 2012

We are doing our own. FI's family barely offered to do anything (I know, not obligated to) so we just desided we are only having people who would need to rehearse the ceremony, and immediate family. Then we are probably just meeting at a bar for wings or something. It's not wrong to do it yourself, since the point is to thank those involved.

sparent2010 · May 2012

Are you having a rehearsal? If so you need to have a rehearsal dinner at a minimum for the people involved in the wedding and their SOs. It can be something as simple as pizza and beer.

kmschuler · May 2012

I dont think there is anything wrong with hosting your own RD as long as it is in your budget

WLevine75 · May 2012

I am hosting my own. My parents are paying for the wedding so i Wanted to host it. We are using my FIL's house and we are providing all food.

BMcLeodTeam · May 2012

We're hosting ours.

mamameech · May 2012

We are hosting ours too. I honestly don't feel that it's something that is "necessary" despite what "etiquette' says. The next day is big enough, why stress the day before too? We are having something just because we're going to need to eat anyway, so why not? We are just having a casual BBQ at the house so it's chill and a nice start to a fantastic weekend.

QueerFemme · May 2012

We are hosting a rehearsal lunch... and it will be very casual. Go do a quick run through at the ceremony location... go out for pizza and/or sandwiches somewhere immediately after.

rbwashington2012 · May 2012

We are actually hosting our RD but that might actually get cut all together now. It was originally in the budget and might still be, but since the cuts in the list, the people staying at the hotel with us the night before the wedding, we might just go to dinner together since its mostly my best friends and FI there until Saturday. Going to talk to FI about that tonight, we already had invitations done for the RD but they were free so no money lost!

aragx6 · May 2012

If you have a rehearsal you need to feed people after it -- it can be very casual. But if you don't feel a rehearsal is necessary then you don't have to host a dinner.

BMcLeodTeam · May 2012

I agree with PPs, if you are requiring people to attend a rehearsal, then you need to be feeding them. If you don't think the rehearsal is needed, feel free to skip the RD.

SCogs18 · May 2012

If you can afford it there is no reason you can't host your own!

jamie5482 · May 2012

FI and I are planning to host ours too. It's going to be at a fairly nice italian place around the corner from the hotel (where the ceremony and reception will be). Not a big deal but something we definitely wanted to do, also so we could hang out with everyone and relax a little before the big day.

Trins · May 2012

We are hosting ours as well. We aren't really doing a rehearsal so we are naming it the welcome dinner. We will have the wedding party together at our cottage and do a BBQ for them. Afterwards we will open it up to anyone already in town that just wants to drop by and say hey

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