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Is this weird?

A (male) friend of mine from work is expecting a baby next month.  I've never met his wife.  He and I are pretty good "work friends" but we don't hang out outside of that.  Today, we were talking about their baby shower last weekend and he was saying they were grateful for what they got, but that they still needed a lot of basic items, like bottles, blankets, etc.  I checked their registry and there's a ton on there that hasn't been purchased.

I don't think they have too much money - his wife is a waitress, and he makes the same amount of money that I do, which isn't very much, and they already have an 8-year old.

So, if you were them, would you find it strange if I sent some gifts from the registry?  I wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward, but I'd like to help.

Re: Is this weird?

  • No, I think that would be totally nice.

    If you want you could get some co-workers to pitch in and get him a gift card from where they registered, but getting something on your own is fine too.
  • I wouldn't find it weird, I'd find it thoughtful and I'd be grateful.

    I think it would be a nice thing to do if you want to.
  • That would be very considerate of you. I wouldn't find it wierd at all.

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  • I don't think it's weird. I typically give friends (even fairly casual ones) a gift after the baby is born. Also, in my old office, we would throw work showers for a baby, whether it was the mother or the father who worked with us -- is that something you do at work?
  • I think it would be sweet and I'm sure they'd appreciate it very much.

    I've sent a few knotties wedding presents, before I even met them.
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  • I actually thought about throwing a work shower, but I've recently moved to another building so the logistics would be kind of difficult.

    Thanks for the opinions - I was leaning toward sending something, but I just felt a little weird, not knowing the wife and stuff.  I'm ordering off their registry now!
  • You're so sweet, abba!
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  • I think it will be appreciated more than you know.
  • no I do not think it's weird at all.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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