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MOH Issues!!!

earls.babyearls.baby
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Ok so when I got engaged I knew who my MOH was going to be and she knew also but then we had a slight falling out so i chose another MOH. Well my original MOH and I are a lot better know and she has been helping out more with the wedding than the other Maid of Honor. I really want the original Maid of Honor to be it but I don't know how to tell my other friend without Ruining our friendship, I really need to get this figured out because we are trying to pick out dresses and its getting weird with the friend who i need to break the bad news to. My mother says I need to just tell them both I'm not having a MOH but i really want one.... so I could really use any help anyone has!!! thanks

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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
    Knottie Warrior 2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_moh-issues-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:3826645f-72c2-4f63-ab69-6c3f0adfe6fbPost:f089a10f-a122-4d07-a41d-b82391db793a">MOH Issues!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok so when I got engaged I knew who my MOH was going to be and she knew also but then we had a slight falling out so i chose another MOH. Well my original MOH and I are a lot better know and she has been helping out more with the wedding than the other Maid of Honor. I really want the original Maid of Honor to be it but I don't know how to tell my other friend without Ruining our friendship, I really need to get this figured out because we are trying to pick out dresses and its getting weird with the friend who i need to break the bad news to. My mother says I need to just tell them both I'm not having a MOH but i really want one.... so I could really use any help anyone has!!! thanks
    Posted by earls.baby[/QUOTE]

    Don't demote anybody, don't break the bad news to anybody because there is no bad news. The girl you asked to be your MOH is your MOH. The one you didn't ask isn't. Live with the decision you made. That would be the mature, grown-up thing to do.

    Who helps you more shouldn't be a factor anyway. Your MOH is supposed to be your nearest and dearest, not the one who provides the most free labor.
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    edited December 2011
    You can't kick your friend out of the MOH role, and especially not because someone else is "doing more" for the wedding.  The two (MOH position and helping you plan your wedding) are unrelated.  Be grateful that you have someone who wants to help you plan.



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  • thelamarrsthelamarrs
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PP's.

    Also, consider "demoting" you MOH the end of your friendship. People get their feelings hurt a lot when it comes to BP's and friendships can end. I would recommend sticking to your decision. 
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