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Is it greedy?

I have two showers coming up next month and my FI and I registered a few months back. We've been to several weddings this year alone, and most all our other friends have been married for years. But after seeing what other people have registered for, our list pales in comparison. At the couple places we're registered, our lists are less than half of most everyone's I can remember in recent history. I'm not bragging about that, but we have a small place and are artists so we can't house a lot of extra.

Last year, I was supposed to move to Europe and I ended up selling most everything I owned except clothing, my bed, couch and a special table. My apartment was fully furnished before since I had lived on my own 10 years, and if this were last year I'd just register for a few upgrades and not worry with much else.

So my sister calls me and says, "Geez ,you registered for a lot!" I know full well when she married a few years back, she did the same, mostly expensive stuff and she got it all. Now I'm anxious that people will think we are greedy. We have a large number of guests (425) and registered for less than half that number of gifts in all price ranges. I thought we did good to keep it to the minimum of what we needed and what we'd like (if someone wanted to get it, but we aren't likely to buy ourselves).

Did you feel anxiety about this? Or anyone make you feel bad? Is 200 items too many for that number of guests?
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Re: Is it greedy?

  • nah, i think that sounds good... and why should it matter because they are choosing if they want to buy you something!
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  • It sounds perfect that you have gifts in a range of prices.  I'm sure many guests will appreciate that. 

    I felt very greedy and uncomfortable registering initially too.  I registered for items that my FI and I will use and enjoy...  not just because people will buy us presents.  (So no to a chocolate fountain, fondue set, and pannini press - but yes to a stand mixer and wok). 
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  • As long as you have gifts in all price ranges you're fine.  You're not forcing anyone to use your registry, it's there to help people if they choose to use it.  I wouldn't let her bother you. 
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  • As a registry shopper, the I think the more the better.  It can be a challenge to find gifts if your registry is picked over. I doubt anyone will judge you.
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  • If anything, 200 gifts is not enough.  You may want to keep an eye on it from time to time, and if the pickings start to get slim, see if there are some items you left off the first go that you would actually like, and add them.
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  • I think it sounds fine.  My thought on the more expensive items is that if somebody doesn't want to spend that amount they may give you a gift certificate to that store or cash that you can put towards the purchase later on. 
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  • It doesn't sound greedy to me, especially since you are having such a large wedding.  I think people will appreciate the choices, and also that you have a range of price points.  I would only think it was greedy if a large majority of those 200 items were over $50. (Our BB&B registry has 206 items, but only 8 are >$100, 30 between $50 - $100, and the rest under $50, and the majority under $30).  Also, if you registered for china, all of the place settings, serving pieces, stemware and flatware add up the number of items quickly, but does't really make the list look long.
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