So... Both my fiance and I have HUGE families. But I want a small wedding party.. Like 3 or 4 bridesmaids with an equal amount of groomsmen.... He's having his cousin as the best man, my brother, his godbrother, and one of his friends as the groomsmen.. And I feel like I'm having such a stressful time... With such a huge family I have A LOT of girl cousins, more so than boy cousins. I'm choosing 3-4 of my closest friends to save me the stress and drama of picking and choosing from my cousins. My family always says "you can't invite one and not the other", so I have made the decision to not have any of my family in my wedding party. One of my cousin's called me today and asked if she was going to be in the wedding and when I said I wasn't doing family because it would be too much drama she got really upset... Am I doing the right thing? I feel like ultimately it's the right decision, but at the same time I feel like a HUGE jerk.
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[QUOTE]So... Both my fiance and I have HUGE families. But I want a small wedding party.. Like 3 or 4 bridesmaids with an equal amount of groomsmen.... He's having his cousin as the best man, my brother, his godbrother, and one of his friends as the groomsmen.. And I feel like I'm having such a stressful time... With such a huge family I have A LOT of girl cousins, more so than boy cousins. I'm choosing 3-4 of my closest friends to save me the stress and drama of picking and choosing from my cousins. My family always says "you can't invite one and not the other", so I have made the decision to not have any of my family in my wedding party. One of my cousin's called me today and asked if she was going to be in the wedding and when I said I wasn't doing family because it would be too much drama she got really upset... Am I doing the right thing? I feel like ultimately it's the right decision, but at the same time I feel like a HUGE jerk.
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AKA GoodLuckBear14
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However, I DO think you're adding a ton of unnecessary stress onto your plate by (a) insisting on even sides in the bridal party, and (b) choosing a bridal party over a year in advance. Wait on it a while if you haven't made the announcement already. And if you HAVE made the announcement, then to avoid wedding burnout please don't get your bridal party involved this early on ... just chill out and talk with them about non-wedding-related things until it's time to get their dresses, which is about 5 or 6 months before your wedding day. Or even a month or two beforehand, if you want to go the department store/J. Crew/AnnTaylor/wear anything you want in a specific color route.
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