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Am I doing everything that I need to?

Dallas222Dallas222 member
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Hi! My FI and got engaged in June and it pretty much has been a whirlwind since that day. We dated long distance (me in Dallas and he in California) and now we are both in California. Moving, planning a wedding, and working full time has definitely taken me out of my normal comfort zones.
We are having a very small wedding (40 people) at the Hyatt Gainey Ranch in Scottsdale. I have moved away from my friends and family and my MOH (my sister) lives in Japan so I kind of feel like the success of this wedding falls solely on me and it is making me nervous. 

Any advice on how to get my bearing back and make sure I am doing everything I need?! :)

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Re: Am I doing everything that I need to?

  • lcarp203lcarp203
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    edited December 2011
    When is your wedding?  I did all of the planning myself.  My Matron of Honor lives in Michigan and has 2 kids.  My mom lives out of town and my FI works in Maryland Sunday-Thursday and was only home on the weekends.  So, I feel your pain. 

    What I did was just small steps one at a time.  Once I got my venue picked I decided what was the next item of priority.  Then I concentrated on that.  For me it was the photographer.  I picked one or two off of the prefered vendor list and then found a few of my own to interview.  Once i picked a photographer I moved on to DJ and used the same method.  For me that helped me stay focused on one thing.  When I looked at it as the wedding as a whole I was very overwhelmed.  But when I just looked at one item, it was easy.  It also helped me keep things straight. 

    I would also look at the checklist here on the knot and then on a few other sites (projectwedding.com, weddingwire.com).  These will let you know a rough idea of what you should be doing when.  But, they are just a guideline, so give yourself a little bit of slack if you are not on track in the end it will get done.

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  • SyndelinSyndelin
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    edited December 2011
    That is a lot to take on at once!

    All of my family and friends are out of state as well, so I totally get where you're coming from! 

    I think Icarp has it exactly right though...  just take one thing at a time.  Tackle all the big ticket items first and once you get them nailed down, the rest really starts falling into place pretty quickly. 

    You can always post here for recs, and everyone is really helpful and has great advice so don't hesitate to ask if you're unsure on anything or need help with anything!
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  • Dr.AcostaDr.Acosta member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree.  My family is out of town and MOH lives in California.  There were still times I felt I was doing this by myself.  Get the big done and then get a check list that walks you through it.  Get a organizer book (I just got a 3 ring binder and put pockets) where you can keep ideas (when you see something in a magazine, tear it out...you think you will remember, but it will be easier just to get the info right there and then).  I would definitely use the post to ask questions and get information. So far from them I have found alterations, make up, venue, and great ideas.  Take a deep breath... it will be okay and you will have a beautiful wedding.
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