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Gahh. Can't figure out the date!

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My boyfriend of five years just proposed! Only problem is, we can't figure out the date! He says it's up to me. A lot of help that is! 

Should we plan the wedding during my senior year of undergrad? The good thing about this is that we don't have to wait that long and his family really likes that idea. However, I don't know if planning a wedding during senior research and such is a good idea and my school is two hours away from where the wedding will be held. I don't want to be too stressed! But I'll also have a lot of help.

Or should I forgo all that stress, wait another year, and get married the year after my first year of graduate school. The school I will be attending is in the town the wedding will be held, so working with vendors will be a lot easier. But I don't know how difficult graduate school will be. People say it's hard, but people have said that about other things I've found easy. 

So girls out there, what do you think? Would you rather plan a wedding during your senior year of undergrad, or during your first year of graduate school?
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    Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_gahh-cant-figure-out-date?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:6dfd5bfa-09d8-4095-baf6-dedca70e3639Post:8b44b721-048a-4776-b06e-dcab02980ebd">Gahh. Can't figure out the date!</a>:
    [QUOTE]My boyfriend of five years just proposed! Only problem is, we can't figure out the date! He says it's up to me. A lot of help that is!  Should we plan the wedding during my senior year of undergrad? The good thing about this is that we don't have to wait that long and his family really likes that idea. However, I don't know if planning a wedding during senior research and such is a good idea and my school is two hours away from where the wedding will be held. I don't want to be too stressed! But I'll also have a lot of help. Or should I forgo all that stress, wait another year, and get married the year after my first year of graduate school. The school I will be attending is in the town the wedding will be held, so working with vendors will be a lot easier. But I don't know how difficult graduate school will be. People say it's hard, but people have said that about other things I've found easy.  So girls out there, what do you think? Would you rather plan a wedding during your senior year of undergrad, or during your first year of graduate school?
    Posted by amonarr[/QUOTE]

    I would definitely suggest waiting until after undergrad. Congrats on the engagement, but definitely wait. No need to add stress. And remember, beyond the stress of planning is the fact that you have to afford said wedding. Easier to do when you are out of school and can focus financially on the wedding only rather than wedding, plus school, plus of course saving $$ for a house and all that jazz, which you're probably already doing. 
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    Exactly what ButterCookie said.
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    SagenhaftSagenhaft member
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    Well, you can't do what PP said while paying for Grad school anymore than you can while paying for undergrad. I would suggest looking at your budget and then looking at venues -- will you be happy with the wedding you can afford? If yes, then just go for it. Planning a wedding can be stressful, but it can also take away from the stress of writing research papers. And the weekend trips to visit with vendors can be fun and a mini-vacation for you guys. If you will NOT be happy with the wedding you can afford, then definitely wait, possibly for a few years until you're out of grad school.

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    TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    Personally, I'd wait to finish grad school. You're putting a lot of thought into how much stress a wedding will add to school. How much thought have you given to how much stress a marriage will add?
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    Wait.  Finish school.  Get settled.

    Planning a wedding is stressful and time consuming.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_gahh-cant-figure-out-date?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:6dfd5bfa-09d8-4095-baf6-dedca70e3639Post:abc2dc32-5e5a-4609-8b4f-72553abf465a">Re: Gahh. Can't figure out the date!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Personally, I'd wait to finish grad school. You're putting a lot of thought into how much stress a wedding will add to school. How much thought have you given to how much stress a marriage will add?
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

    <div>This.  Grad school is not a walk in the park, I'm currently working full time, finishing my masters thesis, and planning a wedding.  I wouldn't wish this stress on anyone.</div>
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