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Mom...sigh (vent...there is no fixing this)

stephk31stephk31
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I love my mother, I really do but she is something else. I keep reading all these post about over-involved moms who  want to micromanage anything and everything wedding related. Mine is the exact opposite: half the time, I can't even get a hold of her. I know she is busy with work herself (she is a physician), yet somehow always manages to find time for her "zoo" of animals. I am not at all convinced that she is going to show up to the bridal shower or the rehearsal dinner. If she does, she will probably be late. The only time I hear from her if she needs something for her critters (I am a vet) or she needs some other favor.
I know that she loves me in her own way but it is frustrating, especially since my fiance's parents really want to meet her, and she keeps avoiding it (she is not very social and the older she gets, the worse it gets), and I feel bad because I don't want them to take her lack of interest personally....it is just the way she is.
Last Friday, mom turned 60, and she was working the day, so I asked her weeks in advanve what nights would work for her to do a family dinner and celebrate her birthday. She gave me today and Wednesday as an option. We finalized plans for tonight....and I haven't heard from her since the weekend. My fiance's parents live about 2.5 hrs away but want to come down to meet her. At the time, I didn't think twice about it but now I am worried that they will travel all this way and mom will not show up. Sigh...does anyone else have similar problems??
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Re: Mom...sigh (vent...there is no fixing this)

  • thurmanpowellthurmanpowell
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    Do we have the same Mom?

    My mom was doing much the same thing, going on her own schedule, and not seeming too interested in what I was doing. So, I just left her out of a lot of things (like dress shopping, choosing a venue, etc). Turns out, she DID want to be a part of those things, just on her own time schedule (sigh). 

    I say, keep inviting her to things, but don't do anything that rests on her absolutely having to show up. If you're worried about her not showing up to her birthday dinner, then cancel with your in-laws immediately so they don't waste their time. Sooner or later they will all meet.
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  • JENNIFERANDMATT2012JENNIFERANDMATT2012
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    My mom seems the same too. She doesn't seem interested at all. She has the option to dictate which days she works and at first said she would switch days to be at the bridal shower. The other day she calls and I tell her the shower is at 5 and she responds with well I'm going to work and just show up late like two hours late! Then, I remind her that her dress has been in for weeks and she needs it altered since the wedding is in two months and she tells me she is going to wait and she would rather go to the gym with her friend. I totally know how you feel and it blows. Hopefully, things will change.
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  • stephk31stephk31
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    Well, she did show up for the birthday dinner (although an hour late, but hey) and got to meet the FIL. They had a good time, so I am glad it worked out :)
    Now I am considering telling my mom the ceremony is at 2:30 rather than 3:30 ;)
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  • jennxrocksjennxrocks member
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    Oh man do I feel your pain. I am my mom's only daughter. She has done absolutely nothing to help me plan or even take any interest in the wedding or the planning part. Her only involvement has been a few random texts after weeks of not hearing from her telling me things I "HAVE" to do for my wedding, and each time they get more and more ridiculous and more selfish. Mind you be, she hasn't contributed a penny towards the wedding.

    Keep your chin up.
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