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Y'all made me get in trouble UPDATED

Update: So I admit I should have kept quiet and not responded. This is the first time I've ever said anything on FB about someone else's breach of etiquette. Someone asked a question and I answered it before realizing that my response was rude in return. I already apologized to the mother-to-be and everything's cool. She was not happy with the guy who cussed profusely on her page either. And I found out, the guy isn't her husband like I thought, it's a friend of hers, but that doesn' really matter - just wanted to clarify. Thanks for the advice. I get it, I messed up. Lesson learned.



J/k. Actually, I wanted to ask if anybody else had run into etiquette issues with others since being on TK. Since being on here, I've learned all sorts of etiquette, especially about not posting anything on FB. Well, I normally wouldn't have said anything, but an old friend of mine (who I don't keep in touch with, but is on FB) posted her baby registry on FB for the whole world to see.

I wasn't going to say anything about breaking etiquette rules and how it looks rude, etc. but then I noticed one of her friends had posted something along the lines "you really shouldn't post that here" so I commented that I agreed with that person. But then someone else gets on and asks "why?" in the girl's defense. I calmly posted about etiquette rules and how it can be rude b/c posting registry info is like asking all your FB friends for gifts.

Well, that exploded into WWIII. Did not expect that. There were two on my side, but they didn't say a whole lot. I was very polite. I told the mother-to-be that i'm not judging her and that I'm happy for her and she can do what she wants, but that I just wanted her to be aware of this.

Next thing I know, her husband gets on there and writes this massive paragraph with one F-bomb after the other and all sorts of other choice words telling us it's none of our business, stay out of it, etc etc. Obviously this guy comes across as being very uneducated. So I just ended it with another answer explaining that it IS my business when it's posted on my wall for ALL to see and that mature people talk to others like adults and actually read what they say. I emphasized that I was happy for the mother, just like I had said the first time.

Ugh. People are so ignorant sometimes. I really feel bad for them. I hope I haven't become the "Nazi Etiquette Police" but sheesh, I was polite about the whole thing.

Re: Y'all made me get in trouble UPDATED

  • chelseamb11chelseamb11 member
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    edited July 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_yall-made-me-get-in-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dca1a9ba-e277-461b-b7ec-129fae75bec9Post:3f9f8d33-29d5-49c0-9100-2888fff75456">Y'all made me get in trouble :(</a>:
    [QUOTE]J/k. Actually, I wanted to ask if anybody else had run into etiquette issues with others since being on TK. Since being on here, I've learned all sorts of etiquette, especially about not posting anything on FB. Well, I normally wouldn't have said anything, but an old friend of mine (who I don't keep in touch with, but is on FB) posted her baby registry on FB for the whole world to see. I wasn't going to say anything about breaking etiquette rules and how it looks rude, etc. but then I noticed one of her friends had posted something along the lines "you really shouldn't post that here" so I commented that I agreed with that person. But then someone else gets on and asks "why?" in the girl's defense.<strong> I calmly posted about etiquette rules </strong>and how it can be rude b/c posting info is like asking all your FB friends for gifts. Well, that exploded into WWIII. Did not expect that. There were two on my side, but they didn't say a whole lot. I was very polite. I told the mother to be that i'm not judging her and that I'm happy for her and she can do what she wants, but that I just wanted her to be aware of this. Next thing I know, her husband gets on there and writes this massive paragraph with one F-bomb after the other and all sorts of other choice words telling us it's not of our business, stay out of it, etc etc. Obviously this guy comes across as being very uneducated. So I just ended it with another answer explaining that it IS my business when it's posted on my wall for ALL to see and that mature people talk to others like adults and actually read what they say. I emphasized that I was happy for the mother, just like I had said the first time. Ugh. People are so ignorant sometimes. I really feel bad for them. I hope I haven't become the "Nazi Etiquette Police" but sheesh, I was polite about the whole thing.
    Posted by 2012FutureMrsB[/QUOTE]

    There's no such thing as "calmly" on the internet, as tone cannot be read. What you wrote as calm could have been read by some as snippy, argumentative, or snooty.

    While I agree, they were in the wrong in posting the registry and in being so immature. However, if you were that concerned about it, you could have privately messaged her rather than calling her out on her FB wall. Chances are you embarrassed the crap out of her and she didn't respond well to that.  Then you just fueled the fire by continuing.
  • Yep, I see this kind of stuff a lot and it's just better to roll your eyes.
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  • I get your point. I guess I didn't think to PM the mother b/c I wasn't responding to her. I wasn't intending to call her out, but I guess I did. It was another girl who I don't even know who asked why it was an issue, so I was just answering her question and even said that it was no big deal and that I'm not judging the mother, so I don't see how it could have come off in the wrong tone. 

    But of course, one thing led to another and I just said my peace to the mother and let it go at that point. I would have just rolled my eyes and not said anything, except others were asking her if it was appropriate, so I responded to them. I can see how that was rude to the mother, though. I didn't think of it that way. 
  • Winnertag1Winnertag1 member
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    I see this often as well, one of my facebook friend's is constantly posting her registers on facebook and saying that people have been "urging" her to register & post them. I would never call her out on it though, its not my place. If she wants to make a fool of herself thats on her, I think you should have dropped it after the first comment.

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  • The husband was rude, but you and the others who posted about the faux pas were also rude. You should've kept your mouth shut, or if it really bothered you, pointed the issue out to your friend in private.

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    [QUOTE]J/k. Actually, I wanted to ask if anybody else had run into etiquette issues with others since being on TK. <strong>Since being on here, I've learned all sorts of etiquette, especially about not posting anything on FB. </strong>Well, I normally wouldn't have said anything, but an old friend of mine (who I don't keep in touch with, but is on FB) posted her baby registry on FB for the whole world to see. I wasn't going to say anything about breaking etiquette rules and how it looks rude, etc. but then I noticed one of her friends had posted something along the lines "you really shouldn't post that here" so I commented that I agreed with that person. But then someone else gets on and asks "why?" in the girl's defense. I calmly posted about etiquette rules and how it can be rude b/c posting registry info is like asking all your FB friends for gifts. Well, that exploded into WWIII. Did not expect that. There were two on my side, but they didn't say a whole lot. I was very polite. I told the mother-to-be that i'm not judging her and that I'm happy for her and she can do what she wants, but that I just wanted her to be aware of this. Next thing I know, her husband gets on there and writes this massive paragraph with one F-bomb after the other and all sorts of other choice words telling us it's none of our business, stay out of it, etc etc. Obviously this guy comes across as being very uneducated. So I just ended it with another answer explaining that it IS my business when it's posted on my wall for ALL to see and that mature people talk to others like adults and actually read what they say. I emphasized that I was happy for the mother, just like I had said the first time. Ugh. People are so ignorant sometimes. I really feel bad for them. I hope I haven't become the "Nazi Etiquette Police" but sheesh, I was polite about the whole thing.
    Posted by 2012FutureMrsB[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Newest TK lesson: this statement includes pointing out people's breaches of etiquette on FB.  In my opinion that was <em>ruder</em> than posting baby registry stuff on FB. 

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  • Wait, you think that publicly calling someone out on facebook for an etiquette faux paus falls within...the lines of etiquette?  People do rude things all the time.  If it personally doesn't negatively impact you, I think it's better to mind your own business and not stir the pot.  And I consider it equally rude to call someone out for being rude if it's not personally directed at you (which a facebook post, while there for all to see, really doesn't require your attention).
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_yall-made-me-get-in-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:dca1a9ba-e277-461b-b7ec-129fae75bec9Post:ed1985d3-65c8-4e48-b24c-5a2f8fd8e691">Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :(</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :( : Because it's not just for dinner parties where we have invited them in advanced. They're getting married in our town, so every time they're in town, they'll drop by our house and then just happen to stick around for dinner. They've even started bringing their laundry. Last time, they invited themselves and their mother over, while they were at the grocery store, and not only did they not bring something, but the mom sneered at my wine selection.  So as I've said, these random visits have gotten so expensive that we'll say it's a pot luck or run out to restaurants just so we're not paying to feed four people every other weekend. 
    Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]



    Grow a spine and learn to say no. There is no effing way I'd let people turn my house into a laundromat.
  • I definitely have seen many statuses from friends getting married along the lines of: "Hey everyone. Just a reminder the RSVP date is Friday. If we don't hear back from you, we're assuming it's a no." Yeah, it's annoying and I've been tempted to post, "Oh, looks like my invite was lost in the mail" but I don't. It would just be fueling the fire. At least you've hopefully learned for next time to not say something, or if you think it's really egregious and they absolutely HAVE to know it's rude, PM them or text/call them, but don't put it for all their friends to see. Though her husband was rude in how he responded, I certainly don't blame him for coming to his wife's defense either.


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  • Meh, I would have done the same thing. But, I called out my own sister for giving her baby a hostess cake when he wasn't even a year old, sooooo... 
  • I basically called out my best friend for being rude for not inviting some people's SO's to her wedding when she told me she was headed to a wedding for a friend and her FI and no one else's SO's were invited.  My immediate response was "that is so freaking rude!"  She blinked and then told me "No it isn't, I am not inviting my co-workers SO's because I don't know them and it just isn't in the budget."  I proceeded to tell her that what she is doing is rude, but then her Mom backed up her decision so I just bailed out gracefully.  It just wasn't worth my energy to argue with both of them.

    Do I regret calling her out?  Not at all, and I am positive that even though that is how her co-workers always do it when it comes to weddings and no one cares (this is what she told) that those co-workers are talking sh*t at home and side-eyeing the whole situation.

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    [QUOTE]Meh, I would have done the same thing. But, I called out my own sister for giving her baby a hostess cake when he wasn't even a year old, sooooo... 
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  • In my opinion, when someone says something along the lines of "I'm not judging you, but .. ." it comes off as sounding pretty darn judgemental. I would chalk this one up to another etiquette lesson learned. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :( : Because it's not just for dinner parties where we have invited them in advanced. They're getting married in our town, so every time they're in town, they'll drop by our house and then just happen to stick around for dinner. They've even started bringing their laundry. Last time, they invited themselves and their mother over, while they were at the grocery store, and not only did they not bring something, but the mom sneered at my wine selection.  So as I've said, these random visits have gotten so expensive that we'll say it's a pot luck or run out to restaurants just so we're not paying to feed four people every other weekend. 
    Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]

    Sometimes you have to learn to tell people "no" because they will otherwise never get it on their own, even if they aren't meaning to take advantage of you.  I have a bestie who was going through a rough time and she's occasionally sleep over, which was fine until she started making excuses to sleepover at 2/3 a.m. and try to wake us up in the middle of the night to accomodate.  I let it slip the first few times, but it got to be really excessive and was affecting our sleep and I eventually had to have a heart to heart with her.  It's hard, but there are ways to say it needs to stop without offending the other party.

    Now that she's been doing better for the past few years and works full time like us, I think she probably feels embarrassed about it and understands how trying that can be on a couple that has to get up early for work every day.
  • pkontkpkontk member
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    It was definitely rude to point out their rudeness, especially somewhere so public.  If you were really concerned, you should have privately pointed out that posting a baby registry might not be the best idea.

    I have dear friends who have decided to use honeymoon registries, and write adults only on their invitations.  I would never in a million years point out on facebook that it was rude.  Probably not in private either.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :( : Because it's not just for dinner parties where we have invited them in advanced. They're getting married in our town, so every time they're in town, they'll drop by our house and then just happen to stick around for dinner. They've even started bringing their laundry. Last time, they invited themselves and their mother over, while they were at the grocery store, and not only did they not bring something, but the mom sneered at my wine selection.  So as I've said, these random visits have gotten so expensive that we'll say it's a pot luck or run out to restaurants just so we're not paying to feed four people every other weekend. 
    Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]

    They continue to take advantage of you because you continue to allow them to. 
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    [QUOTE]Meh, I would have done the same thing. But, I called out my own sister for giving her baby a hostess cake when he wasn't even a year old, sooooo... 
    Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yeah, but you're SNIPPY. </div>
  • 1. Being on The Knot's E board does not make you an expert in etiquette (especially considering at least a quarter of what is called hard and fast etiquette here is more of an opinion based on regional norms). 

    2. You're not saving anyone by calling people out on FB. You're actually being rude, since publicly calling people out is a huge breach of actual etiquette. You did not do it politely, as you believe. Being polite would have been ignoring the post completely. You do have the ability to hide posts, or even skip over them without reading them.

    3. Judging a guy for defending his pregnant wife from a pointless bunch of know-it-all nonsense as being "uneducated" is also pretty lowbrow, in my opinion. 

    4. You have absolutely no idea whether people have asked for her registry info on Facebook in the past. When people post something on FB, they are not necessarily addressing you personally. Therefore, you can certainly resist the urge to comment. And as I stated above, don't click the link. Just that simple.

    5. Facebook profiles are not democracies. They are each their own tiny fiefdom. As such, the person whose name appears at the top is the ultimate lord and master of said profile. They are allowed to place whatever they wish in their kingdom. They may filter what is seen (by hiding statuses, unsubbing from people), eject certain guests (removing people from their friends list), and scrub the land of opposing propaganda (deleting comments on their page that they don't agree with). You have the same power. But with great power comes great responsibility. You, great Lady of your Profile, are responsible for what you post, be it in your own profile, or upon the great wall of a neighboring profile.
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    [QUOTE]1. Being on The Knot's E board does not make you an expert in etiquette (especially considering at least a quarter of what is called hard and fast etiquette here is more of an opinion based on regional norms).  2. You're not saving anyone by calling people out on FB. You're actually being rude, since publicly calling people out is a huge breach of actual etiquette. You did not do it politely, as you believe. Being polite would have been ignoring the post completely. You do have the ability to hide posts, or even skip over them without reading them. 3. Judging a guy for defending his pregnant wife from a pointless bunch of know-it-all nonsense as being "uneducated" is also pretty lowbrow, in my opinion.  4. You have absolutely no idea whether people have asked for her registry info on Facebook in the past. When people post something on FB, they are not necessarily addressing you personally. Therefore, you can certainly resist the urge to comment. And as I stated above, don't click the link. Just that simple. <strong>5. Facebook profiles are not democracies. They are each their own tiny fiefdom. As such, the person whose name appears at the top is the ultimate lord and master of said profile. They are allowed to place whatever they wish in their kingdom. They may filter what is seen (by hiding statuses, unsubbing from people), eject certain guests (removing people from their friends list), and scrub the land of opposing propaganda (deleting comments on their page that they don't agree with). You have the same power. But with great power comes great responsibility. You, great Lady of your Profile, are responsible for what you post, be it in your own profile, or upon the great wall of a neighboring profile.</strong>
    Posted by HeathenSwan[/QUOTE]

    But once you post to your profile you are opening that post up for comments and often un-solicted opinions.  That's the way it works.

    In some ways, I think OP's point was acknowledging that fact.  But anyone that has ever tried to fight a battle on Facebook has seen it never end well. 

    Facebook is best left to passive aggressive E cards and stalking other peoples wedding/vacation pics.
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    [QUOTE]I would put down money that this isn't the first time you've stirred shiiit on facebook.
    Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Actually it is. I'm not sure why everyone is jumping down my throat after I admitted I was wrong. Wow, sorry.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Y'all made me get in trouble :( : Newest TK lesson: this statement includes pointing out people's breaches of etiquette on FB.  In my opinion that was ruder  than posting baby registry stuff on FB. 
    Posted by NOLAbridealmost[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thanks. That's why I said it was wrong and I should have PM'd her. I did not intend to call her out b/c I wasn't even talking to the mother, but rather just offering an answer to someone else's question.</div>
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    [QUOTE]Wait, you think that publicly calling someone out on facebook for an etiquette faux paus falls within...the lines of etiquette?  People do rude things all the time.  If it personally doesn't negatively impact you, I think it's better to mind your own business and not stir the pot.  And I consider it equally rude to call someone out for being rude if it's not personally directed at you (which a facebook post, while there for all to see, really doesn't require your attention).
    Posted by freebread03[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yeah thanks, that's why I explained that I made a mistake and should have PM'd the mother, but failed to do so b/c I was responding to someone else's question and did not realize what I was doing. Still, I don't think the husband had a right to talk to me the way he did. I told the mother I wasn't juding her, but was just answering a question. I had the knowldege and wanted to share.</div>
  • edited July 2012
    Thanks for y'alls responses. I realize that I accidentally made a mistake myself by posting her etiquette breach publically. Like I said, that was not my intent because I was only answering someone else's question. I had the knowledge and wanted to share, but I didn't stop and think about what I was doing.

    I should have resisted the urge to respond on FB, this was the first time I said anything to anybody and I caved. Lesson learned.
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    [QUOTE]It's equally rude to point out someone's faux pas. 
    Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

    <div>As frustrating as it is, the above is very true.  You need to stay out of other people's rudeness. </div>

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :( : Because it's not just for dinner parties where we have invited them in advanced. They're getting married in our town, so every time they're in town, they'll drop by our house and then just happen to stick around for dinner. They've even started bringing their laundry. Last time, they invited themselves and their mother over, while they were at the grocery store, and not only did they not bring something, but the mom sneered at my wine selection.  So as I've said, these random visits have gotten so expensive that we'll say it's a pot luck or run out to restaurants just so we're not paying to feed four people every other weekend. 
    Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]

    "Oh, sorry, bad timing. We were just on our way out. Call us before you come into town next time and we'll try to let you know when we're free to get together."

    Also, if I saw someone ask why posting a registry on FB was rude, I would ignore it, 100%. I'd watch and see if anything happened, but NO WAY would I respond.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :( : As frustrating as it is, the above is very true.  You need to stay out of other people's rudeness. 
    Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yes, obviously. That's why I said I made a mistake and shouldn't have posted anything.</div>
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_yall-made-me-get-in-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dca1a9ba-e277-461b-b7ec-129fae75bec9Post:6ad1abbd-9dab-4f3e-bee8-2f663db20890">Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :(</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :( : Actually, I'm pretty sure she was judging him as uneducated because he dropped the dreaded "f-bomb".  Because, you know, only stupid people who didn't complete HS say that word. /sarcasm
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Um, ok, sorry for not posting a longer explanation b/c obviously I didn't include enough information in my OP. It wasn't the F-bombs that necessarily made him look uneducated, but rather what he was actually saying. He claimed I had said certain things that I never said or even implied. He didn't even read what I was posting, he just mouthed-off to me. That's why I said he sounded uneducated, because he didn't READ what I said, he only ASSUMED what I had said.</div>
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_yall-made-me-get-in-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dca1a9ba-e277-461b-b7ec-129fae75bec9Post:d50443e4-76e2-41ee-a835-5f04c41588c9">Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :(</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Y'all made me get in trouble :( : Okay, um, sorry for taking your post at face value and believing what you WROTE rather than what you MEANT when you wrote something else. Seriously, what is up with the epic foot-in-mouth followed by "uh, what I MEANT was blah blah blah.  Duh!" going around TK this week. <strong> If you think cussing shows a lack of education, own that shite.</strong>  If not, don't say it.  It's not brain surgery.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    <div>What I wrote IS what I meant, but you didn't understand, so I added more clarification. It seems like you have made a generalization about what I said. I never said cussing in general makes a person sound uneducated. It was the fact that <strong>every other word was an F-bomb, </strong>which means that what he said made no grammatical sense at all - that, plus all the other junk he threw in there that was the opposite of what I had actually said in my post, is what comes across as uneducated.</div>
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