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i feel like a bummed bride!

IdoIdo2014IdoIdo2014
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in March 2014 Weddings
I know that my wedding is roughly a year and a half away, which to some people means "oh you have plenty of time, dont rush!" However, the reality is though we are on tight budget and it is a huge must for us to seriously plan and purchase as we go along inoreder to make this work.

I'm feeling like i'm the only one who cares at all. Im the only one who seems excited, but now that spark is dwindling out. I know this is Anthony and my wedding and everyone has a life outside of this, but when I asked my moh and bridesmaids to be in the wedding i needed them to participate in the planning and they are aware of this.

My mother passed away in 2006 and my daddy lives three hours away. My fiance works two jobs, i work, so i am pretty much on my own.

It just feels like no one is happy for us or excited which just hurts my feelings. I have even emailed the bridal party asking them if they are still in the wedding because it seems like they are too busy, they all said they are still in.

I dont mean to sound selfish, i guess i just wanted my girlfriends to be there for me once in a while so that things can go smoothly. I want our day to feel special as im sure they all did theirs when they got married.

Sorry to go on, i just needed to vent. I just to feel like planning much anymore because of all of this. My dream day is on the line at this point. Thank you for reading my whiney rant lol
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Re: i feel like a bummed bride!

  • nlp5040nlp5040 member
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    Hi!
    I read your post. It's ok to vent, we all need to do it from time to time. Sometimes I feel the same way because it does seem as if we have "so much time" to plan to other people. In reality, the time will fly and it takes a while to make sure you are making the right decisions for you and your budget. Hopefully everyone comes around for you. If not, keep on planning the way you have been because I am sure it will all turn out great! Good luck to you.
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  • rachelclailrachelclail member
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    I am so in you boat right now. I am finding it hard to wait this long until my wedding also. And my parents arent very excited for me. It really discouraging to feel all alone in the planning and being on a tight budget make all of the matters more stressful. Your vent is very valid. But keeping moving along, take one day at a time and dont give up. This is your day and dont let anyone ruin it or discourage you!!
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  • Bay21Bay21
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    I empathsize completely--my sister and Main Lady (moh) has been nothing but weird about myself and my fiance getting married, my mother just laspses into total silence: it's hard to get excited when nobody else is other than yourself and your fiance. But as these ladies said, don't let other people bring you down. It's your wedding, and it's going to be awesome! I think that once the date gets a weee bit closer I think you'll find everybody starts perking up about it :)
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  • IdoIdo2014IdoIdo2014
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    Oh im so glad to see i am not the only one who feels this way. Seriously, we will all be at that one year mark and that time flies like crazy! Im just atba loss and am going to keep going.
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  • BriLeigh89BriLeigh89 member
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    cheer up! my FI is the same way. Some days when I ask him "do you like this or how about this he seems like he's angry with me but days like today he says oh thats a good idea and I like that so it may just be a man thing lol. my moh is psyched though but so far only she, my grandparents and my parents know other than my sister and close girls at work. I want to shout it from the roof tops but my grandmother said to keep it quiet and my friend who has been engaged 10 yrs and is still waiting to get married is starting to get snooty. she is upset because we set a date and I don't have a ring yet. I am very picky as my fiance and my family know and if I have to wear it forever I want to love it not just wear it. we want to be affordable as possible as we have a little one and are still paying on the house and he bought a new truck when the little one came along so it may be another few months for the ring but I am on cloud nine. don't lose your spark! mostly because its yours and no one elses and if you don't feel it no one else can bring it back. cheer up and take charge! it'll be fantastic! much love and luck!
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  • jwkosekjwkosek member
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    Have any of you found www.apracticalwedding.com?
    I read the book and found it to be a huge stress releiver. They're rather embracing of other peoples' POVs and you might find some folks over there to connect with.
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  • Laurae323Laurae323 member
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    Ok as far as your bridal party you need to chill.  If you read a lot of the posts, most brides don't even finalize their party until 6-8 months out so if your BMs are not very into the planning at this point (which is over a year to go!) I would relax.  
    You might be putting too much presure on them already and they are going to get burned out!  

    Also, I realize that you have a difficult family situation, so kindly remind your BMs of that and ask them for a little extra compassion and excitement but remember- 
    They are not responsible for planning your wedding!!!  
    When you need to vent, come here and let 'er rip.  We are all here for you too!
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