October 2012 Weddings

Aggravated with my sisters...(long)

My sisters are being pains in the asses to begin with...very negative people and I am one that looks to the positive.  Middle sister is my MOH and is complaining about the cost tux rental for her son.  Ummm, I told her he doesn't have to be an usher and I paid for her dress.  I should've just picked someone else.  She just complains about everything...I really just don't want to hear it, I have my own problems (not WR and nothing major).

My oldest sister has been poo-pooing this wedding from the start.  How can you afford it, why are you getting married, etc.  Yea.  Coming from someone who is divorced.  Grrr.  Her most recent rant, and I flipped out on her, was she started getting loud with me about taking my mother to get her dress.  I am, basically, my mother's care-giver.  We moved in with her last year because the doctors 'thought' she had a stroke...she did not, it was another issue, she was having dizzy spells.  The rehab facility said she needed someone at her house with her in case of falling (she's 85)...still because they think she had a stroke.  They didn't figure out what the real problem was until she went to another doctor after she was released.  Well, to make a long story longer, she no longer has the issues they thought she would and I was guilted into moving in.  I don't get along with my mother...never have.

So, sister starts on me about my mother's dress, how she keeps saying she doesn't know what she's going to wear.  Why am I the only one to do this??  I have 2 sisters, one brother and a SIL.  Ummm, a little help here...she's your mother too.  I took her to a department store last week b/c she wanted a new outfit.  They have an evening gown section.  I thought I would pull a few dresses off the rack to see what she likes...nope, she had no interest and only wanted to do what she came in for.  "yeah, that's nice.  Its the wrong size", she says and turns and walks away.  Oh yeah, she's worried about what to wear. Its just something else for her to comaplain about to my sisters.

I can't wait to have this wedding, but most of all...the HM!!!  I need to get away!  

Thank you, if you made it this far.  I just needed to vent...I don't know why, maybe stress, that this past week just kinda set me off.  I mean. I deal with this nonsense everyday.  And I mean, this petty little crap goes on alllllll the time.  I usually just brush it off and go on with my day, but it's starting to get to me.

Ahhhh, thanks for letting me vent!  And sorry if there's any typos...I was typing like a mad woman!  lol

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Re: Aggravated with my sisters...(long)

  • My Mom wanted us to 'look' for her while we shopped for SD this weekend. She is particular, and we were in juniors - so I am not sure what she expected! Parts of this process are definitely more frustrating than others. I think there is a common link of aggravation when dealing with others!
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  • This sounds like a mess and such  unnecessary extra stress that you don't need.  I hope you can find a way to change the subject when they start their unnecessary rants.

    And dealing with an elderly mother who is indecisive with clothing requires the patience of a saint.  Don't try to go crazy finding time you don't have to shop with her.  Maybe tell her that you are really busy but you can shop on XYZ days and if she doesn't find something then she will have to either ask someone else to take her out shopping or find something in her closet.  Don't be afraid to ask for help if you already aren't. 

    Good luck!!
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  • I'm very sorry.  My sisters are also my issue right now.  But I'm right there with you, I just want the wedding to be here & me & FI to go on our honeymoon!
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  • Thanks for listening ladies!

    My mother is a pain in the butt to begin with...nothing to do with being older, she always was and it has amplified as she got older!  lol.

    What makes the entire situation worse is that she is one that feeds off of sympathy and she will complain about everything to anyone for attention.

    I suppose the situation feels so much more stressful than it normally does because its crunch-time to this wedding!!
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  • Good luck with everything NRod, I can only imagine what you must feel like with all the crap going on. I hope your family manages to keep a lid on it at the very least during your wedding and reception. Sending good vibes your way!
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_aggrivated-with-my-sisterslong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:cae55544-9caf-40a6-9073-55ebf90abc0fPost:2f445fbf-8058-4608-9a29-3cda7d7ccfa3">Re: Aggravated with my sisters...(long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Good luck with everything NRod, I can only imagine what you must feel like with all the crap going on. I hope your family manages to keep a lid on it at the very least during your wedding and reception. Sending good vibes your way!
    Posted by Ividian[/QUOTE]

    omg Thank you!  I am praying for a 'no-drama' reception!  LOL!

    -Nancy
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