O ladies, yesterday was a really bad day with my sister. I really just cant stand when I put out an olive branch and the person snatches my branch and uproots my tree.
Background for newbies and those who forgot
Originally, I didnt want bridesmaids at all, Just me, my kids and my Future Husband. That was it. Then my sister says: So you gonna just walk...no processional? I say ok, u , my bestie & my cuz can walk... here is the colors, get dresses. My sister: I think we should all get the same dress... Me: ok whatever... She then proceeds to make the dress buying process hell on wheels, not liking anything and then not having the deposit $ when the time came. It was all centered on her and her comfort.. even tho she was in VA and we are in NJ. Then with 58 days to go, we still had not picked a dress and she drops out because of a fight we got into that had NOTHING to do with the wedding... FFWD to yesterday... 32 days to go...
I woke up yesterday feeling kinda bad that my sister was no longer a part of the wedding and came up with what I thought was a GREAT idea. I'll ask her to do a reading!! Yes, thats fantastic! yup, Im gonna text her right now. I was gonna have two readings, My sons would share one and she and grooms brother, the other. GREAT... right... NOPE
I txt her " Hey ____, I know you said you no longer wanted to be a part of the wedding, but would you do a reading at the ceremony?"
Her: "It would a never came to all that if you had just apologized. You still owe me an apology. But Im not like that. So I'll do it cuz you asked me to"
HOLD UP NOW MISSY!!!! It aint all that serious...
Long story short we get into a huge argument, I told her she should do it if she felt happy to be a part of it, not cuz I asked her to. If she dont want to I KNOW I can find some one that would be HONORED to do it. I dont need negative vibes at my wedding ceremony. Keep dat and eat it... It went on to very ugly statements on both sides and her demanding an apology ...
Let me quickly tell u why she feels I owe her an apology. She's done alot for my kids esp when I was in school, I even bought her a mothers day card last year, thanking her for being my kids second mom. Baby daddy shows up at my house when she was in NJ for a few days, and I start ranting about him just showing up and how I dont show up at him and his wifes house why he gotta do that to me... She tells me he called her, I say "why he call u, u not their mom"... She took that ish and ran with it to be about how much she did for my kids blah blah bla... LADY u still not their mom nor should u be the baby daddy contact.. sorry. u may not like how it sounds but its still true. I explained to her it didnt have anything to do with her, I was mad at him... She dropped out the wedding two days after that... FFWD back to yesterday
I told that chick.. You sought revencge on me for my statement and dropped out my wedding with less than 2 months to go... No one gets revenge and an apology. When u opt for revenge, thats what u get in lue of an apology, so when u do that make sure it makes u feel good cuz thats all u are getting. I didt say anything erroneous so I dont know why I should apologize, I explained myself to you that day and you are so damn self absorbed that you think EVERYTHING is about u. Well, Im not going to devalue the meanings of my apologies by giving them out when they arent warrented. When I tell some1 "Im sorry" they know its the truth because I dont throw that ish around.... Just like "I love you"
After all this, I dont even know if shes doing the reading or not. I decided Im just gonna writer her name on the program and make her figure it out. She can refuse to go up infront of everyone or not... Is there a sibling draft? Id like to trade.