Best and Worst of wedding planning

mybestfriend4eva · January 2012

Okay my wonderful April brides I know we are really closing in fast on our big days and everyone is so active here lately I wanted to get us all talking. So im dying to know what was the best part of planning and the worst part of planning for you all. These could be projects you did, great or problematic vendors, dress shopping, etc. Any little part of this huge process that was GREAT and AWFUL. So lets here them.......

mybestfriend4eva · January 2012

For me the BEST has got to be my DIY projects. Its really hard to pick just one because I have had the time of my life doing these! And I love the thought of having so many items as part of our wedding that I made and that will be truly unique. Even though people make these items every day I know I have the only ones that are like mine. The worst part for me had to be picking a DJ. I met with sooooooo many of them and it just seemed like there wasnt someone in my area who fit what we wanted. However we finally did find an amazing DJ for an even better price but the stress and drama I went through before finding him made this my worst.

kriistinuh · January 2012

The best part was hiring a planner because without her help Idk where I'd be! She introduced us to an amazing caterer and reception space that I would not have found otherwise. She also got me an AMAZING photographer that I probably would have never been able to afford without her help.

The worst part is making a final decision. I am so indecisive that it is very hard for me to stick with any decisions I make. I question everything... the dress, our menu, bridal party attire, music selections. Even FI says that he doesn't understand why I ask him his opinion on anything because I'm just going to end up changing my mind later anyway!

em01092 · January 2012

I'm glad you found someone who works for you after all! and kriisti I know what you mean about being indecisive!

This week really hasn't been bad. Other than one of my BMs lallygagging on getting her dress/possibly removing herself from the WP, and finding out I need 1cent stamps for my invitations (a whopping 40 cents...), this week has been fine.

Renew2 · January 2012

Best: Wedding dress shopping and planning on how to decorate the tent.

Worst: Getting DH on board and off his ass. He seems to think we have all the time in the world.

rardito · January 2012

I think the worst for me has just been vendors replying to my emails. The florist especially was a PITA. And also the dress shop is taking FOREVER...not only did my dress come in late (but finally arrived, now alterations are late, but it's not like I need it yet), we ordered the BM dresses in July and they are still not in! They were supposed to be here by Nov. 30 and I have not heard anything yet. I will probably call them today.

The best is that I like planning things in general. I have liked picking things out. I also liked the DIY things that I've done so far.

rlavach · January 2012

The best part of planning is definitely attire shopping. I LOVE shopping, so looking for my dress, shoes, jewelry, second dress, headpiece and even my mom's dress has been a blast.

The worst part of planning has been dealing with others trying to impose their ideas/views. Way too many backseat drivers.

em01092 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_worst-of-wedding-planning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:814838f0-848a-4f8a-b734-428152bc7432Post:a801a714-ff74-4587-8355-52bed5a47bf5">Re: Best and Worst of wedding planning</a>:
[QUOTE]The best part of planning is definitely attire shopping. I LOVE shopping, so looking for my dress, shoes, jewelry, second dress, headpiece and even my mom's dress has been a blast.<strong> The worst part of planning has been dealing with others trying to impose their ideas/views. Way too many backseat drivers</strong>.
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

<div>Amen! Some people just cannot seem to fathom anything that isn't uber traditional or usual. Like my MOHs mom told me I made it all weird by having 6 BMs and 4 GMs, but I shut her up fast when I said including everyone dear to us was more important than numbers. </div>

bridalgal50 · January 2012

My DD's worst part is probably dealing with ME! LOL

quiggels219 · January 2012

Best part: I love planning and details. I love picking out little things that will make our wedding unique and special. I have also loved having something my whole family is involved in. I have a large immediate family and we are spread out over the us and it has just been so nice to have something everyone is excited about (I'm the youngest of 4 with 7 neices and nephews) The worst: it's sad but fmil has made many aspects stressful and cause fights b/w fi and I - it has calmed down lately but she wanted a lot of control which I wasn't willing to give especially b/c she's not paying for it. She is paying for the church (one of the major issues b/c I'm not catholic) but it's just been bad. She doesn't think children are appropriate at formal events and as I just mentioned I have 7 neices and nephews and my parents are paying so they are coming and guess what they are all involved (crazy i know but i dont care)

rlavach · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_worst-of-wedding-planning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:814838f0-848a-4f8a-b734-428152bc7432Post:a9812a79-0858-41f8-a05a-df2b28c645f6">Re: Best and Worst of wedding planning</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Best and Worst of wedding planning : Amen! Some people just cannot seem to fathom anything that isn't uber traditional or usual. Like my MOHs mom told me I made it all weird by having 6 BMs and 4 GMs, but I shut her up fast when I said including everyone dear to us was more important than numbers.
Posted by em01092[/QUOTE]
Yep, same here. Except it was my FI who flipped when I said I had 2 girls to his 3. Then a friend had a heart attack when she heard my MOH & BM aren't wearing the same dress (diff color, shape, fabric...). <div>
</div><div>That's when I learned to keep my mouth shut. As excited as I am over details, the more I tell, the more unsolicited advice I will receive. So, don't tell anyone! When they ask, I play coy & say I want it to be a surprise. Seems to work so far.</div>

acbp2011 · January 2012

The worst part has been waiting to hear back from vendors! It takes forever for anyone to return emails or phone calls, even if I nag a lot. If the service you're offering is your profession, you should be returning emails/calls within 24 hours. That's part of your JOB. Grrrr!

rlavach · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_worst-of-wedding-planning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:814838f0-848a-4f8a-b734-428152bc7432Post:45d6763c-a35b-4c10-9b97-5e7cc7d357d5">Re: Best and Worst of wedding planning</a>:
[QUOTE]The worst part has been waiting to hear back from vendors! It takes forever for anyone to return emails or phone calls, even if I nag a lot. If the service you're offering is your profession, you should be returning emails/calls within 24 hours. That's part of your JOB. Grrrr! ;)
Posted by acbp2011[/QUOTE]
Hopefully this isn't happening from vendors you've already hired. If not, I'd reconsider hiring them. Availability is part of professionalism. If they aren't professional in that respect, then who knows how they will behave in other aspects.

em01092 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_worst-of-wedding-planning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:814838f0-848a-4f8a-b734-428152bc7432Post:45d6763c-a35b-4c10-9b97-5e7cc7d357d5">Re: Best and Worst of wedding planning</a>:
[QUOTE]The worst part has been waiting to hear back from vendors! It takes forever for anyone to return emails or phone calls, even if I nag a lot. If the service you're offering is your profession, you should be returning emails/calls within 24 hours. That's part of your JOB. Grrrr! ;)
Posted by acbp2011[/QUOTE]

<div>100% agree and understand your frustration!!!</div>

faerylvr27 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_worst-of-wedding-planning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:814838f0-848a-4f8a-b734-428152bc7432Post:a4c1996e-3a99-4058-8f91-5d1006ee2769">Re: Best and Worst of wedding planning</a>:
[QUOTE]Best: Wedding dress shopping and planning on how to decorate the tent. Worst: <strong>Getting DH on board and off his ass. He seems to think we have all the time in the world.</strong>
Posted by Renew2[/QUOTE]

I have the same problem. And when I tell him all the stuff I have to do, he's all, "well why do you have to do that? stop stressing." Um, I kinda can't! LOL

faerylvr27 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_worst-of-wedding-planning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:814838f0-848a-4f8a-b734-428152bc7432Post:29488a6e-55a1-40c6-82e5-5e8adff910d2">Re: Best and Worst of wedding planning</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Best and Worst of wedding planning : Yep, same here. Except it was my FI who flipped when I said I had 2 girls to his 3. Then a friend had a heart attack when she heard my MOH & BM aren't wearing the same dress (diff color, shape, fabric...). That's when I learned to keep my mouth shut. As excited as I am over details, the more I tell, the more unsolicited advice I will receive. <strong>So, don't tell anyone! When they ask, I play coy & say I want it to be a surprise. Seems to work so far.</strong>
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

I need to try this, but I tend to be an over sharer. LOL Things just come out of my mouth and then I regret it later. I need to learn to be more concious of this in the upcoming months.

faerylvr27 · January 2012

The best part for me is when we hired our new photographer. I just love her so much and I can't wait to see all the pictures. And even though planning all the details is extremely frustrating, I really enjoy doing it. I love how everything just comes together. It's also very helpful that my MOH has my back 100% and is extremely helpful.

The worst part is all the stupid fights that have occured b/w FI & I. I swore in the beginning I wouldn't be a bridezilla, but as recently as yesterday I had a meltdown because I want the groomsmen to wear pink vests & ties and FI thinks they should match his colors. I told him he has to match ME, they match the BMs. WE are the stars of the show and we need to stand out. So we compromised that they will wear the pink, but he wants to change his tux style to something that's not exactly my favorite, but he's the one wearing it, and I know he'll look great no matter what. (he likes the pink, but was trying to prove a point so he could pick his own tux style lol) I guess I never realized how much of a control freak I really am until I had to plan a wedding! lol

epona225 · January 2012

The worst part was actually picking the date and location! Trying to accomodate as many people as possible, etc. Of course, we didn't even realize the date we picked ends up being shortly before FI's brother's college final exams, but luckily, FBIL isn't worried about it at all. And of course, FI's cousin helpfully decided to get married the weekend before us (and she got engaged 6 months after us and called to ask when we were getting married) I don't care that she's getting married before us, but it really sucks that most of FI's OOT family are now planning to skip both weddings b/c they can't make it to both, and don't want to pick favorites. FI doesn't even want to send her a card, but I'll make him be nice

Best part has been going through the engaged seminar at our church. We had already talked about most of the important stuff, but it was the first time that we got to really talk about what it means to be married vs. dating, and plan our marriage instead of just the wedding day.

XxMari518xX · January 2012

Best Part --- The last few months my FI has been soo attentive and helpful (he's knocked out more checks than I have recently!) I don't think he truly knows how much that means to me! AND CAKE TASTING!

Worst Part --- Sad but neither my family nor his family has really cared or been helpful. They are super excited for the day of, but I think they are just hoping everything just happens miraculously. I was expecting this to be a bonding moment between my family or his family. Still hurts my feelings =(.

Chrismben0716 · January 2012

Best Part - The best part was when we decided on our photographer. We are on a tight budget so, we decided to try Craigslist to see if we might get lucky, and we did. We scheduled her to do pictures with us and our dog to be sure she was took good pictures and we liked her. She did great and we love her. She is so great about answering emails and I could not be happier with her. She took great engagement pictures...can't wait to work with her the day of.

Worst - Finding a venue to fit our budget. It was such a headache and frustrating to locate some place that we liked. We finally succeeded thank goodness.

kmacisaac · January 2012

The best part has been having really supportive people in my life who are excited about the wedding and all the planning, and whose eyes don't glaze over when I'm rambling on about something wedding related! My mom and my two bridesmaids have been so great.

The worst part has been picking the bridesmaid dress, not because they are picky at all, but just because I have a really crazy work schedule and haven't had time to do it! We're going off the rack and it's still causing me stress. And the wedding is only 3 months away!

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