3 Months to go...

Re: 3 Months to go...

• CowgirlK39 member

  

  June 2012

  *huge hugs*
  
  You sure have a lot on your plate! Remeber though that you are only one person and cannot do everything or make everyone happy. Do what you can for your job, but don't drive yourself crazy. I see that so much at my FT job... some people just go crazy when things are not in place, when really its not their problem if they aren't. Do YOUR work, and if something is looking like its unattainable, do not be afraid to ask for help. That is pretty crappy about the "surplus" letters though.
  
  The house and your son sound like cases of much needed patience. There isn't too much you can do to keep pushing the house (sucks that you can't FORCE people to buy it, lol). As for your son, I wish there was a Can O' Patience that you could buy to help keep your cool. I don't have kids but there are plenty of times I find myself playing mom at the farm, since i usually end up milking cows and watching the farmer's 8 year old daughter. Deep breaths, girl! Everything will fall into place soon!

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• rbwashington2012 member

  

  June 2012

  *hugs and T&P*
  
  I am with cowgirlk39, you are only one person and you can only do so much in a run of a day. I understand big time about your job, those surplus letters are scare to just hear about let alone see one. That was the big scare in my office for two years. Just do what you can, what you can't ask for help.
  
  Yeah wish you can force people to buy your house. Would make selling one a lot easier. And as for your little man, sometimes kids feel the same emotions as their parents. Sounds like little man is not happy because you are not happy. My sister sons are the same way when she is stressed out.  I have no kids of my own either and yes I am with cowgirlk39 been playing mom to a lot of kids including my two nephews. Deep breaths darling and everything will start looking clearing, brighter and falling into place.
  
  3 months to go for me as well and I got the best advice from the other bride who just went thru all this, you going to look back at all the times you went bonkers that at the end of the day, after the cake is cut, the guests have left, you are going to realize the only thing worth going bonkers over, is whether you are going to cry or not after you say I do

  

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• volleygurl0306 member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_3-months-to-go?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:08403c7e-6cff-4d36-ab5f-a48bcfbe917dPost:da3066c5-f675-4709-b015-b2f40f1483b6">3 Months to go...</a>:
  [QUOTE]... and I just wanna cry. I dunno if it's hormone related or it's just the stress of everything going on in my life that's starting to weigh me down, but I just want to curl up in a corner and cry. The house isn't selling... we aren't getting people in and we've even lowered the price. I just don't get it and I'm so worried that we'll have to let the other place go. I can't do the work I want to do on wedding stuff because I have to keep everything packed up while the house is in selling mode. We can't go enjoy the cottage because we have to stay close to home. To top it off we're having a small crisis at work in regards to a vaccine so I'm chasing my tail all day long without any support because so many people have received "surplus" letters meaning they will be terminated over the course of the next year. It's a great environment right now :P My son is testing me every day; we fight so often and it breaks my heart. I swear he's 15 already... Then this am, I get an email from my son's t-ball league asking me to have 3 cakes baked by Monday - WTF??? I had offered to volunteer for their end of year party when we signed up but no one ever contacted me. I get an email today!! Unreal. I just can't do everything for everyone all the time. I just can't. Ok I'll go cry now.... Happy 3 months :P
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  I'm not a 9/15 bride but clicked here hoping to see more excitement from you girls!  So sad to see this.  Going to return to favor of hugs you sent me this morning!  One thing I'd do is give the team as much consideration and planning as they gave you.  Get some Duncan Hines mix and icing and call it a day.  Knowing you you were about to make something from scratch and go all out decorating.  They are kids...cake is cake.  Make it in some round pans with some white frosting.  Get some red icing to make little baseball stitches and call it a day on that one.  Because that was waaay rude of them. 
  
  I don't have kids yet so don't want to sound like I have any idea what I'm talking about but maybe all the changes (selling the house, the wedding, his birthday coming up) are causing your son to act up?  This is really only a guess based on the 3 year old (but she is 3 going on 12 with her vocabulary and attitude) I part-time nanny for.  Her mom is due with baby #2 in a few weeks and she has been more of handful.  Not that time is abundant, but maybe he just needs some one on one time with you?  I know that is something both of you value.  It could just be a phase too.  It is frustrating but you are a wonderful mother so don't take it personal! 
  
  And agree with PP that you are only 1 woman.  Try to focus on doing the best dang job possible and they will need to keep you.  But don't overstretch yourself.  You need your sanity and health long after you need work.  
  
  Maybe this will help you.  I read this James Patterson book a long time ago (in general it is reealllllly sad so don't read until you feel more calm cz it'll devastate you) called Suzannes Diary to Nicholas but there was something I took from it that I really liked and has always stuck with me:
  "Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - Work - Family - Health - Friends - Spirit, and you're keeping all of these in the air.
  
  You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls -- family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered.
  
  They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life."

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• em105

  

  June 2012

  HUGS AND LOVE!

  
  

  Take care of you. 

  
  

  Take a bath, have a nice walk or cup of tea.

  
  

  Go to the playground and just play (with or without your son).

  
  

  You've got a lot going on, make sure you're taking good care of you.

  

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• Jennybenny5785 member

  

  June 2012

  Sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch. *Hugs*  I hope things get better for you soon this is a happy time in our lives and time to celebrate. :-)
  
  I am so excited that we are 3 months out I can't wait till the big day.  The time is flying by and things are falling right into place for us.  I am most of all just looking forward to being back in the states for the first time in 2 years and seeing all of my good friends and family.  I will be home for a month and can't wait to have nothing else to worry about other than the wedding.  I am also looking forward to the HM I am ready for a nice vacation away from everything so we can relax, decompress, and have fun it has been a long stressful year for a lot of us in different ways it sounds like.
  

  

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