TMI QOTD - 1/31

MMRoberts11 · January 2012

Do you consider sex good even if you don't orgasm?

goodine11 · January 2012

I do... It is even better, If I tear up.

DrPB2b13 · January 2012

Usually, but I freely admit that there is the occasional time when that's all I'm in it for.

chelseamb11 · January 2012

Well when I was in relationships in the past, yes. But when it was one of my random college drunk nights, I considered it a waste if I didn't.
But I know it will be good w/ FI and I regardless of the big O

LOTON01 · January 2012

I enjoy it either way. However, I would prefer to have an orgasm. I think most people would.

kelsey+brandon · January 2012

I think it just depends on your mood. Sometimes you're more concerned about your SO feeling good than making yourself feel good, and in those instances, I don't think it really matters. As long as you're connecting with the person, I think it's wonderful.

Skittles612 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I enjoy it either way. However, I would prefer to have an orgasm. I think most people would.
Posted by LOTON01[/QUOTE]

Totally agree.

julianahenao881 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I think it just depends on your mood. Sometimes you're more concerned about your SO feeling good than making yourself feel good, and in those instances, I don't think it really matters. As long as you're connecting with the person, I think it's wonderful.
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

I Agree with Kelsey, as long as there is a connection....

gregamywedding · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_tmi-qotd-131?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:28176a66-f2fb-4063-b75b-9654adedcddaPost:985f6834-6d85-4a8a-b935-3f5557496df9">Re: TMI QOTD - 1/31</a>:
[QUOTE]I enjoy it either way. However, I would prefer to have an orgasm. I think most people would.
Posted by LOTON01[/QUOTE]

I agree.

goodine11 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI QOTD - 1/31 : I Agree with Kelsey, as long as there is a connection....
Posted by julianahenao881[/QUOTE]

Connections make me tear up .LOL. I know TMI

L&J2012 · January 2012

They're nice, but I need to be in a certain mood for it to even be possible (if I'm too warm then there's pretty much no hope). I like making sure FI feels good so most of the time it's about him. Either way, there's a connection and it feels special.

Zimsgirl · January 2012

I actually have a really hard time getting there. I'll admit I got the rabbit vibrator from Sex and the City haha and used it last year when FI was gone and even then I'd have a hard time. I've read some women just can't

KrisKenny · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Usually, but I freely admit that there is the occasional time when that's all I'm in it for.
Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]

This. Sometimes I just want to be selfish.

casey_romaine · January 2012

usually when we get going and I get all hot and bothered, if I don't have one and he does, I end up feeling frustrated and a little irritated. I don't know why, that's just me I guess. I don't have any problem taking care of him orally, though, I don't get frustrated or irritated then, but I also don't get as hot and bothered then, either. Lucky me, though, my FI always tries to make sure I get mine as many times as I want/can handle before he gets his

Can I also say, in the spirit of TMI, that I am actually REALLY excited for our wedding night when he is the first man (I wasn't a virgin when we met {though he wasn't, either}, so this will be BOTH of our firsts) to ever finish inside me. . . We're planning on TTC immediately, and I feel like this will be a really special experience for both of us

tyleet87 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_tmi-qotd-131?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:28176a66-f2fb-4063-b75b-9654adedcddaPost:54368c15-27f5-435b-ad5f-1c67d73786ab">Re: TMI QOTD - 1/31</a>:
[QUOTE]I actually have a really hard time getting there. I'll admit I got the rabbit vibrator from Sex and the City haha and used it last year when FI was gone and even then I'd have a hard time. I've read some women just can't :/
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]

I have a hard time too Zims! And I can never have one during sex. Only foreplay or post-play. :/

sweet_melissa81 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_tmi-qotd-131?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:28176a66-f2fb-4063-b75b-9654adedcddaPost:54368c15-27f5-435b-ad5f-1c67d73786ab">Re: TMI QOTD - 1/31</a>:
[QUOTE]I actually have a really hard time getting there. I'll admit I got the rabbit vibrator from Sex and the City haha and used it last year when FI was gone and even then I'd have a hard time. I've read some women just can't :/
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]

Me too! It's always been really hard for me and I am 30 years old. Some things do help, but generally it's pretty difficult for me.

kimiandgary · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I enjoy it either way. However, I would prefer to have an orgasm. I think most people would.
Posted by LOTON01[/QUOTE]
exactly

SheilaDancer43 · January 2012

I never had an orgasm before FI. Now I have one 99% of the time we have sex (and most times I have multiple ones). He is a very selfless person in bed. He will have sex just to make me feel good and then roll over for bed. I'm like hey, where are you going?! And he replies that he just wanted me to feel good!

There are a few instances where I don't O, and he does, but I don't mind because of all of the times he does it for me. As others said, I mostly just like to feel the connection between us.

Carebear62584 · January 2012

Sex can definitely still be good even if I don't orgasm. I don't recall ever having one until FI. It's rare that I get one from just sex though, I usually need finger stimulation at the same time. I guess that depends on the position though. FI is always good about trying to get me first but sometimes I just tell him it's probably not happening and to just worry about himself. Although I have to say I HATE shower sex and do it just to make FI happy. Our shower is so small so it's uncomfortable and it's a little drier "down there" in the shower.

calisel · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I enjoy it either way. However, I would prefer to have an orgasm. I think most people would.
Posted by LOTON01[/QUOTE]

Totally agree...
My FI has even gotten me to laugh histerically, it was the strangest thing (sorry way TMI)...

kristin183 · January 2012

I enjoy it either way... of course the O part is nice.
But I also enjoy the intimacy of sex with my FI

DrPB2b13 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I actually have a really hard time getting there. I'll admit I got the rabbit vibrator from Sex and the City haha and used it last year when FI was gone and even then I'd have a hard time. I've read some women just can't :/
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]

This is actually very, very common just because "traditional" sex positions aren't necessarily the ideal for hitting the right spots for a woman. Quite often extra stimulation is necessary in one form or another, and the form or area of stimulation entirely individual for every woman.

Definitely something worth experimenting and playing around with ;)

doeie04 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Sex can definitely still be good even if I don't orgasm. I don't recall ever having one until FI. It's rare that I get one from just sex though, I usually need finger stimulation at the same time. I guess that depends on the position though. FI is always good about trying to get me first but sometimes I just tell him it's probably not happening and to just worry about himself. Although I have to say I HATE shower sex and do it just to make FI happy. Our shower is so small so it's uncomfortable and it's a little drier "down there" in the shower.
Posted by Carebear62584[/QUOTE]

This is almost me exactly!

I don't mind if I don't orgasm, as long as he tried. If he is all in it for himself, I get piissed.

I am not a fan of shower sex but do it for him. It is fun, but I don't get much out of it except making him happy.

I need the clit stimulation to finish, some positions do that, others don't and he has to help. :)

We are also going to TTC right away, so when we don't use protection when I am fertile, that will be super special! (We sometimes won't use a condom when I know for sure I am not fertile.)

Zimsgirl · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI QOTD - 1/31 : This is actually very, very common just because "traditional" sex positions aren't necessarily the ideal for hitting the right spots for a woman. Quite often extra stimulation is necessary in one form or another, and the form or area of stimulation entirely individual for every woman. Definitely something worth experimenting and playing around with ;)
Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]
Haha I always feel bad because I feel like it makes FI think he's bad in bed and he's totally not. We've barely been having any sex lately because of my infections and whatnot

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