FI and I had counted at his church how many people we think will fit, but now FI talked to the minister today about it and his number is much smaller then our number. We counted that 220 people will fit, he says 175(we are in MN so I guess we didn't consider that people will probably have winter coats(no coat closet). So now we are stuck on how to split up who to invite to the wedding and who to just invite to the reception. My family live an hour away so I'm not sure if that will make them less likely to come to the actual ceremony or more likely. We both have huge families so at 175 just our family(grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins) won't all fit. Or do we just assume that 20-30% won't come anyone and not worry?
Also we had been invited to a reception a few weeks ago(they had a private ceremony) and they had a cute saying on the invite (we love you all, but the church is too small....ect) is that ok, or should it not address the fact that they are only being invited to the reception? Our reception hall holds 400 so no problem there.